Men, how do women flirt with you?

[Amy10223]

Do you become uneasy when they do? Uncomfortable? I know some men are shy about this.

[OneViewpoint]

OK, not all quiet guys are shy. I'm anything but shy. I seldom engage with women who try to flirt with me for a very different reason. And I'm shocked that it's the last thing women ever seem to think of.

Yes, I notice all of your attempts to flirt with me. No, I'm not clueless either. I'm ignoring you. I'm probably not engaging because I'm just relaxing, chilling out, and I don't want to put forth the effort to come up with witty banter for you. I'm just enjoying the people watching and having something to eat and drink at the end of a long week.

I'm a bit of an introvert. I'd rather be alone with my thoughts than trying to fake interest in mind numbing small talk with a stranger. When ya from? What do ya do? Come here often? How long have ya lived here? What's your favorite place on a Friday night? Me: Points pretend gun at my head and pulls trigger.

So here's a list of things women try with me all the time. Scoff all you want. Any of this could be part of a typical night out alone for me.

>The classic locking eyes and look away. 5,6,7 times.

> OK that didn't work. She or her whole group migrate down the bar or across the room to stand beside where I'm sitting or behind me.

> OK that didn't work. Suddenly I'm bumped. Accidentally. I don't respond. The bumping escalates until I turn around. Apologies ensue. " No problem" I turn back around.

> OK, that didn't work. One of them squeezes in next to me to order a drink. Once, twice, three times when there are open spots at the bar where it would be far easier to get a drink. Eventually she gets up the nerve to make a comment. I give her a one sentence response and a smile. Polite. Friendly. But I don't extend the conversation.

> A nice looking blonde maybe 50, comes in wearing a low cut black knit dress, walks the length of the bar to squeeze in next to me and order a drink. I just make room but don't say anything. She comes back for another and drags her tits across my shoulder. Hmmm, no bra. Third time she drags her chest across my shoulder and just parks herself there leaning into me. Almost face to face and she starts talking to me. That's what I call trapped, LOL. She stayed like that for 5 minutes.

> Another group. They are standing maybe 10 feet away directly in my line of sight. One of them comes over and says, "you're gonna come join our group". I reply, "not really my thing". She says, "OK, I'll leave you alone for now but I'm coming back and you're gonna come join us."

> Another group. Probably late 20's. I'm at an upscale wine bar minding my business and they're at a table. One of them comes over, stands to my right, puts both hands on her chest and begins massaging herself over her top. She didn't say a word. Just stared at me. It was weird. People were witnessing this. Felt like I was in a zoo. I just laughed. Wrong response. She walked away in failure and 10 min later her group came over and berated me for not jumping all over her. Women be weird.

> Stand alone woman... what's that, pointing at my tie tack. It's the Scottish Thistle, I'm Clan MacDonald. Oh wow, what's it mean. National flower of Scotland. And so on.

> Stand alone woman... You're left handed. Left handed people are intelligent. Umm, you may be mistaken in my case. I finish paying my bill and put on my jacket to leave. She jumps off her seat, runs around her group of friends to stand in front of me so I can't leave and says, "I guess the one you were looking for didn't show up tonight". I replied, I wasn't really looking for anyone. I'm not in the market to date or a relationship right now.

> Stand alone woman... walks in and passes up 5 seats to walk around to me where there are 3 seats. She chooses the one right next to me. Gets her drink and immediately says happy Friday and lifts her glass to toast me. Then starts chatting.

> Stand alone woman... A super cute petite blonde in hot pants and a low cut top travels the length of the room to take the seat right next next to me even though there are plenty of seats available. I was swirling a red wine in the glass and she opens by asking me about the wine and noted how it was clinging to the glass after I stopping swirling it. If I stopped talking she would start back in with questions.

> Stand alone woman... She takes the seat next to me. A few min go by and she reaches over and runs her hand slowly from my shoulder to my wrist. "Is that cashmere"? Yup. "I love cashmere". She places her hand on my chest now. And just leaves it there while she continues talking. LOL, if a guy did that to a woman...

Well you get the idea. This goes on all the time. My friends think it's hilarious.

[Amy10223]

That’s a lot of work on your part.

[OneViewpoint]

Don't get me wrong. It's flattering. And I'm not always a rock wall. It depends on the woman and my mood. In general I've found most women more tedious than interesting. SO I keep the wall up.
But if someone interesting comes along, I can flip the switch and go straight into flirty, playful, smiling guy. One of my friends tells women "don't get discouraged, it can take 2 years to get to know him, LOL". And he's right. It's usually a slow deliberate process of getting to know someone with me.

[bowenw]

It's often sitting/standing fairly close with some playful touching, like on the hands, back, or shoulder. It can also be saying suggestive things. It doesn't make me uncomfortable unless it's done by someone that is not appealing.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[NathanDavis]

I guess it depends on their personality or their mood

some have been quite subtle about it, others... rather bold, then you have the many in between

what I know is that the vast majority of them are actually, just flirting, meaning... being playful in the moment and just having some back and forth because either they felt like it, the situation was right for it... or they were a bit interested/intrigued...

some of them, are actually into it and definitely started to hit on me... lol

couple of them, actually got me into a relationship, lmao

[HungTexan]

Standing or sitting close to me, talking softly so others can’t hear, brushing her breasts against me, touching my hand or forearm. Maybe putting her hand on my thigh. She might joke seductively, and smile in a sexy way.

I love it, and contrary to being uncomfortable, I am really at ease except for the possible sexual tension.

[Anonymous]

The problem with female flirting is they are usually too subtle to know when they are actually flirting. Half of women complain that men don't pick up on it when the flirt, and the other half complain they can't be nice to men withing them thinking they are flirting. The irony is that they are often the same women.

It's a problem created by women because they don't know ho to be straight forward and they expect men to read their minds.

[Amy10223]

Well, to be honest, I don’t know how to flirt. I mean, I’ve seen it done by other women but I’ve not done anything like what is normal flirting, because I’m too shy. However I am mistaken for flirting when I try to help a male. Yes, some of us are mistakenly thought of trying to flirt when we’re just being nice.

[mstbooblover]

Well, to know how I would feel about women flirting with me, this first has to happen to me... Mind I'm looking forward to this ;0)

[AviatorTom]

I enjoy a playful flirt from a woman. I often playfully flirt back. Nothing serious though, I'm married.

[Anonymous]

I don't know, they don't flirt with me, and I'm not skilled in reading "signals".

[Amy10223]

Sometimes they can be very overt, obvious.

[Opinion Owner]

I know, but I still don't get them.

[Bricealan]

@amy10223 When I was 35, a work associate put her hand down my pants! Does that count as flirting?

[Amy10223]

OMG. That counts as sexual misconduct at the workplace! Bet you were were surprised.

[Bricealan]

@amy10223 Well, we were at the Lake Side Restaurant, out in the parking lot. so not at work. I was surprised, but did not want to start a sexual relationship at work, as it had always backfired in my face every time I did that at my job at Firestone.

[Anonymous]

It's usually impossible for a man to tell when a woman is flirting with him.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope i like when women flirt with me sometimes I flirt back

[CheeseMonster]

I don't know. I don't think any have.

[nicfire171]

They don’t.

[krin_m]

I like it!