Is depression a deal breaker for you in a relationship? (Page 2)

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has depression. It was a lot worse before I met him, but he still has his dark days. It’s not easy when they come, because I feel helpless and he knows it hurts me as much as it hurts him, but we get through them.

I have a familial predisposition for depression too, so I do get down. I’m not clinically diagnosed, but having my boyfriend helps me see the signs earlier too.

I wouldn’t not date someone because they’re physically unwell, and mental illness is no different.

[flowery123]

Unfortunately yes because I really get affected by the vibes of people I spend time with there’s only so much positivity you can radiate if someone has a problem for every solution I’d help someone with depression but I wouldn’t be in a relationship with them

[boulshyte]

i have to be honest, yes, unless ur on meds or something. because I've had a family member who had depression and im not strong enough to cope with it. so i feel awful for even saying it but yes. I don't know if being a teen had anything to do with it but it fucked me up

[DJZest]

"Depression is a series of symptoms that signify life's not going well, or how it should be going." - as Jordan Peterson puts it.

Stating to suffer from depression is putting one's self in the position of victimhood.

You want to be careful in your speech towards such people - but do you have what it takes to take in all of the stuff he or she has not been willing or "able" to engage in him- or herself? Will you be able to not let it affect you?

[MeGo99]

Everyone is different, in some people their depression can be a bigger problem and the impact it has on the relationship could become a deal-breaker, but simply having depression isn't. Like with every other aspect of a person, it depends on the individual.

[snicklefritz187]

If your girls are depressed... there is a good chance that you might have had a hand in it. But if she was always depressed some hash wax would help her out. Thc=the emotional armor cbd=the cure. One love!

[Anonymous]

There's way worse mental illnesses than depression. Why does everyone just talk about depression? What about Schizophrenia, Bi-Polar, Schizoaffective Disorder and DID. All I hear about is depression... it seems everyone has it or claims to have it these days. lol.

[DiogoRibeiro]

Yeah, I agree.

[bethshepherd]

I spend a great deal of time helping clients who have severe depression and similar problems. When I am not working I want a partner who can stand on their own two feet and give me as much support as I give them.

[Fitness-Fanatic]

No one is immune to developing depression. We are all have our limits as to what we can cope with. So it would depend on the severity of his depression and the reason why he was depressed. I wouldn't say it's a definite deal-breaker.

[PvrplePanda]

Iv'e experienced depression before so Im not finna experience being around that energy again. I'll definitely be their friend and support him, but I can't start a relationship with someone who's in that state of mind

[HopelessRomantic2119]

It's not a deal-breaker, but I can attest from experience that dating someone who struggles with depression can be very frustrating and emotionally exhausting, particularly when they don't want to open up.

[dhananjaydhadwal]

It's more of an opportunity to restart your relationship with a new base by first knowing the reasons for your depression then telling it forcefully to your partner then it culminates into a small sweet fight ending with mind blowing sex and then you have a renewed relationship with the same enthusiasm and excitement that every new couple has... Just make sure that during the fight you do not say anything which just pinches your partners 💓

[felix_the_cat316]

That's fine, but if she's dating me thinking I'll be the solution to her depression, then no. I don't like dating people where they have no solutions for themselves and requires another person to think and find the answers for them.

[lilkittenn]

Of course not. If anything I'd feel closer to them since I also suffer with depression. I would understand where they're coming from.

[21feminist]

Most people go through depression. It's how you know when you need to fix something in your life. I'd be happy to help my baby by giving her support an advice based off my own experiences.

[CubsterShura]

Um if the person is a nice person then I don't see why depression would be a deal breaker. But I'm depressed and previously thought that it would be damaging for us...

[dad04001]

I think it depends on the maturity of the relationship. Life throws so much adversity at us that something like depression is among many other possible issues. I think you can learn a lot about yourself and partner when going through and addressing the issue. In the end, if you find that maybe you aren't strong enough or patient enough to help you partner through it, then maybe it's time to move on.

[JohnAguirre]

Depression is something that more people deal with than you realize. Some of the best people I know battle depression yes it's hard to be on the other side of it but working together and understanding depression makes it a little easier and you know that it never lasts forever

[AlexBlack007]

Nope. In fact, I'd love to try to help a person who is facing depression by being as close to them as possible. :)

[JonnyTrauma]

No I suffer from depression and have to take pills everyday so I would understand what they are going through