I have a question?

[Anonymous]

Here's the thing,I am 17 years old and have never had a girlfriend, I don't have the best face (acne is under control but it's still there), have bad mental problems (a lot of it steaming from bullying but they are being controlled with medication), my self esteem/confidence has been shot to hell and diminished to nonexistent from years of bulling and shunned as an outcast, I am, to put it bluntly, fat (which is mostly not my fault I am actually healthy but it is a combination of ciliac disease(Which stops any nutrition from entering my system and severally limits what I can eat(nothing with gluten(wheat) in it.)), a severally low Vitamin D level and will not rise for anything and genetics) although I have lost 60lbs in the last 3 months but it really doesn't matter with my appearance still ghastly. I have only ever had 1-2 friends(and never female they usually ran when I would walk by) at a time, but with moving around a bit it becomes harder and harder to form bonds with people, I like to believe I am a nice person (I will try my best to help my friends as best I can) with a descent personality(when on my pills) and pretty much crippled from loneliness.

I have been trying to better myself, going out more, trying to be more outgoing, even exercising, but nothing seems to change anything.

So I ask of you: What do my chances look of ever finding someone who, at the very least, won't run when I walk by.

[jess181989]

Your chances of finding someone are extremely high, You're only 17 years old (I apologise if I sounded like an elderly person there). You need to start to learn to love yourself- its difficult, but until you do then you'll find it very difficult to find love. You've already lost 60 pounds- go for it man, lets get that weight off- you CAN do it! Physical appearance doesn't matter to everyone, but being skinnier will help you to be more healthy and you will be able to do more (i.e. you might find someone who likes you along the way).

Im a girl, and I'd say I was attractive, and I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 18. I went to an all girls school and just didn't feel ready till then. This isn't wrong, it doesn't make you a freak- just keep at it. You've obviously done amazingly well to get where you have, I have a lot of respect for you hun. Learn to smile and laugh at yourself, girls love a good smile, it melts our hearts. So:- Dress nicely, Have a good haircut, wear a nice deoderant, have good hygiene, wear nice shoes (girls love shoes), hold your head up high, with your back straight and SMILE. Give the illusion that you are confident. Take an interest in your surroundings, look like you are amazed at all the wonderful things in the world. All of these things are very attractive to girls, and I for one certainly wouldn't run away from you if you had made an effort such as this.

[ismisecait]

Great answer! couldn't agree more! =)

[Sherlock]

Of ever finding someone? Your chances are VERY high. Don't sweat it. If I were you, I'd focus on improving yourself and regaining your confidence. People will naturally begin to like you for making the effort, even before results arrive. Just keep on truckin'!