Why is it that men always sexualise everything a woman talks about or does?

[chocolatetwopointo]

[MrOracle]

Let's pretend you've gone without food for a week. Really think about how slowly those days rolled past you as you could barely ignore the desperate pangs of hunger in your stomach, as you still had to do all of the things you have to do on any normal day. By Day 4, you are already going mad with hunger, and by Day 5, you're convinced that if someone's pet cat walked by, you would be perfectly willing to kill it, skin it, and cook it over a campfire just to have something to eat. Finally, it's been 7 full days. You're to the point where you can't tell if you still have an inner monologue or whether you're talking to yourself out loud.

Now, I take you to a crowded restaurant, and you see tables full of people eating delicious food - food you can smell from the lobby - but you are told that the restaurant is booked up for 4 more hours, and you can't be served until you can be seated, and you also can't leave the restaurant or you'll lose your place in line (and it's the only restaurant for 1000 miles).

Do you imagine you would be frustrated, having to sit in that restaurant, as you are literally starving, and watch and smell other people's food go by, while you go hungry, waiting 4 more hours before you can eat? Do you think you just might be a little rude, and maybe bend, if not break, a few social rules? I suspect that you would.

This is the state that most men today are in: having gone without sex or sexual female attention for months or years. Yes, sex is always on their mind just the same way that food and eating would be on your mind in my scenario, and for the same reason: they've gone without for FAR longer than humans were ever supposed to, and it's made them half-crazy - and yet, society tells them that they need to suck it up and "behave" and just deal with it. Some men will manage to do that, but many just can't do it.

There's nothing that most women want, crave, NEED, in the way that men need and crave sex. I had to create a pretty extreme hypothetical scenario in order to get you close to what guys go through when they aren't able to have sex, because that's just not something you normally experience in your day-to-day life; you can't really relate.

Note that I'm not blaming you, or asking you to do anything about it - I'm just trying to put you in the mind of a man - a man with a crazy hunger that's made him half-mad, and he's doing his best to hold it together, but he's not able to keep it together all the time, because the need and craving is constantly gnawing in his brain, and his thoughts keep switching back there no matter how many times he tries to think of other things.

If you woke up as a man tomorrow, with testosterone coursing through your veins, I assure you, you'd be joining right in sexualizing the women before you knew it, because that's what your body would be telling you to do, and believe me, it takes a good while to learn how to tame that beast and keep it in check - something that not all men ever really accomplish.

[chocolatetwopointo]

bro what.. r u literally defending rapists and guys who sexualise and humiliate women? if i was a man i would think a woman is pretty but i wouldn't act on it or say anything, women also crave sex sometimes but u dont see them acting like men everywhere

[MrOracle]

Please quote where I did any such thing. You can't, because I didn't.

There's a massive canyon between men who see women in a sexual way (i. e., all men) and the 1% who are rapists. If you can't grasp the difference, then you probably shouldn't be on the internet unsupervised.

[chocolatetwopointo]

ok so men r horny af 24/7 got it, doesn't mean they can sexualise and talk about girls sexually. or was ur whole novel ab men being horny 24/7? u could’ve js said that if that was the case

[RavVid]

Fashion, beauty products and beauty services industry combined are 4 trillion dollars world wide n 2024. That is more than the GDP of the fourth largest country (the UK).

I think women are mostly focused on sex and sexualise themselves most of the time. Even when they are loudly proclaiming they don't dress for men they are sexualising in the inverse.

A gal pal said to me 'adult life is mostly about sex'. That surprised me, because I spend a large part of my life thinking about building bridges. Building bridges being a euphemism for controlling the physical world.

Due to the female reproductive role, it is fairly natural that women have evolved to sexualise themselves most of the time. But don't blame men for your sexualising of yourself.

[chocolatetwopointo]

im not sexualising myself, im talking about grown men laughing and sexualising girls for eating a banana for example

[RavVid]

Eating a banana or hot dog has certainly been portrayed sexually but in real life a girl eating is just a girl eating and doesn't look at all sexual.

Have you ever been at a sporting event and everybody turned to watch a girl eating a hot dog instead of the game?

[chocolatetwopointo]

no but there's gonna me men joking that it looks like a dick, at least 1 man 100%

[RavVid]

Well perhaps. 1 man in a crowd. Everybody liked the add of Paris Hilton eating the hamburger because that was deliberately done & filmed in a sexual way. If I made a joke like that I'd expect other men to look at me as a loser. Not because they are offended but because it is pathetic which it is.

It has never occurred to me and I have never heard another man make such a comment

[chocolatetwopointo]

i said at least 1 by the way, im talking ab the women trying to have a normal day without being sexualised. Ah ofc js cuz u haven't heard it, doesn't mean it doesn't happen

[RavVid]

There are a whole lot of things that don't happen that I can't prove don't happen.

If you made your complaint about men looking at women sexually than I would have to agree. I do it all the time.

[chocolatetwopointo]

well i didn't, and ur disgusting

[Anonymous]

Cause they never get any so Thier minds always go there. Never try talking with a weeb.

