I have already lost 177 doing cardio and now I want to look better.

[ForestCrush]

OK. I joined a gym today and I signed up for a personal trainer 2 times a month, all I can afford. I have already lost 177 doing cardio and now I want to look better. They determined today that I have 20percent body fat which makes me feel 10 times worse than I did before. I eat whole wheat stuff but I feel nothing will make me look good. I have made an appointment for braces. I have some excess skin from my weight loss that I hope I can correct. I feel like nothing I do will be good enough for the girls of today and I fear of becoming a lose when I am older, I am 20. I am almost done my 8 month college course.

[crookthings]

First of all, 20% body fat isn't bad at all... Seriously.

Second of all, you DO look good.

Last of all... it's really common for people to lose a ton of weight and then still not feel good about themselves. This is where autonomous self-esteem needs to come in. You're already taking care of yourself, but now you're just focusing too much on what OTHER people want from you. You can't waste your life trying to please people, especially when it comes to your appearance. I know this all sounds cliche but I'm so frustrated hearing people say, "I'm not hot enough for anyone so I'll probably be forever alone" like that's what love is. If I can find love twice at my size, I'm sure you can with a bit of flab and crooked teeth. Own it.

[ForestCrush]

The guy guy said 20 percent was terrible.

[crookthings]

Ideal for a man is 13-17%, so 20% is just considered SLIGHTLY more. 20% is actually the ideal for a woman so it can't be that bad, haha.

Honestly, I think people are meant to have a large variety of fat amounts from person to person, it's not black and white. Some work-out junkies will tell you, "YOU'VE GOTTA BE 5% OR YOU'RE FAT."

[ForestCrush]

I have no muscles and look kind of pathetic especially since I am 177

[crookthings]

So?

Sounds like my boyfriend and I happen to adore his body.

[brownchic]

Wowww that's a big achievement right there! I would say stop being shallow and be yourself !

[ForestCrush]

I am nowhere near shallow. Its everyone else who is

[brownchic]

i know then why are you pleasing them? just be yourself she should appreciate the person you are not how you look!

looks are just icing on the cake...thats all

[Anonymous]

Focus on 3 exercises.

1. Bench press

2. Squats

3. Deadlifts.

[ForestCrush]

I have a trainer twice a month now, I just signed up, so he is going to help me look noraml and get toned

[Yeahhbro]

dude relax...

[ForestCrush]

why?