MEN: How can you be physically/sexually attracted to and woman and enjoy her company, yet not want a relationship with her?

[Anonymous]

Isn’t a girlfriend basically friendship + sex?

[MrOracle]

You can think of it as the difference between babysitting your friend's baby while she goes to the movies vs. having your own baby. The difference in responsibility is absolutely massive, and that responsibility affects every part of your life every single day.

Women don't understand or appreciate how high the cost is of a relationship, because women largely benefit from relationships while men largely take on more responsibilities and risks. Certainly if marriage or children become involved, the court system is heavily stacked against men.

Also, unlike most women, most men can separate sex from love/romantic feelings, and we can enjoy sex as just sex. Most women can't have sex without becoming attached to the guy, so it's hard for them to grasp that men can have sex with women (if they aren't already in love with her) without getting attached - even if they're banging 20 times a week for months.

Lots of men - and ESPECIALLY the most attractive men, who have lots of options with women - are NOT looking for relationships at all and only get with women for casual sex. If you're a woman looking for a relationship, the only sensible choice is to avoid these men completely - regardless of how outwardly attractive they are. If you are looking for a relationship, then you must seek a partner from the pool of men who are themselves already looking for a relationship, because it's not possible to change a "casual sex man" in to a "relationship man" - you have to find a guy who is ALREADY what you need him to be.

[Anonymous]

There’s a lot of reasons. If she’s a girlfriend that means you have to dedicate boyfriend energy to her. You have to listen to all her problems, call her, text her. Get her flowers. Open doors for her. Possibly pay for everything. Chances are she’s going to be mad at you if you hang out w your female friends. Yes she still may get upset even if you’re just w her for sex, but she can’t complain about it really as you two aren’t a couple. She’s going to want to do this, she’s going to want to do that. She’s going to want you to take her to girly events, go shopping, go to brunch. All the things women do that men really don’t do. She’s going to expect you to plan dates, birthdays, anniversaries, etc.

[Finchie40]

Sadly because a lot of guys’ don’t want relationships these days from all the horror stories they hear about relationships failing and females’ cheating and being selfish. So a lot of guys’ do not want to deal with the boundaries that a commitment entails with being in a relationship. Me personally has had my heart shit on by girls’ a lot of times to the point I no longer jump into a relationship with a girl , I prefer FWB’s with her first , so her and I have time to really get to know each other before making the big commitment

[Anonymous]

There's a difference between the women yiu f*ck and marry. She might be fun to be with and great in bed but in the long term you consider her past, can she be loyal, what kind of partner would she be, what kind of mother would she be.

I used to be friends with benefits with this girl, she wasn't fat but was kind of thick, the kind of girl you know will put on a lot of weight as the years go on because of her lifestyle choices and body type. I didn't want to be with a fat or obese woman. A few years later and she's let herself go, completely chucked out like her mother.

[ManInChains]

Probably because if a man is in a relationship with her she’s prone to cheating and breaking his heart but if he just remains physically/sexually attracted and not in a committed relationship he doesn’t have to worry about her hoeing herself out to other men like majority of women out there in the United States do

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

A guy could enjoy the company and sexual desire for a girl, yet don't want a relationship if:

• He's already committed
• He's mourning his previous girlfriend
• He's still considering his previous girlfriend
• He's depressed/in distress
• He's on friend with benefits only mode
• He's afraid of failure/treachery
• He's going to jail soon
• He's religious

[OlderAndWiser]

For many guys, girlfriend = sex + friendship + loss of freedom.

[kmg9150]

It human psychology. Its has to do with instincts and over biological makeups that are more present in the DNA of a man. Look it up. Consider this, how can a woman want a relationship with a guy thats not physically attractive?

[Asker]

Because I don’t find him physically attractive? In this scenario, the man is physically attracted to the woman, but for whatever reason doesn’t want a relationship.

