Why is he jealous?

[Anonymous]

I dated a guy for 4 months, we broke up on 27 Feb. We still talk as friends, but every time I go out with another guy, he has a fit. Will text me, email me and tell me how he is jealous, and ask me not to sleep with them. What is the deal? I told him last night after he did this again, he isn't being fair and needs to either step up and say how he is feeling or keep those thoughts to himself. Why do you think he is saying those things in the first place?

[993099142]

I am saying this from personal expereince... He is jealous because he loves you for who you are and is passionately devoted to you. I used to idolise and worship this guy becuse he wore brand name clothing, had good taste in fashion, was charming and really good looking. I thought about him all the time... and when he went out with a nother girl... I was vaguely unhappy for one week and then I got over it. I met another guy that I was completely in love with because he was kind, honest, hard working, pure, sincere, caring, compassionate, understanding, humble, considerate, loving, generous and selfless... and I wanted to kill myself every time I saw him talking to a pretty girl. I've been clinically depressed in the past to the point where I wanted to cut myself with a knife... but that wasn't half as bad as seeing the man I love with someone else. I think the more devoted you are to the person, the more jealous you become when you see them with someone else. You can't always control your feelings, if you could everyone would be happy.

[Anonymous]

from past experience its an ownership type thing. its a bad reference but just imagined that he peed on your leg and the longer you stay with him the more he considers you still his. the only way to stop this insanity is not by slowly creating distance but out and out giving him an choice. you either tell me how you feel and be with me or quit your sh*t and let me get on with my life. it may hurt the hell out of you if he chooses the latter but all in all it will be the best thing you can do for yourself.

[Chunk-Stonechest]

You have a problem child on your hands. Mr. X has a problem with boundaries. He may not be mature enough to act as your buddy. Don't have these discussions, and start creating more physical and emotional distance. In other words, you need to quit seeing this man. If you're lucky, he'll respect your space and leave you alone. If you're not so lucky...

[jacquesvol]

You broke up. He has NO right to any regard in your life or feelings.

WHY? Still in love, still feeling he "owns" you, feeling protective.