I want to go be with my baby?

[Anonymous]

Almost 2 months ago I had a miscarriage. It's tearing me apart, I cry every day and it's so hard to be around pregnant women and almost everyone around me is pregnant so it's not easy a sounding them. I don't want to hurt anymore or be in pain because I didn't get to have my baby. I've been alone and crying the last 4 days and I've come to think it would be best if I go be with my baby. I wouldn't hurt anymore, I wouldn't have to wonder what he or she may have looked like because I would be there with my baby. I don't know what to do, I know it isn't time for me to go yet but I just want my baby. That's all I've ever wanted and I don't see how it's fair I didn't get to keep mine. My cousin tried everything she could to kill hers and i did nothing and lost my baby. Now I can't even stand to see or talk with her because I can't handle listening to her talk about her little girl and show me ultrasound pics of her. I just can't do this anymore.

[SweetLily89]

You need support sweetie, if you can't find it in family and friends maybe, a support group or counseling can help..

When I lost my little one, I didn't know I was even pregnant. I was lucky that they were able to calculate an estimated due date. I had absolutely no support from friends and family, my best girlfriend was having her first baby and I tried so hard to be happy for her, but I resented her a little. If it wasn't for counseling, I don't know what I would've done.

What you're feeling is normal and grieving will take time, but you have to get it out in a healthy way. Honor your baby's life in some way. I named my baby and performed a little ceremony, I light a candle and do something special on what would've been my due date and when I lost him/her..

It's not going to go away overnight and please don't do anything foolish, you will get through this. It's been three years and it still makes me cry, but you will get through this. Sending hugs and support :)

[Asker]

I don't know what to do. The last 2 days I haven't even been able to get out of bed. I just can't handle this any longer and I just want to be with my baby. I don't want to see my cousins and people from work having their babies knowing I didn't get to keep mine. I for have anyone to talk to and I can't say the words out loud or even talk about it. I tried telling my bf but went into a panic attack and couldn't so he doesn't even know.

[SweetLily89]

When I was feeling that way, I had to remind myself that if my little one could speak, what would he/she say? Would my baby tell me to end it all? I know your world is crumbling as we speak, but I know you're baby would tell you "I love you" I know you're baby wouldn't tell you to throw it all away because, you're their mommy. You'd be throwing away the little ones, you're meant to be mommy to in the future.

I know it's hard, I'd run to the bathroom every hour to cry my eyes out. Get it out, cry it out, it's okay. Write it down if you can't speak it out loud, but I know you're baby wouldn't want you to join them.

[becca123]

I have been where you are. I honest to goodness have.

I am surrounded by crack and meth addicts at my job, and watch them have baby after baby, have abirtion as birth control, and abuse and neglect the chikdten they have. Meanwhile, I lost mine twice. It isn't fair. It truly isn't.

I can tell you, time will heal this. Plus, did you know the best time to conceive is NOW? Your uterus is, more or less, primed and ready to go (something I learned after my miscarriages).

Only time will heal. But let it heal. I will tell you this; I have no doubt my healthy daughter was the same soul I had lost twice.. For whatever reason she just wasn't ready. You will see your baby, in this lifetime. He just wasn't ready yet.

Grieve all you need to, but please don't think of doing something like ending your life. Look online, support groups for miscarriage are every where. A click of the mouse could get you some friends who understand.

[TheGuyFromMiddleEast]

I'm the sixth child of my mom. Five miscarriages in two years. Keep trying, you'll get a baby.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry but to commit suicide over your miscarriage, sounds completely selfish

[Anonymous]

You need some serious support! Everything you are feeling must be horrific! Your baby is not gone away forever. Your baby is waiting for you when your time comes but not by your own hands. Give your child a name ( if you haven't already ) and have a personal memorial session to say goodbye and allow yourself to grieve. Maybe plant a tree in honor of that child and let it represent a place for you to go and nurture that tree and talk out your feelings. ( just an idea ). Everybody grieves differently but I can assure you your child is not on the other side hoping you kill yourself just to be with him/her. Your cousin sounds like a very negative influence on you and I think you should avoid her until you feel better. I wish I could sit next to you and give you a big hug and a shoulder to cry on and just let you talk. I'm so sorry you had to go through a miscarriage. 💛 one woman to another, I hope time eases your pain.

[Theshaft169]

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