What It's Like To Have Generalized Anxiety Disorder

[MissMc3]

Nobody Can Ever Really Understand What You're Going Through

It almost feels like every time you talk to someone a little voice in the back of your mind is yelling "please help me, I'm so alone, I'm losing my mind!". But you can't exactly explain it to anybody, because you feel like they won't believe you or that they'll think you're weak. It's like you keep trying to reach out but every time you do, reality reaches out and punches you in the face to shut you up. It's agony.

The Feeling Doesn't Come and Go

The best way to describe it is that feeling when you almost fall backwards in a chair when tilting to far, or just barely trip down the stairs. But it isn't sudden. It's constant. You are constantly tipping back in your chair, and the front legs of it are never touching the ground.

Sleep is Hell

Sleep becomes a difficult task. Insomnia becomes accepted as normal to you, because it becomes routine. And when the disorder progresses, bed time become a painful countdown to panic. You start to really feel your heart palpitations, bad thoughts run through your head constantly, and you feel panic rise in your throat for no particular reason. When you can't control these feelings you start to bawl. You start crying your heart out. A common feeling is that you could die in your sleep, so you stay awake crying for as long as you can until your mind can't handle any more and you pass out from exhaustion.

Alcohol Becomes An Easy Way Out

A common misperception is that sad/stressed/anxious/depressed people drinking on their own, but that isn't always the case. Sometimes the solution to your feelings is to cling to people and drink with them. Attempting to free your mind and be happy and have a good time. You start to do this too often, and it begins to make you feel emptier.

Consistant Loneliness

Whether you are alone or in a crowd you constantly feel stuck inside your own head. You feel suffocated by yourself. And with your anxiety comes anger, often an anger at people who don't understand you (see above), which makes you close people off and you start feeling like you have no friends. It is a consistent cycle, and you can't stop it.

You Can't Concentrate On Anything, But You Need To Be Doing Something

You find it incredibly difficult to concentrate on simple things, like reading or the movie you're watching. You also feel very aggitated by doing nothing, so you continuously keep switching tasks back and forth, trying to find something to do with yourself, but you get bored of them, stressed out by them, or simply uncapable of keeping focus on the task.

The World Seems To Be Tearing Apart

It feels like everything in your life is pointless and falling apart; like everything you do is worthless and insufficient. You constantly play the words "what's the point?"

My point in this is for anyone who feels this way to know, you are not alone. And for everyone to watch for signs of a person who could be feeling this way, they need you, don't let them down.

Here is a link for anyone who needs someone to talk to, https://stinto.net/y8t4b

[Spiorad_Aisce]

Great take - Unfortunately I understand and know many of those points very well - While you said sometimes it is impossible to explain you made a great effort to do so - Every article like this helps spread awareness of mental health issues and for people still at the undiagnosed stage it is good for them to hear other peoples' stories then they can say "That is what it is like for me, I should research it, ring a helpline, see a doctor" - It was 20 years before I went to a doctor and I found it a great help, not saying there will be a miracle cure but it can start you on the path to dealing with your mental health issues - Learning to cope with it is by far the most important thing, everybody's road is different and usually what you end up doing is a mish mash of all the things you learn about - I don't advocate any approach except extensive research from which you can try things, keep the ones that work for you.
For anyone suffering, I wish you peace of mind
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[kaylaS91]

Nice take! Though I don't have GAD, I've been a pretty anxious person for as long as I can remember so I can certainly relate to a lot of the points.

My developmental psychopathology class had student presentations yesterday and someone actually presented on GAD in children. They showed this video about 'taming the worry dragons' and I thought it was pretty accurate, not to mention adorable. :P

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kEVzlnJcfXU

[the_rake]

I like this take and very much want to write a similar take to this, it is about distinguishing between anxiety, social awkwardness and introversion - three commonly confused aspects. The reason it is related and why I identify with your take is because people do not always feel comfortable talking about their anxieties - there could be many reasons for this, e. g. pragmatic - if you feel that there is danger or some consequence to opening up because the world will judge and maybe even penalise you for something that is not necessarily even your fault. the other one is psychosomatic, when you feel that opening up about something will cause great emotional pain because you have to face something about yourself, or something that you have experienced that you find unpleasant and unbearable to deal with. because people do not understand your reasons for opening up, they will see you either as a cold, unfriendly and hostile person, or that they will see you as someone that is unnecessarily shy and cowardly (which is perceived as effeminate, unbecoming behaviours for a man). the worst case scenario is that they will perceive you as someone that has something to hide and in this they may be correct but the people that really have something to hide do not feel bad about it and they are happy to lie and conceal the truth of their pasts. but some people are very ignorant and do not want to take time to understand the intricacies of the things that could be going through a sufferers head.

