How would you react if someone you were sleeping with self harmed?

[Anonymous]

I were sleeping with a girl and she knew I were an ex self harmer but she didn't have the foggiest of ideas I've recently self harmed.
She tried to undress me and I wouldn't allow it, she thought it was something they had done and I explained that I didn't want to take my clothes off and it was due to me not them.
After a while she realised I had been self harming again because I never normally refuse to get undressed..
Obviously that kind of ruined 'the mood' and we were just cuddling in bed and she was questioning me on why I'm doing it etc.. We had a deep conversation and she told me that she really liked me.. I told her that I really liked her..
The next day we had a little argument due to something she did..
Then two days after she found out I was self harming again she told another girl that she wants her and that she definitely doesn't want me.
Do you think she doesn't want me because I'm a freak? I'm 21 and I'm dealing with my life troubles by cutting myself, it is helping me in a way. It's better than me ending my life and ruining my families lives due to my selfishness.
Please give your honest opinions.. If you were in that situation would you tell them you don't want them? :/

[igk21]

First of all, I'm really sad to hear you are cutting yourself. I know asking you to stop is hard, but it's basically like you are killing yourself slowly. Why do you cut yourself? There are other outlets for depression. Like art or poetry or dance or any other hobby. Also you are not a freak. I'm sure there are many people who love you. Your family that you mentioned loves you. If this person really loves you, she would be concerned and try to help you - not run away. If I cared about someone who cut themselves I truly would not leave them. I'd try to help them. Please-stop cutting yourself. You are wanted by someone even if it's not her.

[ljx34c]

What does cutting yourself actually do? It is stupid, depression should consist of crying, gettings angry, battling with yourself in your mind... but what the fuck can cutting your arm do other than so you can say that you are doing so.

[pathvalleygirl]

It helps expresses feelings

[Imtheone88]

so i have two options... let you self harm or dont let your do it and you kill yourself... hmm, i choose the first... in general id try to solve your problem but if you keep doing what your doing then id leave you...