Dreaded 3 month hump?!?

[Anonymous]

My relationship is great so far...we hang out almost every weekend (semi-LDR), talk for at least an hour nearly every night on the phone, and generally seem to be falling more in love with each passing day! Next Tuesday is the official 3 month hump though, and I'm wondering if I'm worrying over nothing? What's got me is a decline in little things...we don't swap cute texts/e-mails so much anymore, she was alright (but not terrifically excited) about the special 3-month anniversary date I've planned, and generally seems less giddy when we talk about relationship stuff in general. Also, when I made a joke about making it through the 3-month hump, she just giggled nervously, said we'd see about it next week, and quickly shifted the subject. She's still the first to say I love you when we do talk/e-mail, and we've made, and still talk about, plans that are months, even a year, in the future.

It's been a long time since I was in a serious and healthy relationship, and honestly I had never even heard of the 3-month hump until my most recent ex, so my question is this...are these normal changes that occur around this time in any enduring relationship? Is she maybe nervous about the hump thing too? Any insight would be greatly appreciated!

[TheDigitalSaint]

Focus on what works and how you can do more of it, and more effectively. If there's been a shortage of the cute texts, find a way to send some more. Write her an awesome hand-writen letter and enclose something sweet like a little mini-chocolate.

Be creative in your thinking and you'll keep the fire of emotion alive.

Girls are suckers for guys that continue to chase them after they've been "won". Where most guys fail is in the thinking that somehow girls should be satisfied after awhile. Buddy, I'm here to tell you that girls never completely get over the need to be needed. Ace this test and you'll have her for the long run.

Oh, and relax. :)

[Linsey]

Wow...im glad one guy knows this lol...

[TheDigitalSaint]

Even the most emotionally secure girl is at least a little bit needy. Girls just want to be loved! :)

[philosophersdilemma]

Yeah, you're definitely worrying too much about it.

I've heard it all: 3 month hump, 2.5 year hump, 7 year itch, 10 year drama... It's all pretty much a lie. I'm pretty sure that certain people about there had bad relationship issues during these times, and decided to make it a trend and normalize it (and forge a frequency to it) in order to make themselves feel better. Somehow, word gets around, haha.

If you really love her, don't worry about all these superstitions. They're as accurate as black cats are bad luck.