[kmg9150]

Sorry I must have misread the question earlier. I would need more details in order to provide a better opinion to the situation. When you say doesn't want a relationship, does this mean girlfriend/boyfriend, Or fuck body? Whats the Proof that he's attracted? Guys can see a picture of boobs only and get be attracted to them, we can watch a another guy pipe a girl down and be attracted to that, when I say attracted, I mean aroused, turned on, feel sexual desire towards whatever it is. If we were to want a relationship with everything we felt an attraction to then there would be so mannnnnnnyyy, no guy would be able to marry. On the opposite side that means that physical attraction towards others doesn't mean we would be ending relationships constantly.

[DextroShade]

She has red flags that make her unworthy of commitment, such as:

• Promiscuous past or history of sex work, including OnlyFans
• Still talks to her exes
• Single mom
• Tattoos/piercings/danger hair
• Obesity
• Leftist/feminist beliefs
• Has posted slutty pictures of herself on social media
• Too masculine or focused on her career
• Hangs out with women have the attributes listed above

[ProbablyClueless]

It's really easy. A relationship requires a greater degree of time/effort investment than I am able to give her. Usually there is some personal issue going on that I try to be very upfront and honest about.

[FunkyMonkee]

Maybe she's just not the kind of woman I wanna spend the rest of my life with. I can be FRIENDS with just about ANYONE! That doesn't mean I wanna marry `em or even fuck `em!

[Asker]

Can you provide examples?

[FunkyMonkee]

Maybe she's not pretty, maybe she's too fat or smelly, maybe she's got the wrong political ideals or is very religious or hates the music I love or loves the music I hate. Maybe she's too short or has kids and I'm just not ready to be an instant daddy, maybe she can't or won't get pregnant or has some kind of physical malady that I'm just not interested in dealing with. I mean, if we're together for a long time and THEN she gets one, that's a completely different ballgame and I'll deal with her condition when it pops up. But, I've already had SHIITLOADS of adversity dumped onto my life and I'd LIKE to have a NORMAL life for a change for at least a decade or two!!

[HawkPerception]

That's called wanting a friends with benefits. A girlfriend is friendship + sex, but also committment and loyalty.

[sawno]

For me thats not a thing either, if we have sex and your compatible with me on a close friend level i'd probably want a relationship.

[spartan55]

How do you know he is physically and sexually attracted to you?

[DrPepper12]

I don't know. Sounds pretty fucking weird tbh.

[Hanrej]

No. friends with benefits is friendship + sex.

Girlfriend is commitment, responsibility, adjustment, costs, hard work, disputes, drama and never being alone to rest.

[LiamJHayden]

Some guys do not want relationships under any conditions.

[Juxtapose]

Because he has lost trust in relationships and does not trust that you will not backstab him.

[Anonymous]

For a man, a relationship with a woman is friendship + sex...+ risks, + drama, + $, + loss of freedom.

Does that answer your question?

[Asker]

It does. I appreciate how straightforward this was.

[Opinion Owner]

Happy to help. Hope you have a great week.

[Yannae]

I just remember that she isn't relationship material.

[RedInnocent69]

Want is different than act. One can value friendship but also respect other existing relationships, their friends’ and their own.

[msc545]

Easy. You can enjoy the sex and conversation, but not enjoy the inherent risks of a relationship.

[OtterMan68]

some men don't want to get married or get tied down.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you ask this question a couple more times.

[exitseven]

I don't know. That's how it worked for me.

[jahaims]

No romantic connection

[Asker]

What is the difference between a romantic connection vs a platonic connection (+ physical/sexual attraction)

[jahaims]

Look up what the words mean if you are confused. I'm not defining terms for you.

[Asker]

…… Okay. I was just asking.

[beefcakebradybatson]

We just want to club her !!!

[MasterKS]

Its called friends with benefits! Just fuck!

[Asker]

But why don’t you want a relationship with her?

[MasterKS]

@asker if you get sex easily why want that relationship shit?