Why has this guy suddenly started being so mean to me lately?

[Anonymous]

Like he will have his moments he used to be very nice to me I don't know what happened

[Anonymous]

Please elaborate more. There’s more to it than he just started being mean. I’m not saying you deserve it but have you been a lot more annoying lately, bothering him, texting him too much, trying to keep track or everything he does, where he goes, who he’s w?

[Asker]

Nooo where not even like that we just coworkers

[Asker]

He told his friend tho recently that I don’t talk to
Him anymore

[Opinion Owner]

And is what he’s saying true?

[Asker]

I mean yea I haven’t really shown interest in talking to him he tried so many times effort to reach out to me

[Asker]

And lately he just been very mean sometimes

[Asker]

I’ve spoke a few times before

[Opinion Owner]

Ok so next time you need to explain it more rather than saying this man has just been mean to me lately. Women tend to do that. They don’t tell the whole story. Again I’m not saying you deserve it but there was more to it than him just being mean. As far as showing interest is that just cause you were never interested or cause it was a turn off that he was trying too much to reach out to you?

[Asker]

I don't know what’s his problem but lately he really been getting on my last nerves verbally he used to be super nice and careful what he said now he don’t really speak to me nicely, few weeks ago he told his friend that I don’t speak to him anyways I tried to make it work but his clearly not showing the effort so why wouldn’t I? Doesn’t make sense so now

[Opinion Owner]

Because you rejected him. He feels rejected so now he’s coming back at you in a childish way. Probably trying to even act like he didn’t like you in that way. But yes it’s rejection.

[Asker]

His a unavailable man in first place what was I supposed to show him interest

[Asker]

He did come back asking if we are friends I said no after that he been mean

[Asker]

But it’s bc he was mean that day I said no

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah it’s all rejection. Even if he is t a shove sounds like he still wants to flirt w you. You just didn’t take to it the way he wanted to so he felt rejected. Then you also rejected his friendship for what sounds like a good reason. So even though it’s not your fault, in his mind it is. Plus if you’re talking to other men he feels even more rejected. A lot of men will be taken but still act this way even though they have no right to.

[Asker]

His married

[Asker]

But yea he showed me a lot of attention before and even tried to be my friend

[HollyK21]

Last time I talked to you about this, you didn’t want to approach him and ask. So if you won’t get an answer from the source then I’m not sure what you expect from a bunch of strangers.

[bowenw]

It may be he has gone past the phase of trying to impress you and is now showing his true self.

[Asker]

His mentioned to his friend that i don’t speak to him
No more

[bowenw]

If he won't explain why he is being so mean and won't speak to you, I suggest you move on.

[Asker]

He said I don’t speak to him no more

[Asker]

After that his been acting mean

[bowenw]

Did you really stop speaking to him, or is he lying?

[Asker]

I mean yea compare to before

[bowenw]

Since he started being mean to you?

[Nikki1989]

His real self came out. The charade doesn't last long with many men.

[slatyb]

How would we know? Ask him, or avoid him.

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Maybe he's into you

[Asker]

What’s that gotta do with being into me?

[Danny_dan92]

Ask him why

[Asker]

No thank you

[Danny_dan92]

Ok, then let him go and forget about it