I don't know what is wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

Ok so I have no idea what in the hell is up. I must let things get to me way too much or focus on the most irrelevant things. So I cannot tell if girls like me or want to get to know me. Like at work today there is this one girl in particular that I want to ask out sometime, we've bullshitted back and forth a few times but never really had a good conversation. There are times when she talks to me and then there are other times where she just responds with like one word without looking me in the face. I'm just so clueless and it really really takes up a lot of my thinking when it shouldnt. It isn't just this one girl...it is any girl that I find pretty or that I would like to know. Like I know I'm not ugly but I just can't figure girls out. It just bums me out that I want a girl so bad to cuddle with and hangout with and just love...someone who I can connect with and share anything with, to take care of and protect. I know I should be content with myself and let girls come to me but it really doesn't seem to be working out that way...idk if I'm just boring or unattractive or what but I could really use some help...its pathetic

[Anonymous]

Well try not to read too much into single word answers and stuff.

It kind of sounds like the co-worker has no idea whatsoever that you might like her or something.

If she really dislikes you she will frown or avoid you if she can or give you the silent treatment.

Of course at work people are forced to get along also so don't take advantage of that fact.

Being turned down really is not as excruciating and ego damaging as people think it will be.

Everybody EVERY person has been turned down who ever really put themselves out there

Best thing to do is just ask them do to an activity. Bike ride, watch a movie, see a music show. Or kind of lead up to it and figure out what they are interested in. Ask them about if they like music and stuff, what they do for fun etc.

[Jade4]

no you're not pathetic, there are bundles of the same q's on this site. Look it's not that hard, ask the girl out..she says yes? Yay! She doesn't? OK you feel a big bad for a couple hours and move on. That's it, that's the worst that can happen. The key is to not wait so long until you've built your hopes up so that a no really hurts. You're just nervous :) think of it as applying for a job, essentially you're applying for the job of boyfriend, you have an interview (date) but you don't get your foot in the door if you don't put in an application (ask her out) worst thing that can happen is she laughs at you (in which case she's an unfeeling b**** and better you know now. Move on) or she says no and you're free for the next girl that comes along

[Jade4]

Thanks got if the ba! I hope she says yes but regardless you've just got to at least ask! Good luck!

[sunny321]

Well, personally I have a friend who has feelings for me and I don't have these same feelings for him, in fact he annoys me such as when he flirts or makes it obvious he likes me, which is when I text one word answers to him...maybe distance yourself for a little and see what happens...if she comes to you then you have a shot but if she doesn't then she may not feel the same way and you should try to find another girl as to not ruin your coworker friendship

[Anonymous]

Ask close girl friends to evaluate you

[Asker]

I don't really have any girl friends..thats my problem. I can't seem to find that median in between flirting with every girl and just being friends...girls just seem so different than guys and I would love to just have friends who are girls too but I don't know if they think I'm just hitting on them

[Opinion Owner]

I'll be your friend! Where are you from?

[Asker]

lol illinois. anonymous person