[Darkfairie17]

This!!! I totally agree with you! It's so hard to open up when you have anxiety. I'm pretty sure I have an undiagnosed anxiety disorder because this is exactly how I feel! I don't feel comfortable opening up because I feel people will judge me. It's surprising how uncaring and cold people can be towards those with a mental illness.

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@Darkfairie17

Thanks!

@Darkfairie17 @MissMc3

It took me some time but I finally got around to completing the take about anxiety, awkwardness and introversion. I think you guys would be interested.

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a27876-how-people-misunderstand-anxiety-introversion-awkwardness-concepts

[Darkfairie17]

Thanks! :) i'll have to check it out!

[BaileyisDarcy]

Talking helps so much. Problem is, you never feel like you can.

You tell the counsellor things only that apply to anything they brought up because you want your problems to stay hidden, even while looking fir help.

You might have the bestest friends ever but of course they wouldn't understand. They won't know. They won't care.

Parents will just try to shove pills down your throat or simply tell you to get over it, walk it off.

Teachers are only paid to care and co-workers only care for as long as they are on the clock. And even then they probably dont even pretend to care.

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Funny thing is, none of this is true. It feels like it is, but it isn't.

If i could get past my inability to ask for help, my counsellor would have a much easier time actually helping me.

If i hadn't taken so long to realise that my friend knows exactly how i feel and is more than willing to lend me her shoulder, i would be a lot better off than i am now.

My parents still dont get it, but its not that they dont care. Its that theyre both ignorant and blind. And i won't be the one tomake them see. I gave up on that a while ago.

Some teachers do care. They care a whole lot. If you have one you trust, go to them. Im just working out how great it is to have an adult in your system who legitimately cares for you.
I dont work so i can't say much about the coworkers one. But it most likely isn't true. Just need to put in the effort.

[Anonymous]

This explains how my daughter feels on a daily basis. She has had anxiety for as long as I can remember. I noticed it when she was very young.. because I too have suffered from panic attacks. I recognized it when she would have problems sleeping... she'd start complaining about being afraid. I knew right away. Even as a toddler she'd cling to me at social events. She disliked being around lots of people, even very young.
It started to worsen around age 10. She manages by keeping herself busy. When she's not busy, it's a problem. At times... it puts her into a depression. The sad thing is... she is confused as to why she feels this way. Medication has helped a bit but the side effects are not worth it. It's a complex disorder that tends to have a genetic connection. We have several people in our family that have some form or diagnosis of Anxiety. OCD included as it is an Anxiety disorder. It's manageable! I suffer from mild anxiety but I work through it. Mostly through self-motivation. Talk about it. Educate yourself. There's no shame in this..

[Anonymous]

Never date a woman on medican
Out of all the antidepressants I’ve personally seen women take, Lexapro has been the most common. It is used to treat general anxiety and depression. The pill itself is small and rather unassuming in appearance: one side is marked with the letters “FL,” while the other contains the dosage information in milligrams.
I don’t know what “FL” means, but if I had to guess, I would say it most likely stands for “Fucked-up Life,” because that’s exactly the kind of life every woman taking Lexapro has. (In all seriousness, “FL stands for Forest Laboratories—the makers of Lexapro)
3. Prozac (Fluoxetine)
prozac
Another very popular choice among the batshit crazy ho-bags of America is Prozac. It is used to treat a myriad of afflictions ranging from depression and obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), to bulimia and anorexia. The pills are very easy to spot: they are green and white with “Prozac” prominently displayed along with the corresponding milligram dosage (typically 20mg).
4. Xanax (Alprazolam)
xanax
If a drug features the letter “X” multiple times, then you know it’s some pretty potent shit. Xanax is a sedative that is used to treat panic attacks and other anxiety related issues. Washing down “Zannies” with a nice tall glass of cheap pinot grigio is one of the modern American woman’s favorite pastimes, so keep your eyes peeled for the signature “Xanax bar” while conducting your snooping missions.
In most cases, the pills are white with “Xanax” displayed on one side, and the dosage on the other. They are very distinctive and easy to identify.

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5. Paxil (Paroxetine)
Paxil is another very common SSRI that is used to treat depression, anxiety, and OCD. The pills themselves are very easy to recognize: they are color coded by their milligram content, thus making it easy to judge just how crazy the bitch is at a glance, which is convenient. “Paxil” is also clearly marked on the tablet.
6. Zoloft (Sertraline)
A fan favorite amongst the mentally ill crowd, Zoloft is designed to treat OCD, PTSD, and every man’s favorite—Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD). For the unfamiliar, PMDD is PMS on steroids. If you’ve ever dated a woman who turns into an insufferable asshole when she’s on her period, then just wait until you come across one with this PMDD nonsense. Per WebMD, here’s the list of things you get to look forward to when you encounter such a woman:

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Mood swings
Depressed mood or feelings of hopelessness
Marked anger, increased interpersonal conflicts
Tension and anxiety
Irritability
Decreased interest in usual activities
Difficulty concentrating
Fatigue
Change in appetite
Feeling out of control or overwhelmed
Sleep problems
Physical problems, such as bloating, breast tenderness, swelling, headaches, joint or muscle pain.
Being a cunt
That’s sounds like lot of bullshit to put up with just for some pussy, doesn’t it? I thought so, too. So whenever you see that little sky blue, light green, or off-white colored pill with “Zoloft” displayed on it—run.

