How should I handle/deal with this?

[Anonymous]

I feel as though I don't belong anywhere in society. I've never found a place that I could truly be myself and not be judged for it. I've also never found a group of friends where I could completely be myself I've always had to hide my true feelings. So my question is should I even belong/be in this world. And if I should be what do I do so I can finally be myself around people?

[Anonymous]

First of all I heard a quote that said that...

Most people are like ducks, and when all the yellow ducks see a duck that acts "out of line" they pick on that duck.

Just because you don't fit in with everyone else doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you in fact it probably means you're special. In fact everyone is a little different, but the ones bullying you or making you feel "super different" are usually the ones being like all the other ducks and when they see the freedom you have or the uniqueness you are showing they get a little jealous or intimidated.

Do you have a family who cares about you? If you have family who cares for you, they will love you no matter what even if you fight.

Disagreeing with people is inevitable. Not everyone is going to like you. People have hang ups, issues, and personality differences... Nice people get offended by rude and abrupt blunt people. Blunt and upfront people don't get along with super nice people. Wild, rockstars, party people won't get along with the religious crowd. Everyone is different.

All I can say is find people who you connect with and who like you -- and NEVER THINK that you don't have a purpose.

You are loved by God. Put God / Jesus Christ first in your life. read the Bible He will give you the hope you need! Go to a nice church.

Also know that you aren't alone and being different means nothing. It just means you're unique.

Love others.

Just be a good person in life even if you have problems and issues if you love others you're doing fine.

[Asker]

I have a family that seems like they care about me but it's sadly very common that I go unnoticed regardless of what I do. I went to church and read the Bible but I haven't been able to go back in a while do to one of the pastor's family members (who I was close to) dieing. I'm just not able to deal with it yet.( not sure that I ever will.) And being different really sucks sometimes. I still get judged and bullied really bad even though I'm almost 19.

[Asker]

I've been friends with many different kinds of people but haven't been able to be myself yet.

[NeverSatisfied]

Yea you and me are the same. I am a perfectionist, wanting perfection in everything in life, but perfection doesn't exist. Viscious cycle. I quit drawing cuz my left side art was better then drawing the right. I want the perfect girl but lets be honest there is no one perfect. They say good looking people are shallow but I'd say im second to the worse. Im not bad to people, in fact im fine with all people. But im not perfect, so im literraly a hermit. Scared to leave the house cuz the judgement from me is crippling. But 12 years ago I was fine and happy. The pt. Because I could go on, you need to move. Yes move from the city, state, maybe country. To where you will belong. Find out where piano playing is praised. Just move. As for me im moving out of society. Gathering intelligence for living with nature.

[Asker]

I don't think I could ever be happy in society because I belong in nature. I could try moving if I had the money but I've never found somewhere (other than the many forests I've visited) that I felt I belonged. I've only traveled within the united states but only on the west side as it's where I'm from.

[NeverSatisfied]

Well if you live with nature know your stuff. There are jobs that deal with nature. Nature is calm and relaxing. Society today stresses humans alot. I hope you find what you need in this life. You only have so long. I want to look at the stars, feel the warm fire, eat organic foods, and wake up when I want to sleep when I want. There is a cost to this living. But after a year with the knowledge im gathering its gets a very relaxing point. If I ever need money mcdonalds is always hiring. But living on the streets, taxes rising, wars starting, ebola and bubonic plague showing up. And the lifestyle of the average person in america, let alone the world. Too much stress. Fatty foods. Etc.

[Asker]

I'm thinking about just leaving for a few days and see I I could live up in the mountains near by. If I could that would probably end up becoming my new life. If I came back early than I know that I couldn't make it. I know I'm not ment to live with most people but away from the average

[NeverSatisfied]

Well, know your stuff. The weather, food, setting traps, how you will eat, the water , do you know how to make primitive fire, a good solid shelter place, the plants you could eat. Dont just wing it, give it a proper chance.

[NeverSatisfied]

It can be a heaven or hell, depending on your knowledge. People have lived like this before. But with the internet today can live better then most in the woods.

[Asker]

Very true I know the area I live in pretty well. The biggest problem would be finding water. Food is easy to find. I can hunt decant and my tracking is ok if I pay attention.

[Anonymous]

If you think you are beaten, you are
If you think you dare not, you don’t
If you like to win, but you think you can’t, it is almost certain you won’t
If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost
For out of the world we find,
Success begins with a fellow’s will
It’s all in the state of mind.
If you think you are outclassed, you are
You’ve got to think high to rise,
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.
Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man,
But soon or late the man who wins
Is the man WHO THINKS HE CAN!”

[Opinion Owner]

Truth is young lady, you need to be self reliant in this world, and stop looking for other people to make you happy. Happiness does not come from having friends, its comes from yourself, having goals to reach. YOU ARE BORN IN THIS WORLD ALONE, YOU WILL DIE IN THIS WORLD ALONE, that statement means, be out for yourself, and don't rely on friends or anyone else to make you happy.

[Asker]

This makes a lot of sense to me at times but there are times when you just need some support from the people around you.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand, but there far and few friends that will help and support you, many people these days are just out for themselves, trust me. I have made hundreds and hundreds of friends, and I have had to get rid of them, because it was all just take take from them. I have only one friend left now. I am much happier less friends. In fact I am just happy with the one friend I have got. All I doing now, is focusing my dream. I am putting every ounce of energy into. I don't care about girlfriends, or anything else. Since I am focusing my dream, I have never being happier. I focusing on my friends, has actually made me a very unhappy for 30years, it just drained me. Pleasing people is just draining.

