If a fat guy you knew lost significant weight (over 60 lbs), how would your opinion of him change?

[Anonymous]

I'm entering the latter stages of my weight loss journey, and while I feel great physically, these pessimistic thoughts keep circulating in my head, basically telling me that this whole thing doesn't even matter.

If people hated me when I was obese, they are still going to hate me when I'm lean and muscular. Maybe the fact I was huge in the past might raise some red flags? What are your thoughts?

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Oh, you don't have to use my example. Go ahead and use something relevant to your life.

[Kathia]

Ha same thing happened to me... I was seriously obese for as long as I can remember... At age 11 I was 160lbs... My weight made me self conscious which as a resoult made me so shy that I couldn't even keep a conversation going... I would see everyone starting to date and having bf's and stuff in middle school and I was just genuinely traumatized because every girl seemed to have some one that liked them and I was the big girl who had no one... It wasn't until my freshman year of high school that I started to actually loose weight... I stayed after school every single day to work out at my schools fitness center and I'd run a whole bunch... Now I'm 5'1 and I weigh 115 lbs... I'm also one of the most fit girls at my school... My weight loss obviously also changed people perspective of me (mainly guys) by my sophomore year in high school, I had the guys I crushed on as a little girl wanting to date me... But sense then I've decited that I would only date guys who didn't know me when I was big ( go to a differant school, are in differant grades, just recently moved to town) those kinds of guys beacause the guys that knew me when I was fat and had always ignored me arnt worth my time sense I wasn't worth theirs... But the simple memory of how I felt before when I was bigger still gets to me... But I'm proud of u, even if I don't know u... I mean it with all my heart... Brings me joy because I know how good it feels to know that you are changing for the better... :) keep it up... :)

[Asker]

Nice work. That takes quite a bit of maturity for someone so young to turn it around like that. It was meant to be, because know you're way ahead of the curve!

[Kathia]

Haha thanks.. :) I think that was also used to my advantage to help me mature aswell... Because out of my three sisters that have always been thin, guess who's the most mature... Let me give you a hint... It's me.. Lol.. But so are u.. :)

[Asker]

lol, I try.

[theINSECUREone]

My sister was obese, and she lost weight.

Everyone who treated her like crap before,

Was kissing her ass later.

She became more confident/assertive/narcissistic.

The guys she wanted before, are the guys she gets now.

She also encouraged many others to lose weight.

My opinion of her:

- I was proud

- I was happy for her

- Made me see how determined she was

- Let me now that she cared about herself

- Let me know she was willing to change

... Too bad her personality sucks now, but hey that's just my experience.

[Asker]

How old is she, and when did she begin losing weight?

[theINSECUREone]

She is 21 now I believe she began when she was 19 or 20. She's still losing though.

[Asker]

You answered the question thoroughly and concisely. I appreciate answers like this.

[thoronmegil]

I guess I'd be happy for him that he achieved that...

[Shaun]

I'd think he had a very strong will. Congratulations.

[Asker]

Thank you, sir. Willpower means everything...

[Anonymous]

oh man I truly feel your pain. That is what brings me back to my same old weight every time, I will be craving something like crazy and convince myself "it doesn't matter, it's not that important.." I fill myself with so much pain that the only fix is the comfort of food. It's "too much to handle" and health is not as important as numbing this pain. Right now you are trying to fill your mind with doubt. "It's not important" But think of how much you want this, you must constantly remind yourself how much you want this, to feel your stomach flat and toned to be able to run and not be out of breath, think about all the things you will do when you are skinny (go surfing, buy new clothes, ask out an attractive girl) do this for you, not for others' opinions of you, screw what they think.

[Asker]

Yes, but I've learned that the withdrawals are more difficult to deal with when you fight them. Savor the food, make it a positive experience, then go hard tomorrow. I agree with what your last sentence most definitely.

[Opinion Owner]

I am a 100% type person. I keep hearing that you need to treat yourself every now and then, but when I get the taste of something sweet for example It's like a drug and I must have more and end up ruing the whole thing, so it's best not to even give in to cravings... but then I take it to the extreme and starve myself... sounds like you got it down pretty well. congrats on loosing 60, just keep going forward. I wish I had that type of devotion, that is truly impressive!

[Asker]

I'll gladly give you advice on how to deal, if you're interested. This seems like something you can easily prevent.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks:) I say this everyday but I'm going to start fresh tomorrow. What are some ways you stay motivated?

[Asker]

I prefer PM or IM.

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

My best friend lost over 80 pounds recently, and guys can't stop drooling over her; she's still the same sweet person she was when she was heavier, and therefore, is still the sweet person she is being slimmer.

If you were a jerk when you were bigger, then unless you work on your personality as well as your body, you'll still be a jerk when your smaller.

But if you mean hate you as in regard to attractiveness, I think your hard work will pay off, and people will definitely take notice :D

[Asker]

This is such a nice answer. Why must it be anonymous? Lol.

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

Better? I started on the site a few months ago, so I would always pick anonymous for everything lol, now I do it automatically sometimes :P

[Asker]

Yes, much better! I just get a little peeved when questions are filled with anonymous answers. They appear to not be genuine (most of the time).

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

lol that's understandable

[evangelista]

Well its confusing for me, what do you mean they hated you because of your weight?

[Asker]

It's a sticky subject, I'd rather not go into details.

[Anonymous]

I'd think he's very determined and I'll be proud of him ;) Congrats!