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These pill popping broads are not to be taken seriously in any way, shape, or form—they’re losers. And what do losers do? They fucking lose, and they’ll bring your ass along for the ride if you let them. Just because these women get their drugs from a pharmacist, and not some low-life drug dealer working a street corner, doesn’t mean their issues have legitimacy.
Doctors write out bullshit antidepressant scripts to whiny women every single day, so don’t get suckered in by a woman’s sob stories about her “mental issues” or her oh-so difficult life. Women create their own problems due to their inherent impetuous nature, their severely lacking logical reasoning skills, their inability to understand cause and effect, and their refusal to accept responsibility for their actions—they bring this shit on themselves. They are not to be pitied, they are to be avoided.

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Granted, avoiding these basket cases can be difficult since the sex is usually phenomenal—nothing fucks better than crazy, after all. But women have the bad habit of turning their problems into your problems, and if you’re with a woman who looks to drugs whenever the going gets tough, then it will only be a matter of time before you’re saddled with a shit-ton of somebody else’s problems. That’s no way to live. Just remember that your future well-being is more important than busting a good nut, and pull the rip cord at the first sign of trouble.
In Closing

[MissMc3]

Women are so crazy because of men. In a world built up by men, everything is falling apart and women fall into medicine.
I hope your naive, disrespecting, self absorbed, loserish ass finds a nice warm spot in hell.

[notbrxthing]

you are a fucking asshole. really. can't put it any better than that. you have your head so far up your ass you don't even know what is going on around you. I'm on lexapro and xanax. why? not because I'm crazy, but because I'm sick. I'm sick like any other goddamn person in this world. so take your close minded "opinions" somewhere else.

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@notbrxthing Girls with mental disorders, no matter how minor, are defective creatures. While they might be good in the sack, their craziness will render any attempt to form a lasting relationship with them futile. Here is why I shun girls who have any form of mental illness.
1. They’re whiny
This applies mainly to girls with “anxiety.” Like anorexia, anxiety is almost exclusively a white girl problem: mysteriously, girls in poorer countries such as Thailand or the Philippines almost never suffer from this ailment. Girls typically cope with anxiety by popping Prozac, the heroin of the middle class, and they’re abusing antidepressants at such a high rate that they’re poisoning the water supplies of major cities.
A girl who needs the crutch of prescription drugs so she can get out of bed in the morning will be nothing but trouble for you. If she needs therapist visits just to deal with her comfortable office job, she won’t be able to handle having children

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@notbrxthing cleaning up the house, or performing any of her womanly duties.

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2. They’re slutty
It should go without saying that girls who sleep around are cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs, but in case you need scientific evidence, females with higher numbers of sexual partners are more likely to have anxiety, depression, or other mental disorders. Girls who hop into bed with any stiff prick are compensating for serious mental deficiencies, and if you expect them to stay faithful to you, you’ve got another thing coming.
narcissist
3. They’re self-absorbed
Virtually all girls are full of themselves to a certain degree, but modern technology and our you-go-grrl culture of artificially inflating girls’ self-esteem has pushed female narcissism into the stratosphere. A girl who can’t go 24 hours without posting selfies on Instagram is basically saying, “I’m so empty inside that I need constant affirmation to keep from overdosing on Klonopin.” “Confident” girls are incapable of seeing men as human beings, only as tools in their never-ending quest for validation.

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To those who think that religion or conservative values can redeem a narcissistic girl, think again. My last long-term American girlfriend was a devout Christian from a flyover state, but she was just as hooked on social media attention whoring as the coastal degenerates.
Her Twitter and Instagram accounts were a nonstop barrage of pouty selfies and polite humblebrags, each Like from her male orbiters inflating her ego like a water balloon. I also later found out that she’d been hiding a second “boyfriend” (in quotes because they didn’t have sex) from me.

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4. They’re gross
If you’ve ever thought about slumming it with a fat girl because you think they’re nicer than thin ones, think again: fatties are more likely to be mentally ill. And regardless of her weight, mentally disturbed girls are smellier than their well-adjusted counterparts.
One of the symptoms of depression is a lack of interest in cleanliness, meaning that girls who are down in the dumps will have messy bedrooms, grimy skin, and loins that reek of the halibut apocalypse.
Mental illness is so pervasive among girls these days that female typists are writing articles justifying it. For example, the Telegraph’s Daisy Buchanan recently wrote that “[w]omen reserve the right to be smelly,” because taking a daily shower is just too much effort. That’s how sick these girls are: they can spend all day on their iPhones playing Candy Crush, but they can’t take five minutes to wash their filthy asses.