[Asker]

I often feel that I have no purpose but I haven't given up on finding one. I've had so many people use me and never give anything. Which might be part of the cause. I've been forcing myself to be alone thinking it might be better. But so far its gotten me nowhere. I'm just at a loss of what to do next.

[Opinion Owner]

Being self reliant, is amazing trust me. because you can be your own person, you will learn how deal with things much better on your own. Relying on other people, you will actually make you weak, because you will feel you can't do anything for yourself. This world owes nothing. You owe yourself the best life. A lot of the reason people never anything, is because they always feel somebody owes them somthing, but really they don't. Its your life, you owe yourself, the gift of success. Successful people don't think of others, and don't have friends. They always think of themselves. The road to success is only road.

[Opinion Owner]

It doesn’t matter what you have done for others, they don’t owe you anything in return. This is the mentality you need to take on. Fend for yourself. Don’t expect any handouts. Matter fact, don’t even take any handouts.

You owe yourself the gift of success and the only way you can get that gift is by busting your ass.

Stop waiting for something that is never going to happen and instead get going.

Get a hold of your life and mold it in whichever way you please.

[Opinion Owner]

The only way, you know what you want to do in life, is by going out and try new things. You will never find your passion life, by sitting there thinking about it. The only I found my passion life, I went out tried a lot of things, and failed at them miserably. If there's something you like doing, go and try it. If you love it, work on it and die for it.

[Asker]

I'm not to sure how to respond. But I know to do what I really want in life there is no way that I can do it alone. The only real desire I have left it to start a family but at the rate I'm going I'll probably die before I ever am truly happy.

[Asker]

The only thing that I could do forever is play the piano but sadly there's almost no money to be made there anymore.

[Opinion Owner]

Go put yourself out there young lady. do college courses, think of something that might interest you, and try it out. If it doesn't work, move on to the next thing you might enjoy. If you want to become a dancing instructor, try it make go it. If doesn't work out, move on becoming a good hairdresser. The more you try things, the more likely you find your passion in life. Thinking about it your passion, doesn't work. you have to go and find it. Sorry but thats the only foward for you.

[Opinion Owner]

what do you want to do in life then?

[Asker]

I've already tried college. It was not my place. Most days I wonder why I even stay in the city. I think my live would be so much easier if I didn't have to involve myself with 'normal' life. But than realized I would completely lose it not being at least around a few people.

[Opinion Owner]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Z5OookwOoY watch this video, did you know stallone was homeless for 2 years, before he came a movie star. He had to fight. listen to him. I suggest you listen to it.

[Asker]

Find a guy who excepts me for me than disappeare into the forest never to be found.

[Opinion Owner]

Forget about guys, young lady. and focus on other things. I think the problem is, your relying on too much on guys to make you happy. No guy wants that burden. You have to be happy within yourself first.

[Asker]

How could I ever be happy with myself when there's nothing I'm able to do to make myself happy. I'm just a failure. I know that I've never belonged in society and I don't see myself ever fitting there. But I don't want to be alone anymore I can't take it.

[Opinion Owner]

oh Come on. your not a failure, you are only a failure if you give up. are you giving up then?

[Opinion Owner]

You know that, your attitude will push people away. If your fear is so great of being alone, you will create state of being alone. you don't realize your creating loneliness.

[Asker]

No I haven't given up nor do I plan to anytime soon. I just know that I haven't/don't belong within the city.

[Opinion Owner]

Well something about get yourself out of the city young lady. Get yourself a job somewhere else, and move. If you don't like something about your life, go and change it, cause sure as hell, your friends, your boyfriend, friends, won't do it for you. Its up to you, it your life. Sorry be horrible to you, but stop feeling sorry for yourself. I am more alone than you are, I have no family with me, they live another country, no girlfriend, I working my arse for my dream. Sorry I have only one friend.

[Opinion Owner]

I am all by myself in another country. I have no one here to help me. I am 32 years old. No girlfriend, no family, no friends, except one. But I don't care, because I am working towards my dream. Which took 10 years to find out, by failing at many things. your 19yrs, your still a baby. stop worrying about having a family. jesus.

[Asker]

I get your point but I'm not yet able to leave where I'm living for a few reasons but the biggest one is my animals. unless I could afford a house I couldn't take them. There's no reason why I would leave them behind. I wanted to move away for college and it might of made it better if I did but I feel as though they've all I have anymore.

[Opinion Owner]

Godsake, your are a tough cooky to crack. stop making exuses. get rid of the animals, and you get others when you move to another place. Stop looking for reasons why you can't change your life round. exuses are for people that need them. You can live in a shared flat, like I am, its cheap. You don;t have to buy house to live somewhere else young lady. Stop thinking you can't do things, and start thinking you can. you haven't got self belief, you haven't got a life. start believe in yourself.

[Asker]

I can't change who I am. If I were to lose my animals I would lose myself in the process just plain and simple. They're the last things keeping me somewhat here.

[Opinion Owner]

ok I wish you good luck in your life. No can help you, if you can't help yourself. you can anything, you have accepted thats who are going to be and thas your life.. which is rubbish. If carry on thinking, of course you will be nothing. you can be anything, it has come from you. Good luck.

[Asker]

Thanks and good luck to you as well.