I hate my body, how do I get past this?

[Anonymous]

I am 5'4'',have a 26 inch waist,34 A bra size.I feel totally disgusting and have worked very hard to lose weight (I eat healthy and work out for 2 hrs everyday)I don't know what to do.I am really depressed because I know my weight is what's stopping me getting a boyfriend.What can I do?

[just_me5]

Be happy with what you have - plain and simple! I have problem areas just like every girl on this earth. I just try to focus on the positive and access what I like. My legs are a big plus, so I try to focus on that. I like my eyes too. Try naming 10 things you like about yourself everyday - even if it's not physical. Soon you will have trained yourself to compliment yourself instead of put downs!

[xzinax2]

anorexia?

[Asker]

I can tell you without a doubt that I'm not anorexic

[xzinax2]

anything else similar to it?

cause if you don't have any mental problem,it means your body actually sucks,but it sounds pretty normal to me.

[Asker]

Its not normal and it does suck.I'm way too big for my height but can get the weight off.Anorexic girls are actually thin,I'm not

[xzinax2]

anorexic girls aren't always thin,you can be huge and still have anorexia

[Asker]

Thanks that's been a great help,I'm still fat but anorexic,life just couldn't get better :-(

[xzinax2]

lol see a shrink (not being bitchy,i'm serious) and find out if you have anorexia or not,if you do-you're not as fat as you think,if you don't-you're fat

[Asker]

My ex made me see one and it didn't help

[bibmichael1]

i know how you feel I am in the same boat I am fat not the best looking and women don't give me a secend look I am smart and honest I just want some one who want to get toknow me

[Levin]

That body sounds within normal parameters to me. It's dependent on your frame too. You can't be skinnier than your bones.

You sure this isn't in your head?

[Asker]

People tell me its in my head but there is a reason guys don't pay attention to me and I'm pretty sure this is it

[Levin]

One girlfriend of mine was your height and yet bigger than you, and I'm not a bad looking guy... The world is ruled by perceptions, not immutable facts. There could be all sorts of reasons for your lack of success with men. Do you get yourself out there and regularly mix with new people? Lack of confidence and negative self image will also hinder your chances immensely. One thing I've learnt as I grow older is that it's not my appearance that's held me back, but my outlook on life and confidence

[Samanosuke47]

I agree with this gentleman. But seriously, I used to be quite hindered by my outlook on life and confidence. Being sad and depressed all the time about not getting a girl, I've realized, does not help you get a girl. I've realized nothing does except getting out and trying to get a girl. lol I still don't have one, but I force myself to be happy anyway, and I focus on other things in life. Friends and material items.

[Asker]

Well it seems to me that skinny girls have no problem getting guys but I do.They don't even have to put in any effort and I have to work my ass off and still look like a whale!

[Levin]

How many lbs do you weigh then?

[chocolatezombies]

I don't mean to be a bitch, but fat people can date too. The real issue isn't your weight (I bet you're a healthy weight anyways..) but your confidence and how you perceive yourself. Don't beat yourself up because you're single, be patient and have a positive mind-set. Nobody likes to date anybody who is constantly depressed and insecure.

[Asker]

I will be single forever most likely,after splitting up with my ex a year ago I just stooped getting any male attention at all

[curiouschica]

I know it's hard not to overly think about it but just concentrate on being healthy...maintain what you are doing...guys will admire you for being so dedicated and if you appreciate yourself, it'll make it easier for them to see how special you are...

[Anonymous]

i am more fat than you. I'm 5'2 and my vital stats is (36-27-36) but guys always say to me that I am hot and I have a good body! I think it depends on how you carry your looks and yourself, how feminine you are and how curvy your body is :))