[Billlewis]

Because we're frustrated as hell, and we know we're probably not going to get any for quite a while;)

[chocolatetwopointo]

why does frustration have to end sexual

[Billlewis]

I don't understand your question; please explain further. Thanks

[chocolatetwopointo]

why does being frustration have to make you horny and sexual

[Billlewis]

Because not getting any drives many guys crazy, even more so than usual.

[chocolatetwopointo]

wonder why that is.. lmao. why is it any different for women?

[Billlewis]

Because nature intended for men to be frustrated most of the time, and for women to be well equipped to administer that frustration. Seriously.

[chocolatetwopointo]

ok so according to u, women are sex toys for women and thats their only use?

[Billlewis]

@chocolatetwopointo No, not at all. I don't know how you could come to that conclusion.

[chocolatetwopointo]

you literally js said that💀 explain what u mean then

[genericname85]

why do women fail to have very basic empathy and ask quesitons that demonstrate this blatant lack of empathy? aren't women supposed to be empathic by nature to nurture children?

[chocolatetwopointo]

explain pls

[genericname85]

have you ever been horny as fuck in your life? or do you not know that feeling at all to begin with?

[chocolatetwopointo]

i have i js dont do anything ab it

[genericname85]

well then you understand what it's like to see sexy ideas in stuff that isn't inherently sexual. no? cause that's what happens when you're super horny.

[chocolatetwopointo]

so why are men that horny 24/7? and why do they have to take it out on random women all the fucking time for doing smth normal?

[genericname85]

well because male bodies do not have a cycle that makes them only fertile in a small window of the month. they're fertile all year around 24/7 so their bodies are built to be horny 24/7. you can actually try out how that feels by increasing your bodies testosterone levels by 15 times as much as you currently have. i don't advise it from a medical standpoint but then you'd come closer to know.

but it doesn't even matter. you already know how it feels. you just don't have it 24/7. so you already understand.

[chocolatetwopointo]

give me ur source, and when women are horny like that they dont take it out on men, they dont sexualise them as much, rape them or anything like that, that mostly men do. bc women control themselves and so can u but u chose not to

[genericname85]

they absolutely do but men don't complain. they take the sex they're offered and shut up. that's what happens. do you also need sources for the fact that the sky is blue and the gras is green? jeez.

[chocolatetwopointo]

can't even give me a source smh.. that doesn't explain why men rape and sexualise everything a woman does

[genericname85]

oh you're one of those crazy feminazy aren't you? one of these fucked up people who call all men rapists?

if you don't know about male an female reproductive systems, go back to elementary school. i'm not here to provide basic education to you.

[chocolatetwopointo]

then show me if its true lmao💀 when did i say all men r rapists? im saying most rapists are men bc men can't control themselves

[genericname85]

still super weird for someone who's not a raging misandrist to mention men who consider women to be sexual beings in the same sentence with rapists.

again. take a human biology 101 class. i'm not your little bitch to google shit for you. the biological differences between men and women are basic education. litterally everyone knows this. what do you want me to show you? a elementary school text book? not gonna happen. i don't even think you're that uneducated. i think you know i'm right. you just don't like how i'm saying it.

[chocolatetwopointo]

omfg ok so men having more testosterone equals accepting men harassing and sexualising women? does that sound good?

[genericname85]

testosterone makes you horny. that's not cutting edge science that only few people know. as i said. this is basic biology. maybe not elementary school but definitely middle school level. so you should have had that education. i am definitely not gonna start googling the sources of basic common knowledge for you. you're free to do that on your own time.

and don't dare trying to gas light me. your question was "Why is it that men always sexualise everything a woman talks about or does". you just added the word "harrassing" just now. we were not talking about that. you're not gonna act as if i made an argument for that.

[chocolatetwopointo]

omfg having testosterone doesn't mean u can do whatever the fuck u want to anyone? harassing means basically everything from catcalling to raping somebody

[genericname85]

i know what "harrassing" means. your question was about sexualising female actions that may not be inherently sexual. you didn't ask about harrassment and rape. stop that bullshit right now. we're not talking about criminal behavior as if that was a "normal" thing men would casually do.

[chocolatetwopointo]

ok wtv u say, now answer my other answer

[genericname85]

men are more likely to harass or rape than women relatively speaking for the same reaon. but that's rare fringe cases not "normal male behavior" and not the topic we were talking about. don't shift the narrative mid conversation. that was not the topic.

[genericname85]

and saying "men just don't have themself under controll" is pretty damn misandristic.

[chocolatetwopointo]

okay so why are u saying that having more testosterone means u can do wtv u want with any woman withour any concequences

[chocolatetwopointo]

history has proved multiple times that they can't so dont start with that bs💀

[genericname85]

please copy the exact sentence where i said that and paste it.

[chocolatetwopointo]

u meant it tho and u never denied it

[genericname85]

i don't mean things i'm not saying. fuck you for trying to gaslight me despite me warning you not to do it. fucking misandrist asshole. gonna block your ass. unbelievable.

[Anonymous]

Because they are heterosexual and horny. It's one of the effects of the chemical testosterone, which is produced in high quantities in men.

[chocolatetwopointo]

so having more testosterone makes it acceptable to harass and sexualise women?

