What do you guys think his intentions are?

[Anonymous]

This guy who I am cool with (we’re just friends) nothing has ever happened between us. We have been co workers for about a year now. He puts out little bread crumbs from time to time by flirting to show that he likes me but I don’t entertain it. He’s some what of a ladies man so despite the fact that he’s a nice guy and nice looking I keep my feelings out if it and choose to keep being just friends/sisterly with him and not take our relationship beyond that. Most recently while on lunch at work he was scrolling on facebook on his phone and he just kept randomly showing me sex/freaky post. One post said “No man can f*** three times in one night.” I laughed at them but in the back of my mind I kept wondering why he was showing the post to me. Then after showing me one or two of them he began to over explain himself by saying “I’m not trying to be weird or anything. I just figured since we’re cool that it’s okay. I know you’re probably thinking I’m trying to tell you something but I’m not.” Which was odd because why would he have to explain that if he knew his intentions?

[Anonymous]

Honestly that may just be the truth. Every girl seems to think a man is flirting w her cause he talks to her more or laughs w her more or hangs out w her more at work or something. That used to be normal back in the day. Now you have to watch e writing you do or say because you might end up in the principal’s office. My first thought was he was just being friendly. I say that because I have a couple female friend here who are easy to get along w. Incan tell them jokes that may not be appropriate but they laugh. Hell sometimes they’re worse than me. But I know we have a working relationship like that that I don’t have to worry about nothing turning into something. So he may legitimately telling you the truth. You can’t joke w women these days. A lot of people used to assume something was going on between this girl and I because we always hung out, laughed together, bought each others a soda or something. We helped each other as far as doing each others work. It was just a good work relationship. She’s cool. Nothing more than that.

[Asker]

Okay I get what you’re saying. It could be no hidden message and that he’s just comfortable sharing things with me as if I was one of his guy friends which is cool. I don’t think every guy is flirting with me I only assume a guy is flirting with me if it’s clear and evident. The reason I question it is because like I said although we are just friends on the surface and nothing has ever occurred between us he still does and says things that lets me know he wouldn’t mind if we took it further than just a friendship. He has introduced me as “his sweetheart” to a few people I don’t know at work but he knows them. He has called me “His baby” he’ll say things like “Stop flirting with my girl.” When another guy coworker comes up and talks to me and jokes and says he’s just playing but something tells me he’s not. He gets very protective of me as well. He often mentions our age difference and says it doesn’t matter because he’s mature and just like with him showing me those post I laugh all of those things off because like I said he’s a ladies man. I don’t want to ruin the friendship we already have by getting into something deeper with him. Although I can’t deny that I blush a little when he flirts but as I said I rather keep the boundaries we have. Also the girls at the job love him and he loves that they love him so I would rather avoid that but it was a bit more to it than just him showing me those post.

[Opinion Owner]

He could be joking a lot. I know I’ve done that w a girl who I’m close to as far as friends. Especially if I know the dude is trash. If you’re cute chances are he wouldn’t mind sleeping w you. A lot of men will sleep w their female friends, especially the cute ones.

[Asker]

That’s what I mean lol. I’m not saying he’s head over heels in love with me. I’m saying he was hinting to something with showing me those post. I don’t think it was innocent. His idea of a friendship with me is not the same as my idea of a friendship with him. Like you said, despite that we are just friends he more than likely still wants to still sleep with me but that’s just something I couldn’t do without feeling awkward around him after. I feel like it would just ruin the bond we have because we’ll be crossing a boundary that we shouldn’t be.

[Opinion Owner]

I mean honestly most friends that women have as far as men would sleep w them. I understand what you mean though. Just don’t cross that line.

[Asker]

That’s true. I mean only reason we’re even friends is because of me lol. When he first started he tried to get with me but I dodged his attempts so hard I should have won something for how persistent I was with not giving in lol. It’s like I gave him no choice but to be just friends but he is still a guy so whatever chance he gets he still tries.

[Opinion Owner]

I hate to say it but like I said a lot of men would sleep w their friends, especially the cute ones. Women often tell men to be honest. Why can’t we be honest. Because if you really knew how a lot of men thought women wouldn’t want to deal w men.

[OfDeath]

That’s the bloke version of the friend zone. He’s treating you like one of his bros.