Am I ever going to feel butterflies again?

[Anonymous]

A few weeks ago I ended things with this guy I was crazy about because he couldn't be exclusive or date me. We were "talking" for almost 4 months before I ended things..

About a week ago I met this other guy who on paper is absolutely perfect. He's incredibly talented, smart, has a good future ahead, super nice.. But every little thing drives me crazy. And when we kissed, there were no sparks.

I'm so scared. I'm scared that the guy who won't be with me is actually the guy I'm intended for. Even after we ended things he tried to kiss me and there were still sparks. How after four months can it still feel so right and then with a guy who should be new and exciting.. nothing..

So should I tell the guy I ended things with how I feel? Even if I did, I know he wouldn't change his mind so would that just be a bad idea? Should I just chalk it up to trying too soon and give the other guy another chance? Please help...

[jessthatgirl]

It's your life, it's your decisions. Do what is best for you. It doesn't necessarily mean that the guy that gave you butterflies is the Right guy for you or the one that will give you the sparks. You said that other guy was perfect, but to think about it, he didn't really satisfy you fully, did he?Anyways you could try dating that other guy and see how it goes if your really think he was meant for you. Maybe you were right, maybe wrong... you will never know until you try so yea think about it.

[Anonymous]

The kiss test determines if he is a good potential partner, genetically different, children healthier, less likely to have defects. Just mother natures way of ensuring that you don't have children with someone who is genetically similar to you, oestrogen can disrupt this effect, keep looking you can find someone suitable...

[Asker]

Is this true? Like is it scientifically proven? I'm just curious because that's pretty interesting.. The thing is, it's happened with the last two guys I've kissed. No sparks, no anything.

[Anonymous]

Here is an article on it link

And a few more some of these are scientific journals and might be hard to follow

Love skews sense of smell

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