Am I overreacting after my partner ignored my advances?

[Anonymous]

So yesterday I sent my partner some pics as usual to get him interested for night. Just to make him excited. Lately he has been way off due to work pressure. I sent him the pics he ignored me. I told him I sent him some pics he changed the subject. I felt hurt because I put a lot effort and I wanted to make him feel better. He hasn't approached me this way in months. I have tried to give hints, have been clear as well. He changed the subject made some jokes and started telling me stories about his family and when he was a kid. I listened for about 30 mins, but I was so hurt and fuming. I couldn't interact as usual. Usually I listen and comment and genuinely enjoy his stories. But not after ignoring me. So I told him I was hurt. He got so maaad. I know he was sharing something personal. I shared something personal too. He said he didn't notice that I sent him the photos. What? He is calling me crazy for getting hurt. What went wrong? Was I wrong? He made me feel like I only wanted sex and nothing else. He knows so well I am always by his side ready to listen aways. So what he said was so unfair.

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To those saying why you are sending pics. He is my partner of 13 years now. I just wanted to make things interesting as always. Yikes!

[SueShe]

When people start to drift away, it is time to have a serious conversation and not of the romantic kind.

His behavior would be indicative that he has perhaps someone else that he is seeing and he is not in a talking mood because he is under pressure by you and he has to be careful not to reveal anything that could lead you to be suspicious.

He could of course also have some issues at work or with his family that leads him to be more distant and cold. That happens often that people are unable to express themselves properly and act distant when having issues.

[Asker]

He does have some issues at work. I understand. We talk about it all the time. We work together and I do all the work to take off some of the pressure of the toxic environment. But the way he reacted was strange. I always listen to him. He says he doesn't care about always, only about yesterday when I told him I can't interact because I am hurt. He says I hurt him with intention and he didn't mean to hurt me with intention.

[SueShe]

Some people have a hard time accepting facts or the truth.

Prepare a list of issues you see in your relationship and next to each issue, write down a solution that you think is acceptable to both. Ask your boyfriend to do a similar list that is independent from yours and also to bring a solution he thinks is acceptable for both. Next, you sit together and go over both lists and try to find a consensus. Good luck.

[trumpetplayerforlife]

You are a right to feel upset and I'd tell him you need to sit down and talk about the lack of sex in your relationship and how it'd affecting you it's not good to keep it bottled up

[ProbablyClueless]

I don't think you're over reacting at all. You put yourself out there in an attempt to connect with him and he blew you off. That kind of thing hurts. And then he expected you to listen while he unloaded his own need without taking care of your's.

It's tough to want to be emotionally receptive to someone who doesn't make you feel like you are appreciated.

[Staximus]

Something is bad in his life, whether it be family or work or both. He's obviously going through some bullshit right now.

[Nikki1989]

If you have to send pics, you are already doomed. Have some self-respect.

[Asker]

Ummm he is my partner of 13 years

[EmmaMary]

Sounds like yet another doomed to fail LDR! smh

[BarryLiverstone]

How do you feel like you have overreacted? You were both upset right