How to get your boyfriend out to do stuff when he is depressed?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend has been Ina mood for about a month. He has not been able to find a job alon with other stuff. He sits in his room and plays video games, watches Netflix or sees his family. I have not seen him since the Thursday before Easter and then awhile before that. We talk everyday. Some days more than others and some just like 2 words. I try to get him out and even our friends ask him to come out but he doesn't because of the money situation I guess. for Easter I got him tickets to a MLB game. He has not seen what it is. I keep telling him I have his waster present but he really doesn't say anything. Last night I told him I'm taking him out tomorrow for his present and he didn't answer after a few texts back and fourth. What do I do? How do over him out? I don't want t show up at his house but I might have to. I am going to tell him again and see how it goes. Has anyone ever had anyone they loved or cared about depressed and never wants to do anything? How did you get them out etc?

[Anonymous]

If he has a tough money situation, then he might feel bad about you giving him presents and taking him out because he can't do the same for you.
Try baby steps. If he has trouble getting out of the house, then ask if you can come over for a movie night. At least then you will be able to spend time with him. From there, you can try small things like "let's go for a walk" to try to get him up and moving. And at least that doesn't cost money. Then you can try to get him to come out with you. Tell him, "my present to you is buying you dinner. It would be a great present for me if you would come out to dinner with me and then go to the park later." If money is an issue for him, then maybe you can say just him coming out with you would be a good present he could give to you, so that way he is giving you a present without having to spend money.

[Asker]

I have tried movie nights and stuff that's free like Sunday dinner at my dads etc but nothing. It's always like I'm having a bad day I don't feel up for it etc. he always apologizes and says he sucks, which he doesn't but I wish he would do something with me. I bought these tickets a month ago hoping it would be something for him to enjoy to get out for a few hours. Like I said I'm still trying to tell him but I don't know how and I don't know how to get him to go. Like bring them over or tell him what they are? It's tomorrow lol

[Opinion Owner]

yeah try bringing them over.
Is he seeing a therapist? It sounds like he's at the point where he needs professional help. You are doing a good job of trying to help him, but sometimes you need a professional, especially if he might need meds.

[Asker]

I want to I just feel weird about showing up at his house randomly. He's been like this for about a month. It's stressful but I'm not going anywhere

[Opinion Owner]

let him know you're coming over. you can send a text "hey stopping by to drop something off" and then go bring him the tickets.

[Asker]

True, maybe I will try that later. I don't know if I should wait for him to text me first then tell him that. Since he hasn't texted me back all day