When do his opinions turn controlling?

[assley]

My boyfriend and I have been dating about a year and a half. We have gotten serious. He knows I want to marry him and he told me he wants to marry me. We are both religious and have somewhat similar upbringing. He was raised just a little stricter than me. We have always gone to church together on Sundays. I wear the same few outfits every week. A little sundress and a sweater over it so I don't show too much skin. Or jeans and a shirt. We live in Louisiana so it's always warm. I usually wear some type of dress. One day he told me he didn't want me to show cleavage at church. I didn't think I was but I made sure to consider it when I dressed the next week. When next Sunday came he said it was still too much. This week the dress was too short and he refused to go, so I changed into a longer dress and wore something under it to cover all the cleavage. We got in a big discussion about how I need to dress like a Muslim. He wasn't serious but he means I need to dress a lot more conservatively. He did say he didn't care how I dress except for when we go to church but he always has made comments about my shorts and boobs and stuff I wear other places. I never thought anything of it. Today I got upset and told him I wasn't trying to be sexy I just need him to clearly explain what he thinks is church acceptable. He said I don't have to try (to look sexy). he doesn't want anyone looking at me ever but he tolerates how I dress everywhere. I don't dress slutty. I'm 5'11 and have D size boobs. Everything is short, I'm not fat, so I always have trouble fitting my body and covering up. He says he doesn't care if I make my own clothes I need to cover up more. I just want to know if y'all think he's bordering on controlling or if its just normal guy stuff.

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+1 y

We broke up :( he dragged it out. One day we were planning our Christmas Day the next he says if I went to church with him it would be just as friends. Asshole.

[vmw2008]

I've never dated a guy who has ever told me what to wear. Short of my asking whether he thought something looked good on me or not. To my knowledge, none of my friends have either. My guy likes it when I look good while we're out together. I wouldn't think your guy was controlling if it was one question, politely asked, over an outfit that was clearly inappropriate for church. His behavior has been constant despite your efforts to make him happy. That gives me the impression he just likes telling you what to do.

[Purplemonkey1234]

That's starting to sound controlling to me. My boyfriend may say that he thinks I should try a different top or something if he's a little unhappy with my state of dress but that rarely happens as I also don't dress slutty.

But when he won't leave the house or makes you change that's just not really fair and is definitely controlling to some degree :/

[TheUglyOne]

Jealous and controlling. If you don't want to dress like a nun, you shouldn't have to. There's nothing wrong with dressing nice, and it's possible for a girl to dress nice without revealing too much. And he has jealousy issues if he's worried other guys will notice you. Me, I don't mind when other guys notice my wife. In fact, I'd be worried if no other guy did lol.

[Anonymous]

Why don't the two of you go through your closet during some down time and go over it all so you can be on the same page. For the pieces that he doesn't like, why not offer to split the cost to replace them with something you both like? Compromise so both of you can be happy without being resentful of the others' actions is what makes a happy relationship.

[TheDigitalSaint]

D size boobs can be hard to cover up all the time. You could tell him, if he's happy to help replace parts of your wardrobe, you'll be willing to send him links to stuff you'd like that will work and he can shop for you. :)

[Deft_maiden]

The very first moment he intrupts to remind you of the right thin ( in his opinion ).

Never put up with it. EVER!

[Deft_maiden]

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