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5. They’re manipulative and violent
But these are all child’s play compared to the primary reason you should avoid mentally ill girls: they will drive you insane. At one end of the scale, anxious and depressed girls will make you miserable by submerging you in their manufactured emotional torment. On the other, you can actually end up in jail due to the manipulations of girls with borderline personality disorder or similar problems. Trying to fix borderlines is a fruitless enterprise; they deserve only pity and scorn.
For example, when I was in college, I dated a borderline who constantly started fights with me because she felt I was “neglecting” her. Her modus operandi was to make mountains out of molehills, haranguing me for not putting the dishes away in the “right” order or wanting to spend time with my friends. i didn't know this at the time, but she was trying to provoke me into hitting or slapping her, because getting me angry was the easiest way to get the attention she wante

[notbrxthing]

LOL you have to be joking. first of all, I'm not fat. I'm 5'4" and 110 pounds. I work out daily and I eat healthy. second of all, i don't make people around me miserable. I work with children quite often, and I'm a very uppity with them. you can say it's a white problem all you want, that's fine. I've been seriously ill before, I have a very weak immune system, and I've gone through some very traumatic things in my life. I've been physically and sexually abused. I've been ostracized by my peers before. I have anxiety and depression not because I'm a white girl. I have anxiety because I'm afraid I'm going to become sick again. I never want to see another hospital ever again. I have depression because I've gone through traumatic events in my life. I can't even believe I'm replying to your nonesense. you sound like an immature, uneducated man, and for that I'm sorry.

[notbrxthing]

no wonder you're anonymous. you're completely ignorant and it's a good thing you're hiding your identity. I wouldn't want anyone to know who I am if I were that brainless either.

[notbrxthing]

someone delete this idiots account people this stupid shouldn't be allowed on the Internet.

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@notbrxthing moment:
A new generation of women would have to be brought up in order to see an improvement, but who would be the mothers and role models for this new crop of females? Who would we entrust to raise respectable young girls who would grow into traditional women with good values? The same degenerate losers we have at our disposal right now? The same women we deliberately avoid impregnating in the first place?
They would be the ones to pull it all together and steer the ship back on course? I don’t fucking think so. The foundations and infrastructures between the sexes are far too fractured and fragmented for things to ever be what they once were—never mind being improved upon or strengthened. This is a war that isn’t even close to being over, and we’re losing.
It’s not going to get better, it’s just that simple—this is it. Women are not going to magically become friendly, feminine, chaste and well-mannered just because that’s what men want them to be.

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@notbrxthing Mental illnesses are not going to miraculously disappear with a pill or therapy. The carnage from all of the drugs, alcohol, and promiscuity is a permanent fixture on the American dating landscape—it’s not a bug, it’s a feature. This is not some passing storm that one can just ride out and there are no clear blue skies just beyond the horizon. And I wouldn’t count on this forecast changing anytime during our lifetimes, either, if I were you.
Additionally, we have to accept that women are fine with this—they like the storm. They have their beta male raincoats and their government sponsored umbrellas: they’re drier than a Jewish girl’s pussy when she’s surrounded by men who don’t make good money. They’re high, they’re dry, and they don’t have anything to worry about. And why would they?
No matter how bad life gets for a woman, no matter how much of a fuck-up she becomes and no matter how much destruction she leaves in her wake—some dickhead will be there ready and willing

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s be be there to apply tourniquets to the most hemorrhaging areas of their lives. And the worst part is: they’ll never appreciate or be grateful for any of it.
That’s not easy to accept, especially since men have no such luxury: it’s either make it or break it, sink or swim. No matter which direction you turn, the guns of failure are aimed directly at your temple, and, in many cases, it’s women with their dirty little fingers comfortably nestled on the triggers, patiently waiting for the opportune moment to squeeze.
The modern woman is not going to take care of you. She’s not going to pick you up when you fall and she’s not going to be there for you when you fail. A supportive, decent woman is something your grandfathers and, perhaps, your fathers got to enjoy. But for you? Nope, you’re on your own, buddy. It’s on you, as a man, to step it up and get to where you want to be.
Women aren’t taught to appreciate your efforts and sacrifices. Your success as a man will always be reduced t

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Women aren’t taught to appreciate your efforts and sacrifices. Your success as a man will always be reduced to “privilege,” luck, or some other make believe advantage or benefit that you wish like hell you truly had. Women either hate you for your success or want to use you because of it—loving you for it never enters the equation. This is the default setting on the modern female, and there’s no way to reprogram the bitch.
And that is what you are up against. You’re surrounded by a very sick group of battle-worn women, and it’s from this pool of women that you’re supposed to—somehow—find someone decent and respectable with whom you can build a solid relationship and start a family. The odds of finding a good one aren’t in your favor, and the majority of us aren’t going to make it.
Despite this unfortunate reality, we still have lives to live. We still have our biological needs and those must be met one way or another. For better or worse, these are the women we have at our disposal.

