Should I meet him now, or after I lost weight?

[Anonymous]

My brother introduced me to his friend, whom said I would love his younger brother. His younger brother is my age (21). I Sykped his younger brother that week, and we really hit it off. Like a lot. We been talking for months now. Weird thing is we live in the neighboring towns but never hung out. I've only even seen one picture of him and it was tiny lol. But we talk like every night.

I'm fat, but not like FAT fat, just kinda fat. He knows, kinda. Maybe five months ago my mom put me on the South Beach Diet and it's actually work (Thank GOD), and I lost 37 lbs. I have that much more to go before I'm a cute size.

My question is Do I meet him now? or after I lost more weight and am cuter? I think we could really have something but it also seems dumb to just put it off for months.

Do I meet him now? or after I lost more weight? I want him to like me.

[Anonymous]

Bangs head on desk. Sorry, head to get that out of the way. You're mentioning that you'll be cuter just reminds me how the media is feeding a ton of garage to everyone.

Since I have no clue on your weight, I can't say if it is good or not. All I can say is what is generally most important for a guy is that the girl has a weight that is healthy for her height. So make sure on your diet you don't over do it and get unhealthily skinny thinking that's what guys want.

As for this guy, why not meet him now? You said you hit it off, and he knows how you look. You also admit it's silly to put it off. If the guy doesn't like you when you meet, knowing you're working to lose more weight, than he obviously isn't the guy for you.

I would never stop talking to a girl who I hit it off with just because she wasn't some super model. Heck, I like women with some extra weight. (Note this is part of why I hate the media blasting everyone with "You have to be Skinny.") As long as the woman is healthy and the personality is there, she's a good catch.

So go meet the guy and see what happens.

[Acuzio]

It depends on whether or not you think your weight will influence his first impression of you. If you think so, then wait until you're ready. Otherwise, see him when you want. You'll only continue to become healthier as the relationship progresses.

[annwyl-cariad]

Oh, the South Beach diet is AMAZING, I've just finished phase 1 and have lost 10 pounds! Congrats!

Anyway, to answer your question for real: the longer you put off meeting him, the more he's going to think that either you're not interested or you're hiding something. The fact that you live so close and haven't met up yet is surprising, especially if you've been talking for months and you've met his brother.

I say, since you're talking to him every night and he seems interested, then if you meet up with him, he's probably not going to suddenly lose interest based on your weight. So go for it, and don't wait to be "cuter." If he likes you for who you are, he won't care if you've got a few extra pounds, and if he does care, he's not worth your time. I suspect, though, from what you've said, that you and he will be just fine.

Oh, and I'm quite sure that you're not as fat as you think you are. Most girls aren't. And curves are beautiful too. :)

[Experience-Babe]

Well think about this..Do you want him to like you for your looks?Or for your personality?Or for both?If you say for your looks then your completely wrong..And that makes you sound unconfident. I'm not trying to be mean but I don't wanna lie either...So if you want meet him now and see if you guys could continue to be the same..If he doesn't like you then its his lost not yours..There will be other guys..And even better!!Besides you say your gonna lose more weight so its ok. If your gonna keep doing it..So be confident and show him the really you and see how he likes you..Thats what I think..GOOD LUCK.

[JCvarsityFootball]

It seems he like you for he's personality since youve been talkin online for months now. GO MEET HIM, AND MAKE SURE UR BEHAVIOUR DOESNT CHANGE AND IS THE SAME AS THAT YOU HAD ONLINE. If you're not the same as you were online, then he's probably not going to like you, and he will stop talking to you, seems like ur fat, sooo all you have is personality. I KNOW IT SOUNDS MEAN AND ALL, BUT YOU HAVE TO WORK ON YOUR STRENGTHS. YOUR PERSONALITY. AND ON THE WAY also WORK ON UR WEIGHT.That takes more time tho

[Anonymous]

I think you should meet him now and not wait to lose weight.

Also...I know this is a little off topic but please don't start obsessing about weight. Congrats on your success so far though :) Don't let it take over your life however. That's how I became anorexic, I was a bit overweight, started dieting, got way out of control and it's been hard times since then, though I'm working on getting better.

Good luck, sweetie.

[BeautifulDoll-]

The way he'll like you is if you be yourself. (even you weight.) a guy looks for girls that are themselves. You need to stop loosing weight and ho and seem him now.