So you are saying that all heavy women should just give up dating until they lose the weight?

[Anonymous]

I hear a lot of men saying that they would not date a heavy women if not for the looks then for what they think of as lack of confidence or self esteem, which is simply not the case for every one. So is the general feeling that women of large size should just not try until they lose the weight?

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Thank for all of your comments and honesty for those who answered... I really wanted an honest view of how people feel on this subject.

[udolipixie]

So you are saying that all heavy women should just give up dating until they lose the weight? Just the heavy women who want to date men who aren't attracted to heavy women

So is the general feeling that women of large size should just not try until they lose the weight? Not really.

It's more like heavy women date those that are attracted to your size & if you want to date guys that aren't attracted to your size lose the weight or be willing to accept a lot of rejections until you get a yes

[Anonymous]

its all about how you're attracted to each other, some heavy women are outrageously gorgeous and stunning whereas others are plain boring and they may not feel attracted to them. most other times its about your personality and confidence shining through that wins the heart of the man.

[myspacemybroke]

Woman of large size can do whatever the hell they please, but I'm not going to go out with someone I'm not attracted to for the sake of appeasing guilt. The same could be said about the whole "nice guy" thing. Not generally something immediately attractive to the opposite gender.

[Asker]

honest answer... so looks are extremely high in your book...ok

[myspacemybroke]

Your statement of the apparent implies attempted guilt. I said nothing of the kind. I said I'm not going to to go out with someone I'm not attracted to. Not all attraction is based on looks, though, yes, a large amount is.

[Asker]

curiosity, that's all. no pointing of fingers here. And I am happy to hear you say that. Very good point.

[NerdInDenial]

No, they should try, but they should not expect to get the cream of the crop. Of course, there are guys who are chubby chasers, but it never hurts to try. "The only failure in life is the failure to try."

[Asker]

Define... "Cream of the crop"... (Men with skinny muscular bodies? That is not an attraction for everyone... what is "Cream of the crop" to you...?

[NerdInDenial]

Guys who are alpha males, lots of money and/or power, and guys who have hot bodies would be consider the cream of the crop.

[Asker]

interesting... I know large women that own 300 thousand dollar homes and are married to IT's, execs. all with hot bods that skinny women would love to land.. And I know them personally, so I feel I would have to beg to differ with that opinion. Although, as I stated in the Q., I really just want to understand peoples general feeling about the topic. so thanks

[NerdInDenial]

Did the woman have money? If they didn't, then those guys are just "chubby chasers."

[Asker]

They were in love with them and yes, they could provide their own income but not richer than their counterparts. lol ... one married 16 years another 35 years and so on... even as chubby chasers, they still attained "cream of the crop" status, ya?

[NerdInDenial]

Of course, and people win the lottery as well. It happens. If weight and the female figure did not matter, this question would be pointless, and "fat" or heavy women would not have a problem.

[Asker]

ha ha :)... you are a character... point taken

[dIO_oIb]

link <-- People watch that, do you know what that means? It means there are men (and women) who find heavier women sexually arousing. SO, that means there are people out there who would prefer heavier women. Smaller women do have it easier in terms of dating, I'm not denying that, but that doesn't mean you don't have a chance.

[Ugliness]

No, no, a thousand times NO!

My wife is, as you say, "heavy" and I find that to be extremely sexy. That was part of what turns me on about her.

[Asker]

I think you may be the exception...not the rule. :)

[Ugliness]

Perhaps but it's a turn on. Really really is.

[Asker]

:)

[selfishstars]

That's silly. Some men like bigger women. Some don't really have a preference when it comes to size, others even prefer bigger women.

[Ugliness]

I prefer bigger women. She's so exciting to meeeeeeeeeeeee! (Okay I can't sing)

[Asker]

good point...

[Anonymous]

men who say those things are just pigs. there are men out there who like bigger women rather then skinny girls. if you are a bigger woman don't let that get you down because I am a bigger woman my self and trust me there are guys out there that like women with junk in there trunk cause I have a good man. so don't give up and keep your head up and you will meet someone special.

[Thiezz]

> bigger women rather then skinny girls

False dichotomy. There's actually something in between skinny and fat.

[Asker]

What is that? "curvy"?

[lothanks]

Unless your looking for a man with the same figure.

[ixi10]

those are just jerks.their opinion means nothing

[Anonymous]

yes, keep your cellulite in doors please.

[Asker]

why did you hide? there is not judgement here. Are you ashamed that you feel that way?

[Opinion Owner]

a lot of "men" on this website are vag-worshippers... and most of the girls on here are femnazis. you're really not allowed to criticize females on this website. at least from what I've noticed. I don't need 700 million people sending me hate mail.

[Asker]

very strait up with your opinions...