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@notbrxthing So, it’s in our best interests to be proactive in our defenses, and to ensure our future and well-being stay firmly in tact. We do this by sniffing out red flags and knowing when it’s best to just walk—or run, if necessary—away. It is my goal to provide this knowledge to the very best of my ability.
With that said, let’s get this show on the road and start with the red flag that should have you lacing up your running shoes and getting the fuck out of dodge with the quickness.

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@notbrxthing It takes a special kind of asshole to play the “I was raped” game, but there are plenty of women out there who play it, and they play it well, especially if you’re a sucker. Men are thoroughly brainwashed to believe a woman’s word is sacrosanct and to never question the veracity of her claims, particularly when it comes to sexual assault. All inquiries are strictly off limits, and she must be believed no matter what. After all, “Why would a woman ever lie about being raped, right?” Because she’s a bottom of the barrel, attention craving, low-life, self-serving piece of mentally ill shit, that’s why. But you can’t actually say that out loud, of course. You pretty much have to keep your mouth shut and your opinions to yourself unless you want to be labeled a victim blame, rape apologist, or misogynist.
However, just because you have to keep your opinions to yourself, doesn’t mean you have to be the same way with your actions. And the best action to take whenever this subjec

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Girl: “It’s very hard for me to talk about this… but… I was raped.”
You: “That’s too bad, but at least the guy who did it is locked up and can never hurt you, or anyone else, ever again.”
Saying something along these lines puts her on the spot: she has no choice but to provide you with the status of her so-called assaulter. If she replies with “Oh, he’s not in jail,” or, “He’s my ex-boyfriend,” or, “We were drunk at a party; I didn’t press charges,” then you know she’s a fucking bullshit artist and that it’s time to pull the plug on your interactions with her.
If she says the perpetrator is in jail (I’ve personally never had this happen, and I’ve heard a lot of rape claims), then that leaves you with a decision to make as well.

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@notbrxthingWhen it comes to this rape stuff, one must develop a personal policy. Mine is one of zero tolerance, and it’s the one I’m going to recommend to you as well. Point blank: don’t date rape victims, period. Real, perceived, concocted or flat-out imagined—you honestly shouldn’t care. You should take your ball and go home, regardless.
Will doing this make you a dick or a bad person? I’m sure to the majority of people it probably will, but you know what? You still shouldn’t fucking care. Do the majority of people care if you end up with a crazy broad who makes your life miserable or tries to take her issues out on you? Do the majority of people care if you lose your career or wind up in prison (where “rape culture” actually exists)? Nope, they sure don’t, so you know what? Fuck’em.
Rape is considered a “societal problem,” and if you don’t rape women, then you are making your contribution to society, you can’t be asked for much more than that.

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You should never feel guilty for not “manning up” and absorbing somebody else’s issues. A woman’s problems—prior rape or otherwise—are her fucking problems. They are her property and her responsibility; they belong to her and her alone—they have nothing to do with you. Consider it “equality” if it makes you feel better: if you have never been raped, then only date women who have never been raped. Sounds pretty egalitarian to me.
Now, at this point you might be thinking, “This guy is is a sociopath!” Wrong—what I am is a guy who has something to lose. What takes a man years to build can be shattered immediately by one mentally unstable broad heading down to the police station with a bullshit story to tell: that can’t be, and won’t be, me. The last thing I’m going to do is play amateur psychologist at best, or be dragged through the mud and risk possible imprisonment due to some crazy woman’s whims at worst. These women are liabilities, and like most men, I already have enough shit to w

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to worry about. A woman has to make my life better if she’s going to be a meaningful part of it, and women with this type of baggage don’t make things better.
“Come on, dude, is it really necessary to be such so ruthless and cold-hearted?” Yes it is, and here’s why: because “it” is always your fault. It doesn’t matter what “it” is, because no matter what “it” is—“it” is your damn fault. We all know if a man cheats on a woman, he is considered a scumbag, a piece of shit, and an asshole. We also know if a woman cheats on a man, it’s because she was pushed away from that man because he was a scumbag, a piece of shit, and an asshole.

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@notbrxthing You can’t win, so if you’re going to be considered an asshole no matter what you do or how you do it, then you may as well take the asshole route that is in your best interests and ensures your future is safeguarded. Which would you rather be: an asshole who’s on top and continuing to climb, or an asshole who’s scraping the bottom? Thought so. There are plenty of “good” men out there who will gladly fill your shoes and do the “right thing,” let them be the ones to take the loss.
Fake rape victims have to go, and they have to go quickly. Here’s a guideline to follow that should keep you covered.
Mentally break up with the woman the second you find out, but don’t dump her ass for real just yet. Do the actual dumping quietly and without commotion. Slowly taper off contact and limit any interactions you have to text messages only, which you should save. If you’ve slept with the woman, then get some sexual texts from her (nude pics too if you can get them).

