I don't just want to ask her to lose weight I want her to take fitness to a whole new level

[Paullus]

I want her to be the hot babe she can be with a toned body, she's so pretty and I can tell she's a little self aware about her weight, not that its bad, she's not considered to fat even, its just that she has so much potential, it would be a shame not to try and talk her into making healthy decisions part of her daily life and that includes having a dedicated work out schedule.

But I'm not a girl and I don't know how she will take this, it may just have the opposite effect, who knows. I need advice from women, tell me the best ways to tell her this so that we can start making some positive changes in her life

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sorry. grammar check anyone? ;P

[BuriedHorizons]

This stuff is touchy. People have to want to make that commitment themselves. You can encourage it, but that doesn't mean she will do it. For example: what if she doesn't give a crap about a dedicated work out schedule? I mean you already said she isn't fat. Take that into consideration, and do not push. As long as a person is healthy or moderately active - some people just don't like to have these types of regimens.

Ask if she wants to go for a run. Challenge her to a race. Be challenging in general. Some people are suckers for competition. Just don't be overbearing, because you're right; it can have the opposite affect. She might get her feelings hurt, or even end up resenting you. If you DO fall into a routine together, try not to be so avid about it. If you're in much better shape than her you could leave her exhausted or lagging behind.

Good luck.

[Paullus]

ty

[Zebrah]

Maybe ask her to join you while you work on these things yourself? I hate going on runs, but love it when my boyfriend asks me to go with him. Maybe just start working out together, and then ease into and get her excited that she could get to be really toned. I can see it being an ego boost, to have someone help and have confidence that I could get to be in really nice shape. Just ask her to join you, to help you, like make it sound like you want to do it for you and need her support even though its you trying to help her? Just don't lie, be simple and honest.

[Paullus]

ill be honest, I just hope that my honesty doesn't slip too far.

[sixstring]

I'd say the only way you might pull it off is if you always exercise together. Saying that you want both of you to get in better shape, that it's not just her.

[Paullus]

Makes sense. cool

[slipslender]

sigh. if a guy told me anything like that, my confidence would get shot to hell and I'd just want to crawl up into a ball and die. so my advice, be tactful. hope you get better answers.

[Paullus]

thx