Am I jealous or is something up?

[Anonymous]

My fiancé has started to go out with work friends more then she had normally done so in the past. When I asked her about it she said that she just needed "me time" where she didn't have to be a mom or spouse and could enjoy herself. They're just going to local sports bars and playing darts or pool or to a hockey game. I started to think something was up at first but after talking to her have just decided I'm a bit jealous of their time with her. Am I way off here?

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Now she's going to a game about an hour away, going out after the game and spending the night at a hotel (supposedly with two female friends) on Sat.

[powerpsi]

I would say not to pressure her or make it seem like your trying to control her. She is obviously feeling constricted with her relationship, and she just wants to hang out with other people.

I don't think it's your job to tie a rope around her waist and make sure she doesn't stray too far, but at the same time I understand that being in the situation is completely different than me just typing about it; the fact that your fiance may cheat on you may make you feel "unsettled" to say the least.

So I would hide my jealous feelings, continue to be that man that she fell for, and giver her space. She won't stop loving you unless she finds reason too. Being a jealous control freak is a good reason.

[Anonymous]

No not at all. Changes in your s.o.'s behavior is definitely going to put your antenna up even if nothing is wrong. I would also ask what your gut tells you. If you feel like something is up its worth looking into and hopefully its nothing. Maybe you can join sometimes. I would want to include my fiance.

[Asker]

I asked. I'm satisfyed with the answer I got. I thought that I should be included also at first but after thinking about it a lot I realized that she knows they're not my type of crowd or placed that I'd like (though she did drag me to an art show a few weeks ago with is so not me.)

[Girlgirl01]

Not at all. Keep an eye on her and if it gets worse when she goes on her "me time" try to follow her. There will be your cold hard evidence,