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Send some messages saying how you can’t wait to fuck her again, get some enthusiastic responses demonstrating reciprocation in return, and then cut her off.
Don’t meet again in person, and ignore all contact from her once you have satisfactory evidence showing that she loved taking your cock and looks forward to taking it again. Show some discipline and pass up the easy pussy if she offers it.
As for the gentlemen out there with hearts of gold who can’t envision themselves being so heartless and cut-throat: I understand your position. I don’t support it, but I do understand it. So, if you meet a woman with a legit rape—and only a legit rape—in her past, and you want to proceed with the relationship, then that’s on you.
But don’t be surprised when problems and baggage comes with the territory. Proceed with caution and bail if there are hang-ups with intimacy, rage issues, or if it’s clear that she hasn’t gotten over what happened to her. You didn’t do anything wrong, so don

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A close relative to the rape fable is the “he beat me” claim. Even more common are claims of verbal abuse or being “controlled” in some manner. Here are couple of question for you, gentlemen: When was the last time a woman said to you, “It was my fault that my previous relationships didn’t work out,” or, “I fucked things up, but I’ve learned my lesson”?
When was the last time a woman actually took some responsibility, came clean, and admitted that her relationship failures were primarily a by-product of her own conduct? In my experience, the answer to these questions is never. Sure, a woman might admit some wrong doing here and there, but she will never admit to being the instigator or the antagonist.
And that’s because “it” is always your fault—no matter what “it” is.
With that in mind, here’s how this nonsense plays out in the real world. In a bid to win pity points and look like a little angel who does no wrong (get used to this shit, especially if you make good money), a woman

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a woman will tell you vivid stories about being terrorized at the hands of some evil, abusive psychopath. Just how bad is this motherfucker? Well, just imagine Ted Bundy, the Predator, and a great white shark all rolled into one. “He’s fucking crazy,” or, “He’s been stalking me,” or, “He threatened to kill me,” are lines that you will more than likely hear at some point.
However, what she’ll fail to mention is the part about how she would get in this guy’s face without provocation, call him a cock sucker, slap him, punch him, try to kick him in balls, destroy his house, key his car, flatten his tires, brag about fucking his friends, call his mother a whore, and then call the cops on him all before heading off to her workplace to receive a good old fashioned eye watering throat-fuck from one of her bosses in the parking lot.

[Opinion Owner]

Those little details never seem to make the final cut in any of these stories, for some inexplicable reason. And yes, I’m joking a bit there; however, the point is that a woman will never mention inciting things, being passive aggressive, or pushing a man’s buttons until he snaps and calls her some bad names or tells her her shut the fuck up.
That will never happen because then she runs the risk of looking like a bad person, and we can’t have that, now can we? “He used to call me a bitch all of time, it really hurt my feelings,” said the poor little snowflake. Yeah, I’m sure he did—it’s probably because you are one.

[notbrxthing]

yeah I'm not going to read any of that. the fact that you even took the time to write out that much is pathetic. stop trolling and get off the internet. unless you're just really that brainless. also, I saw the word rape multiple times while scrolling through. if you're referring to what I said and making a mockery of it, or victim blaming and saying that rape victims are disgusting, you are the biggest piece of scum on this planet and I hope you rot in hell.

[Opinion Owner]

@notbrxthing A woman’s mind and character, like her sense of purpose and self-worth, is determined and governed largely by her sexual market value. A stunner who is flooded by male attention has no need to be fair or logical in her relations with us: her power derives from the fact that we, wanting to fuck her, line up to give her attention and to do things for her, inflating and distorting her vile ego in consequence.
This is, essentially, an irrational affair, and until she approaches middle age, men will continue to give her that extreme power, no matter how she conducts herself. In contrast, the relations of men in civil society have historically been rather duty-bound and abstract: reason has been necessary to order that things should be thus and so, so that the overwhelming self-interest that drives every individual would not be too much for the whole, and thus destroy the social unit, whatever the form it took. But sexual desire is not a matter of reason, or order,

[Opinion Owner]

or obligation. Once his needs for food, drink and shelter have been met, the chief interest of the straight man is women, objects of desire through and through. Yet neither sexual pursuit nor its reception is inherently logical. Both genders act mainly on impulse, their motives frequently unconscious. But while a man historically had to deal mostly with other men in order to meet common material needs (easily a cause of war and strife), so that he often had to be at least somewhat fair-minded in his relations, a woman had only to be fairly attractive in order to get her needs met, and in some cases, to get away with virtually whatever she wanted. And hence, then, that universal truth about stunners, whether here in the States or abroad: the more attractive, the more cuntish—almost no exceptions.
Since, then, the mind and character of woman is a result not of reason, but of an irrational force—her sexual market value—it follows that in her relations with men, her behavior will be

