How do I get my girl to workout more often?

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Well here is the deal, i enjoy working out and its pretty much my second most important thing in life besides her. I used to take her to the gym, and she used to enjoy it. I introduced her to diets and workout plans, and got her in very good shape. But now it just seems like she dosent want it anymore. And it is tripping my mind, becuase she became so happy with her looks and the weight she lost. She also became a lot happier and had a lot more energy. Any tips how i can get her back on track? I just dont want her to feel like im forcing her to do something, she just seemed so much of a better and happier person when she worked out.

pnl86 · Accepted Answer

Seriously?

Okay, well, you have to make her feel fat and insecure... without appearing to be "trying" to make her feel fat and insecure. Right? I mean, after all, that's what you're asking.

So,

1. Renew her sense of reality regarding what you find sexually attractive.

Be "careless" with your desktop, or laptop, or tablet, or phone. "Accidentally" leave a few links open, like... https://fedorshmidt.tumblr.com/ and https://vimeo.com/user8540462

2. Be "nicer" and "more supportive" than usual (counter-intuitive).

Go on Amazon. com and order something like, www.amazon.com/.../ref=sr_1_3 or other similar titles.

Open up a few links or spam your Google search bar with, "how to help girlfriend feel better about how she looks" or "how to help girlfriend feel more attractive" or "how to help girlfriend feel less fat."

3. Force her to be in a situation where she has to compare herself to other women in a real-life setting.

So, ideally, a strip club. She's surrounded by women who look better, move better, and simply feel better about themselves... and men who want those women. "Compared" to those women, she feel unattractive.

When she goes back home or she's by herself in private, she will be more self-aware of her body, and more motivated to put in more of an effort into the shape she's in.

4. Reject other women that are "hotter" than your girlfriend.

Kind of the "nuclear option," and hopefully it never has to go there. But, nothing keeps your partner on her toes and off the couch as much as "the real threat of other women taking her man."

The more real and serious the threat is, the more she'll react to it. The only issue is, if you react to it "first," and don't ever give her a chance to react to the threat... her brain still has this unreleased energy of wanting to take action and respond to the threat or reduce the risk.

So, if she logs onto your Facebook or phone one day, and Google-stalks the name of the girl that's been messaging you, and sees that this girl is hot, and then sees that as soon as the girl was flirting with you - that you immediately and quite overtly put the breaks on that situation and closed the door and pulled out the "Ugh, I'm sorry, I have a girlfriend" card... she can't even get mad at you!

But, the "threat" is now very real. That was a close call.

How to reduce the risk of those threats in the future? Diet, hit the gym, etc.

Otherwise, if her response is to "make excuses," then you need to look for a more motivated and ambitious female partner.

westcoastbratt92 · Accepted Answer

Ehhhh this is really tough bro without you seeming to be pushy, how long has she been getting lazy and not going? She may have just gotten over it and is a taking a little break which is good too, or maybe she has other things going on in her life and working out isn't as important to her right now

RJGraveyTrain · Accepted Answer

Eh... honestly, you can't really. All you can do is tell her how you feel: don't make it about her appearance, let her know that you're worried because she was so much happier when she was active, and that you don't want to see her lose any confidence or become unhealthy. However, if she is still taking care of herself or is happy the way she is now... you can't force her into anything. She may be perfectly fine the way she is now, and it's not really up to you to dictate how she should be living. You can be concerned for her well being and suggest things, but ultimately it's her choice.

kittykatbrat · Accepted Answer

Tbh, you can't. ie: My overweight mother, an ex ice skating champion, is a living example.

ElliaNC · Answer

So you want her to hit the gym again because she seemed happier when she did, yes? This has nothing to do with you wanting to change the way she looks, am i right? You should be honest then. Tell her you miss seing her more active, that you would like to do some sports with her, etc. It seems you are really into it, so is natural to desire to share it with your girlfriend. Do not make her feel uncomfy or bad about her look!

meatballs21 · Answer

Go out and do some kind of strenuous activity - one where she will start to struggle because she's out of shape. That might make her realise she has to keep it up.

523206720 · Answer

Break up with her so she can date a guy who respects her enough not to ask her to gratify him sexually.

Xoxoheather · Answer

You can't force her to do anything. She has to want to do it. Maybe you need to date someone who is into fitness more than her if it concerns you so much.

madokh · Answer

just tell her  take her to a place like park or something and talk to her about it

Patriots66cam · Answer

You got to encourage her to workout more. Once she sees you working out and your body looking better she'll be in there in no time.

VampireEmpress · Answer

could she be depressed?

Anonymous · Answer

Well, maybe she did have some brains after all.

GuyAdviceFromGuy · Answer

Tell her she's fat

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