Shouldn't he be spending time with me, not at the gym?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend works late during the week, and then goes to the gym after work. So I don't see him at all Monday-Thursday. He goes everyday, shouldn't be be able to at least skip ONE day of the gym to see him?

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+1 y

But shouldn't there be a commitment to me and my feelings? I won't notice the difference if he skips going to the gym a few times a month. Especially since we just started dating, you'd think he'd be interested in building the relationship, I can only see it getting worse from here.

[madhatters4]

first decide if you need this (to see him during the week) in the relationship. if yes, just talk to him about it. if he is unwilling to compromise somehow, cause after all relationships are most often about compromise, perhaps he isn't the guy for you. perhaps he doesn't have his priorities in order or his priorites are not aligned with your own

[martyfellow]

Everone needs at least one rest day a week, if he's really training hard for something. Maybe he just goes to the gym to flirt with the aerobics instructors? I used to do that!

[Anonymous]

He made a commitment to himself that he would stay in shape.

As someone that works out (or used to), I know how hard that is to break.

At least he sees you when he has more time available.

[Opinion Owner]

@update: You are right. He should make more commitment to you. 7 days a week? He should give his body a day or two to relax because he can be doing more damage than good. If you see each other a little bit already, he should try to see you more often. You should be on top of his list as well. Tell him how you feel about this.

[Opinion Owner]

You aren't asking for too much. So this shouldn't be a big deal. If he declines you need to question your relationship . Good luck.

[xzinax2]

i knew a couple like that. he broke up with her via text.

[rocksongwriter]

How romantic!

[xzinax2]

very. she didn't see the text and went up to kiss him when she saw him on the street-he didn't say a word,just turned his cheek and walked away.

[Asker]

Because of the gym? Haha

[xzinax2]

point is-he doesn't want to be with you enough to give up the gym-it would be fine if he went to the gym,but still made time for you,Monday-Thursday is a long time to not see your partner.

[Anonymous]

I guess so. But the downside will be he won't look as good.

[rocksongwriter]

Right, and she'll probably break up with him then.

[Anonymous]

he should you should talk to him and see if you can compromise on something.

[Anonymous]

no, he can do what he wants too

[Anonymous]

i think you shouldn't be bothering him about that

[Asker]

Why?

[Anonymous]

you are not married he can do whatever he wants to