[Opinion Owner]

determined mostly by feeling, impulse and caprice; or, if she’s hot enough to get away with it, by her essential cuntishness. And so we men should not expect women to take personal responsibility for their actions, for where a man feels a sense of justice—abstract and rational—a woman’s mind rather follows its whims and delusions. She is, to borrow a fine aphorism from Nietzsche, “foam tossed to and fro on shallow water.”
Again, being driven by an irrational force—her sexual market value—a woman has, as a general rule, no sense of honor or loyalty or obligation. Inherently abstract, and requiring a steady will to carry them out (which women, with their inconstant nature, also lack), these things are fundamentally masculine in character. It’s often been noticed, for example, that keeping their word generally means little to women; they prefer to avoid such discomfort, in just the same way that they are not inclined to assert themselves.
When faced with a compelling argument or even

[Opinion Owner]

or even empirical evidence which shows her to be wrong beyond dispute, a woman will usually just devise some rationalization or other, happily supported in this bizarre endeavor by every other stupid bitch in her phone, from mom to BFF. This “girl power” is, in fact, a great herd passion of women, comparable in significance to their profound interest in Kim Kardashian and whoever is fucking whom in Hollywood.
Again, doing the right thing, for women, is a matter not so much of reason as of instinct and feeling. Hence “unconditional love” is a distinctly motherly thing. And hence it is that the moral judgments of women are frequently dubious, just as their characters are by nature fickle and unreliable.
In the age of smartphones and social media, women receive such a massive amount of male attention that is quite rare for a 7 and up not to be a cunt, for the simple reason that she can be. So what that she pisses you off? You are just one among an endless number of suitors.

[Opinion Owner]

And as we see from children and women alike, human nature, as a general rule, will incline to do whatever it can, so long as there are no apparent consequences.
Today women are surrounded by so many white knights and beta orbiters that the rare man who not only doesn’t take their shit, but even “presumes” to call them on it, is likely to be deemed abusive, or a creep, or who knows what. There is a collision here between entitled expectations and non-beta male behavior: here the hamster will only point touchy fingers; it will not itself be accountable, for its only pressing interest lies in looking pretty and being seen.

[Ginnyweasley97]

Thanks for this. My mom is a psychiatrist and she diagnosed me when I was 15. I really like the analogy you said in the second picture. I have always described it when you are going down stairs and you miss a step, and you get that mini heart attack but it doesn't go away when you realize you just missed a step. In my psychology class my teacher handed us articles about the good features that people tend to have when they are diagnosed with anxiety, depression, or bipolar disorder tend to have. I remember one of the characteristics of anxiety, is that those with anxiety tend to feel things deeply and have a ton of sympathy. I just thought no kidding. If something happens and if I was even slightly involved, I will overthink it and find a way to hold myself accountable for everything.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Read my entry. What would your mom probably say about my case?

[SomeGuy37]

I don't mean to crap in your cheerios, but it sounds like life! The daily shit that we all face! Maybe you are more sensitive, or aware, but I grew up in a time when my dad would smack me in the back of the head and tell me to get up, go to work, and make something of myself!!
Life is hard, and you need to fight, and live, and not just have a 'condition'!
"Survival of the fittest!!"
seems like so many, now, need drugs to get through the day!! I grew up, before that, with hard knocks!! if you got a D, or failed, you got a good beating by dad, and then you did better!

[MissMc3]

Well sorry to hear about your dad but GAD isn't caused by your dad telling you not to be lazy. My dad beat me, told me to go to work, took every paycheque, and told me that at 5'7 and 120 pounds I was overweight which caused me to develop an eating disorder, which unto that caused me to develop severe anxiety to the point where every night I'd go unconscious from crying so hard because I irrationally believed I would die. So sorry, but you don't seem to understand that other people have actual problems that cause a chemical imbalance in your brain. Don't be an insensitive asshole.

[SakuraChii]

I have depression and anxiety. It affects my grades and sometimes I get really sad or insecure and think of traumitizing moments involving bullying. it has nothing to do with craziness so ignore that guy. I take lexapro and it has made me a bit more stable, I noticed that I'm less sensitive to things now and its more difficult to break me. I hope that there will be better support in the future we can be grateful that we dont live in a time where a common case like depression or anxiety is an automatic trip to the aslyum.

[ObscuredBeyond]

1, 3, 5, 6, and 7, I can relate to all too well. In my case, there's also headaches, drowsiness, feeling defeated when the weather doesn't clear up, constant fear of public humiliation, and frequently being haunted by traumatic memories. Obsessive intrusive thoughts, with one replacing another just as soon as the one has run its course, being very picky about what constitutes fair criticism, constant fear of betrayal from romantic interests (or deception,) etc.

