Everybody feels pain. Sometimes we know how to deal with it, sometimes we don't. I categorize pain in two categories : Emotional and Physical. Sometimes this pain can take a toll on our body and mind. Especially on the latter, thus the growing mental illnesses in this generation. I am pretty sure more than half of the teenagers have at least thought of suicide at least once in their lives. Thus, we have a NEED to learn how to manage our pain.
First of all, there is only one thing that can 'Heal' the pain, TIME. We always underestimate this factor, Just like our body heals the physical pain, our mind heals the emotional pain too. We have to give ourselves time to recover.
But what till then ? How do I deal with this pain right now ?
Coming to that, let's first talk about the things that you SHOULDN'T do,
1. Don't Blame
Don't blame on anyone, because blaming will only induce anger, and when you cannot take out that anger on anyone, that will make you more sad. So as you can see, this is infact the opposite of what we want.
2. Don't take it out on others
Some people like to take out their anger on others, often the one who are not responsible for it. This spoils the relationship, and will cause more upheavel in your life. Don't be a jerk, don't do it.
3. Don't cry
Crying relieves pain, no doubt. But crying is a sign of a weakling. There, I said it. Crying is for weak ass cowards who don't know how to deal with their problems. I know it's natural, and I am not saying don't do it. But people would literally cry over a dead kitten they don't even know and call it emotional expression. It's lame, and it's weak. I am not telling you not to cry, but at least try not to.
4. Don't cut
Cutting actually works, unlike what people think. It's really really effective. The problem is, it's very dangerous, one wrong slit and you can be in ER. Also, it's cowardly, don't do it. There is a better alternative, trust me.
5. Don't do drugs/alcohol
This migth give you temporary relief , but it might throw you into a pit you might never be able to recover from. This will make you miserable.
6. Don't Store It
Most people do this, and this is one of the most dangerous things to do. Don't store your pain and anger. It will screw up your brain real bad, and this is the reason why people end up with full medicine cabinets at 30.
So what do I do ?
Okay, You might have heard of,
Energy cannot be created nor be destroyed. It can only be converted from one form to another.
Well, with pain, it's somewhat similar. A very very effective way, is to convert the emotional pain into physical pain. THIS WORKS ! And this is the reason most people cut themselves. I am NOT telling you to cut yourself, there are better ways in which this can be accomplished,
1. Go for a Run
Time yourself, don't walk, don't jog. RUN ! Start slow, do 1 mile for a week, then 2 miles for next two weeks, then 3 miles for next 3 weeks, and so on. Exhaust yourself, let your legs burn with lactic acid. Let your legs feel the pain you are feeling in your mind. Trust me, there is no better feeling than passing out of exhaustion on wet grass.
When you are running, remember, you are not running away from the problem, you are running away from the pain. This will keep you motivated. Let your sorrow motivate you to run more, to hurt your legs more.
2. Workout
If you go to the gym, well and good. But I believe the best time to workout is at night just before you sleep. Remember to have at least 3 hour gap between your dinner and workout. Work yourself out till your body aches, and you are so tired that the moment you lay on the bed, you should just fall asleep. The reason why night time is best is because, people who face it would know, depression hits the hardest at night. This would be a nice distraction. Just remember to murder yourself every night with that workout.
3. Have an Ego
If someone tells you that's bad, show them the finger. Having an ego is okay, rubbing it in others' faces is douchebaggery. Don't do that. Take a stab at everything, Challenge yourself. Don't back off if someone challenges you. People would be forever ready to walk all over you with long pointed heels, if given the chance. Don't let them do that. Do what you wanna do. BE BADASS MAN !!!
4. Love yourself
At the end of the day, before going to sleep, say it out out that you love yourself.. Ya , say it out loud , "I love me" , It's not weird at all. Tell yourself, that you are being hard on yourself now just because you can only get a diamond with pressure. Loving yourself is a start, it will help you love others again, also the people because of which you are in pain. Forgivance can't be too back behind right ?
Many people might feel what I am suggesting is insane. My ways are too harsh for people who already are having harsh lives, well, maybe they are.
True, you only live once, but you die everyday. You choose how you wanna die. This works for me, hopefully it does for you too. Thanks for reading.
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"1. Don't Blame"
-Yes, not blaming is a good option but sometimes anger is a good emotion-management system.
2. "But crying is a sign of a weakling."
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No really... dafuq is it with you and retarded advice as of late?
The rest are self-explanatory.
Crying makes you feel miserable. When youbare depressed you don't wanna feel miserable.
Crying is just a quick way to relieve stress. Sometimes it even helps to come up with imaginary situations and cry about them to let it all out. If you feel miserable from crying then you're approaching the whole thing wrong.
I might as well go ahead and say that feeling depressed if weak. What you gonna say to that?
Feeling depressed is weak AF , that's why we are trying to overcome it.
What do you do when you have acidity? Eat more acidic food? Nope. Crying is way to express negative emotions, and if it becomes a regular thing, you'd feel more depressed.
Maybe you will, others (if not most people) won't feel worse from crying. Jesus man...
What do you think of when you cry? Surely not buttercakes and mashmellows. You think about the thing that makes you cry.
And its a better solution to just not think about it than think about it over and over and release H2O from your eyes.
Actually you have to think about it to get over it. If you don't think about it, it will just pop up later.
Lol wtf u saying?
Of course you'll think about it, the point here is , not to let it make you sad anymore.
I'm not saying to overthink it. I'm saying you just have to acknowledge it's there.
good job. sad take though...
anw, there is a bit of contradiction between the crying part and storing things in.
people should cry and not be ashamed of it. surely on reasonable stuff.
and yea I do 1,2,3...
sports are a life savior I swear
You don't love yourself? Oh ya , that's what I am for.
So/so lol xD
Really good take... except for the crying part. Depression stings when you don't expect it, holding that shit in makes you tense and anxious. Gotta let it out.
No, you should try to hold them in and try to release the pain by the methods I mentioned.