[Opinion Owner]

You didn't ask if it was acceptable. You asked why they do it.

[chocolatetwopointo]

yh and nobodys doing anything ab it and normalizing it

[Opinion Owner]

You can't normalize something that's already normal. It's been normal since humanity began. You also can't do much about biology. Well, except evolve. But that's a very slow process that takes several thousand years.

This is not a cultural issue. You may as well be upset that people raise their voice when they're angry. That's just how it works.

[chocolatetwopointo]

okay so we should js let these men comment on us, humiliate us js bc THEY’RE horny?

[Jennz6]

You must like women 💃🥰

[chocolatetwopointo]

what makes u think im a lesbian from me asking why men sexualise women?

[Friendlybro79]

We all don't do that.

[chocolatetwopointo]

pls tell me where i said all, id love to know

[Friendlybro79]

Why is it that men "always". The word always implies we always do it.

[Friendlybro79]

I meant we don't

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah bc its always a fucking man💀

[Friendlybro79]

Ok. Well then ask your questions better. Why do some men always have to sexualize what a woman says or does?

Wasn't trying to irritate you. I answered your question the way it read. Young men also don't always act mature around young women. As everyone in the room gets older you'll notice it happens a lot less.

[chocolatetwopointo]

if u get offended when a woman says ”men” u need actual help. yet old men r usually the ones catcalling women💀

[Friendlybro79]

I'm not offended at all. You asked a question then asked for me to explain, and you've been sarcastic the entire time. I don't get offended very easily but if you're looking for specific answers you have to ask better questions. You have a very negative view of men and it doesn't seem like it is going to change because you've made your mind up. So why even bother asking questions you are closed off to debating? Good luck to ya!

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah bet, id love to leave but i still haven't got an answer to my og question, maybe if SOME (realise i said S O M E to not offend you) men would stop being so creepy i wouldn't hate men, y'all dug yalls own graves💀

[Friendlybro79]

You're seriously acting quite terribly and I'm actually amused by your ridiculousness. I did answer your question. You've come here to prove your point and no matter what anyone says you're going to say we're creepy and dug our own graves lol.

Read this out loud if you must. The answer is some men are immature. It's that simple. Why aren't you able to figure that out? I think you just like being mean to men. Hey whatever makes you feel better about yourself I get. Listen, I'd love continue to debate your immature outlook, but I have a fun day I'm about to start. All joking aside I hope you have a productive day than being here all day arguing pointlessly. Have a good day. I gotta go

[chocolatetwopointo]

u never answered why men have to sexualise everything💀 ok so most men are immature, and why is that?

[Friendlybro79]

I will answer this one last question because I have things to do. I know you know the answers to your questions. I feel like you're forcing me to mansplain to you which I really feel is condescending. You never asked why they're immature you asked why they sexualize everything women do and say. Immaturity is the answer.

If you're asking why are men immature that's a different question. To answer that it's because maturity for many, but not all men, comes with time, age, and wisdom. As we age we start to think more about what kind of impact our words have on others. Some men I'm sorry to say won't ever grow up but I do believe most do. Technically our brains aren't fully developed until mid to late 20s. I'm sure it's really frustrating for you but you used the word hate before and I'm unsure if you were being literal because I don't know you. That said, if you have hate in your heart this young, barring nothing horrific has happened to you, and if so, even more the reason to get therapy. If you want to meet a good man you can't go into it automatically assuming the majority of men behave this way. At your age it's just part of growing up for guys and if you need someone to apologize I will. Sorry. I wasn't immature like this and I know there's guys in your age bracket that aren't either. The fact you have to understand this so deeply is part of the problem. There's nothing deep to think. It's immaturity that's because young men on avg are more immature than once you get in your late 20s and up. That's just on avg. There's always some that are way mature and less mature for their age.

[Friendlybro79]

It's not an excuse for bad behavior it's just a why. They're immaturity is age related and brain being not fully developed. Women aren't always mature either. When I found myself around immature women my age I don't give them my time and I focus on being a better me to attract the kind of person I'm looking for. I don't worry about why everyone else is so whatever. Ok that's it for me. I hope this is helpful and I don't won't to be rude but I won't be answering any further. If you do I say this without sarcasm, ask a therapist.

[Friendlybro79]

And to be really fair. Men that behave poorly should be in therapy too. I don't think it's just women's fault for the way men behave. I think therapy should be a normal thing for most people.

[Friendlybro79]

*I don't believe it's women's fault at all for why men behave badly or immaturely.

[chocolatetwopointo]

see it wasn't that hard was it?

[jahaims]

If that's all a guy does by you he only wants sex

[chocolatetwopointo]

doesn't most men js want sex tho?

[jahaims]

I wouldn't say most. It's just seems that way because the guys who only want sex are forward about it and are more likely to approach a female.

[andy530]

Sex is the lens through which men see the world

[Anonymous]

Testosterone.

[chocolatetwopointo]

why do they have to say or show it tho?

[Opinion Owner]

They don't. in my opinion it's the same thing as women using their periods to justify their bad behavior.

[chocolatetwopointo]

you’ll see more men sexualise women than you’ll see women acting bad and blaming it on their period, trust