Bad dreams include being chased by jackals, being stuck in a Groundhog Day Loop, waking up to find the house or apartment destroyed, family members turning into monsters, being lost, not having legs, discovering a counterfeit Heaven, being locked out, being stalked by snakes, thugs attack at random, etc.

[Ginnyweasley97]

She said your case sounds like social anxiety

[ObscuredBeyond]

@Ginnyweasley97 : Thanks. I was thinking C-PTSD, but the two could feed each other. Although, I rarely ever get dissociative. I know situation B is not Situation A. Yet, there is the looming threat of deja vu, and an insatiable impulse to defy it. "Oh no, not this time!" I really enjoyed the scene in Age of Ultron where Hawkeye gets the jump on Scarlet Witch and says: "No thanks. I already done the whole mind control thing. Not a fan."

I sometimes wish I could do that to my everyday life.

[Pampered]

I refuse to go on medication and seek therapy for my apparent "illness"... I've improved a hell of a lot better without it. I noticed a lot of people don't get better with anxiety and it's because they rely on meds and some person you're paying to listen to your problems and give advice that you're most likely not going to take. Just get out there, force yourself to not care what others think even though you do, and expose yourself to the uncomfortability and the inevitable conclusion that it's all in your own head.

[Artist10]

Good take, I have known people with anxiety just didn't know they had it over the years. I always forgot about it.
Melatonin pills seem to help with sleep, I have used them when trying to adjust to a ''new'' sleep schedule. Once my body adapts to it, I get off the pills and sleep normally.
If you find the things you enjoy and relax you, it might help.

[9mfeo]

I wouldn't describe my GAD as a "little voice." For me, it actually feels like a constant buzzing. My brain is always going and I don't really know how to shut it off most of the time (or at least when I'm bad. I haven't been all that anxious lately, due to extensive therapy and learning more coping mechanisms). I don't always have difficulties sleeping - that's like one of the few things that I can do when I'm really anxious. Nothing else though.

[CandyStripes77]

I felt exactly this way before! I found out I had a dairy allergy that was causing it. I've always beens sensitive to it and I thought I only had a mild intolerance... I didn't realize I was allergic. I stopped eating it and this stuff gradually faded.

[CandyStripes77]

And I had everything people are mentioning in the replies too. The heart attack feeling that never goes away. The WEIRD as hell buzzing in my mind. I had ALL of that stuff. But, on top of getting rid of the dairy I also forced myself to change my thought patterns. It might sound silly, but I would imagine that I was letting go of all of the obsessive and negative thoughts. Like in my mind I would imagine a mini me. And all of the bad thoughts were black clouds that I was stuck in. And I made myself separate from all of them and told myself I'd never going near them again. Everyone kept telling me to change my habitual thoughts, but I'm a really visual person so I had to imagine a scenario. It really seemed to help over time...

[9mfeo]

Correlation is not causation, my dear.

[notbrxthing]

I haven't left my house in weeks due to my severe anxiety disorder. I'm currently on home instruction because I can't leave my house to go to school. even with medication and therapy I'm not getting better. I feel like anxiety disorders aren't taken serious enough. they can really be dibilitating

[MissMc3]

You're not alone and the world isn't as bleak as it seems sometimes, you're going to make it through this as long as you keep fighting it.

[Remonster]

Oh I've had this for many years. The only way I came out of it was when I was able to have some faith in myself again. The meds did nothing, only a mentality change got me where I am today.

But yes, easier fucking said than done, I know!

[loveskittens]

I'm pretty sure this describes half the population of all westernized societies. I've come to accept my insignificance and I still exist. Most people aren't as significant as they'd like to think they jusy keep runnig from the truth.

I'm clearly a positive person.

[Anonymous]

Such a stupid, predictable, cliche , basic unoriginal take or whatever. It's like something a dumb money hungry therapist would say. Also the " you are not alone " part made me cringe. I've heard that way too many times always wrong. I am alone. when will people stop pretending that they care?

[AidaRoma]

I care. You're are alone, as we all are. I think the point is there are a lot of people that suffer in the same way. In that case, you're not alone in this... Maybe this seems predictable but there's nothing wrong in talking about it, and gaining an understanding. What has helped me is prayer. But it takes work to do this...

[COCOCHANEL]

i think i have experienced mild to moderate forms of what you described but it's not constant. the biggest issue i face is self-doubt.

[damnwinter]

Thanks. This helped, in that I don't feel that alone anymore. Won't last long, but it's nice, for a change :D

[RJGraveyTrain]

As someone who suffers from GA myself I found this take informative and well written.

[fauchelevent]

I was diagnosed with generalised anxiety too. A lot of this doesn't really apply to me and my experience with it but the parts that did really stick with me, so nice take 😊