Is he playing games?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy in a professional environment. When we met he had to explain certain things to me, while he was explaining everything he would not look at me. I was being friendly and talkative like I always am with others. I did not know why he was not looking at me when he was talking to me and that may me concern if he was lying about something. Well eventually he had no other choice but to look at me and when he did our eyes met and locked , it was instant chemistry. After he finished up, he told me I would need to see him again and I said okay so we met again, this time he had others males around to see if I would be looking at them the same way we were looking at each other,I was not, and it seem to make him happy. He then told me that we would need to meet again , OK so I did , he put me alone in a office with the door close and proceeded to stare me down and when I did not respond he proceed to grab my arm and rubbed to tell me that he liked me and stop pulling away. I was shocked! I did not know what to say. I know there is chemistry between us but I did not know how to respond. Is this a game for him or what? He had to touch my face for something and he then slid his hand closer to my mouth around my lips , I had to pull back and he just stare. I wasn't nervous, but did not know what to make of what was happening. After we finish up, he gave me his card and told me to call him anytime. What is this, a game , I don't know what to do.

Updates

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I forgot add that he said prior to meeting me alone- he enjoyed talking with me.

[steve1122]

There is something very weird about this guy. I am guessing you are a client of his? First, by behaving this way in the work environment, he is displaying behavior that is at least very unprofessional. If he is a health care professional or something similar, his behavior is also unethical and immoral.

With doctors, lawyers, and perhaps a few other professions, there is a real power issue that can easily be abused, hence the ethical and moral questions. When you are in their office, you reveal intensely personal things. You are extremely vulnerable, and you have to place your trust in them. This is where you can be taken advantage of, and it is not fair.

Bringing you into an office alone and putting heavy moves on you is also very weird. If I were a woman, I would be wondering if I was about to experience a sexual assault. It would freak me out. If a guy is interested in you, there are better ways to get your attention and to find out if you would like to spend time with him.

It appears that he is willing to put his job and maybe his career at risk, and clearly he doesn't care if he scares you half to death by putting you in a compromising situation in a semipublic place. All he is thinking of is himself and what he wants...right...now.

Bad judgment. Poor or no morals. No sense of professionalism. No respect for you. Heavy handed and pushy. Stay away from him. If he is in fact a lawyer or health care professional, you might even want to consider reporting him to the licensing board. If he did this with you, how many other women has he done this with?

[Asker]

Yikes, Steve you really told it like you see it. Do you think he is too anxious base on pure chemistry? He was not rough about the touch, but more like I want you to know I like you. Why so fast about just chemistry?

[steve1122]

I guess I was right? :) He is being really aggressive because he is confident you won't stand up to him. His ego is bigger than the Goodyear blimp. Pop it for him. You will find a small, weak man hiding inside. Trust me, he is a selfish, egotistical jerk. Guys like him are why so many women don't trust men- they actually make things harder for the rest of us guys. Don't put yourself at the end of his list of conquests. Spend your time with a good man who will respect you.

[Asker]

Thanks Steve.

the nerve, the audacity, and personally I should bring charges against him. Thinking...