Why is my best friend (we started of as a thing..) taking a step back?

[Anonymous]

Our relationship is pretty fucked up.

I moved to a new city and he was the best friend pf my guy roomate. We became friends and not much later he told me he want us to go out on a date, he told me he wanted something serious with me. I was after a breakup and wasn't really there.. he became one of my best friends but i didn't want to risk it.. in this new city he was one of the closest and most important people i had.
There wasn't a day we haven't talked, if not meeting than facetiming like three times a day. He would always flirt and on parties try to get really close, sometimes try kissing me and i wouldn't let it happen.

But at somepoint we started having sex. And as usual i developed feelings.. and i started looking at him in a way i haven’t before..

I didn't say it but im sure he felt it.. we continued this friends with benefits thing but suddenly no more calls, no more where are you come for a cigarrete no more of anything friendly..

i did enjoyed this little addition but i missed my best friend.
i tried talking to him about it but he just said its final exames and he is under pressure.
but then they finished and still nothing..

i dont want to make a fool of myself so i stopped calling and trying to figure what happened..

so maybe can you explain this to me?

And why is it so painful😢

[Anonymous]

Sorry but he used you for sex. He got bored and is focused on exams. You don't even cross him mind these days!

Sorry he used your friend shop and is betraying you!

Once he knew you got feelings and were attached he lost his want if you.

He is a awful player!

[Asker]

So why were all the convincing conversations of lets get serious i promise nothing will hurt our friendship? I could he shift from this to that?

[Opinion Owner]

Honestly those were lies to get you to be okay at changing. Most guys say that to get out of the friend zone!
Almost no guy can go from friends with benefits to just friends no sex.