I want to lose ten pounds.

[mccollins]

I know that I am at a healthy weight...the point is that when I look in the mirror I don't see what I want to see.

I'm 5'7 and 135lbs

This summer I got down to 128lbs but I was barely eating anything at all (like 600 cals a day) which I know is technically anorexic. I've been trying to make myself do this the healthy way...but if I let myself eat I always cheat...I'll always tell myself "oh you've been good all day, you can have one cookie or one soda." Then afterward I feel like I've just blown the whole day.

I've been to the gym everyday this week...but I always get there and don't know what to do. I'll run for a little bit but I'll give up because I hate running...I do toning exercises but I don't know how much to do or what to do.

How can I get through this mental battle with myself? I'm at the point where I might just go back to not eating. I know it's unhealthy but I get depressed from looking in the mirror everyday...

I feel like the reason that I am single is because my body is mediocre. Which might not be true but that's my initial thought when I see myself.

[Anonymous]

The reason you are single is not your looks or body. Get that idea out of your head. Its not even remotely possible.

I suspect you'll never be happy with your body.

You should not eat 'clean' 100% of the time. Plan breaks. They actually help you lose weight by stoking your metabolism. So don't feel like 'you blew it'. You can have a treat every day and a couple cheat meals a week. So plan them, and enjoy the hell out of them. NOT having them will make your body hold onto fat more.

Toning means adding muscle. Period. There's no magical 'become firmer without gaining muscle'. If you want more toning, you are looking at adding muscle. You probably aren't eating enough to 'tone' up. You need to crank up protein. What should you do? Ideally compound barbell lifts. If you'd feel more comfortable starting with weight machines, start there. How much to do? relatively low reps. 6-8 reps/set. That means if you can do 10 reps, its too light. You need to go heavy to tone, otherwise you're only working on endurance and bloodflow to the area.

You might want to seriously consider looking into some self-esteem work. There are cognitive therapy based books you can use at home with exercises to reprogram how your brain thinks.

Because although wanting to be healthy is great, seriously, you have a fantastic body, and tweaking it more is not going to fix the problem. The problem is in your head. You shouldn't have to feel this way. Nobody should, but in your case, its absurd.

[Anonymous]

As long as you have this mentality you will never be satisfied with what you see in the mirror, no matter how much you lose. Your body is not and never will be flawless. Neither will anyone else's. And those flaws will drive you batsh*t crazy as long as you don't address the real issue here, which is your head.

The only problems you have here need to be taken up with a shrink/psychological therapist. Not a personal trainer and not a dietician or nutritionist.

Your body doesn't want to drop below ~130 lbs because this is where it's happy. It's healthy, it's attractive, and the only reason you aren't a total guy magnet is because of how painfully obvious it is that you're insecure and, frankly, a little bit mentally f***ed up. There's nothing you can do to your body that will ever make up for that in the eyes of a guy. And you will always be "boyfriend repellant" as long as THAT issue is not addressed.

If you don't know what to do when you get to a gym then look up plans on bodybuilding.com. And for the love of god stop using a f***ing scale to measure your fitness. It doesn't measure fitness. At this point anything you do to lose what fat you have left HEALTHILY will only replace it with muscle and/or water weight. So stop f***ing weighing yourself. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Even if you lose 30 pounds (which I don't recommend), you still won't be satisfied with yourself. You're trying to focus on what you think are physical imperfections because those are at least somewhat more manageable and easy to fix. But what you really need to work on is how you see yourself.

Once you learn to love yourself and be comfortable and confident with who you are, your weight won't be that "thing" holding you back. Because it's not. You are the thing holding yourself back. Those pesky 10 pounds aren't why you're single.

It's because you have something inside you that you need to work on. I've been there. I still work out like a fiend and eat healthy but I'm in a much better place emotionally these days. Once you realize this you'll be a much happier individual.

[WoIIie]

Focus less on losing 10lbs and focus more on what's wrong with that organ between your ears.

You'll never be happy if you refuse to embrace reality. The reality is, you're fit and attractive. There's nothing else to it. You can lose 10 pounds, gain 10 pounds, or stay the same. That doesn't change your mentality. You want to look like an ectomorph, which is completely unfeasible given your genetics.

That's like me saying I want huge broad shoulders and a perfect V-tapered look. My genetics won't allow me to ever have the kind of V-shaped body you see on muscle magazines unless I use unhealthy measures like steroids and implants or whatever. That's fine, there are people who accept that, and most of all, I've learned to accept that. Acceptance is something you need more than anything.

[c7777]

5'7 and 135 lbs sounds like a good weight... since your feeling insecure about it doing something abotu it will probably make you feel a lot better but you seriously need a workout regime if you want to get anywhere. Obviously cardios going to need to be the main source of your excercise but weight lifting even for girls is important. Seriously if your going to run though don't go to the gym.There's nothing more boring then running on a treadmill. Go outside and run if its possible.

-also you said you do 'toning excercises' if you think you can tske fat off in certain areas... your wrong. Fat goes off like it comes on your body (evenly according to your genetics) So 'spot trainning' doesn't work. You need to workout your entire body and the weight will come off evenly.

[KaiserDivus]

Stop seriously, I have seen your questions before, your weight/ height is not a problem. Period. 135 at 5'7 is ideal and you need to honestly stop trying to push it lower. If a guy has a problem with this then he is not worth it to you. You need to realize that you are awesome and then use that self confidence to get the guy you want

[taster]

You are a really hot female...you need to smile more, relax and exude a friendly persona...I always like what I see when I look at you...but I have no personality to go on whatsoever..you maintain "radio silence" with me..but I get the same thing from some other guys I talk to on here...(:

[jimmy217]

its because your insecure. There are way less attractive girls in relationships. Ur personality is the problem not your body. So fix that. Based on all the questions iv seen you post on gag id say you should see a shrink so you can figure what's wrong with u. You have like body dismorphmic disorder or whatever it called. Ul hate your body no matter what you do. Fix your head and ul like your body.

[AltTech]

Maybe you should stop listening to yourself and start listening to everyone else.

Your weight sounds perfect for your height. Don't become a stick girl.