Pushing girls away because of your past?

[Anonymous]

For years I went without any female attention and it sucked, then that changed. I gained a lot of weight then lost it a while later. What happened when a girl would try to flirt is I didn't feel her interest was genuine, so I pretty much ignored her advances. I even had a girl hit on me, who showed no in me before. She had the nerve to get upset because I didn't want her.

I don't feel this way anymore, but I felt like I couldn't trust any girl. Not only did I not have any girls into me when I was big, but I didn't have any gils into me before I gained the weight. The initial attraction was flattering, but I didn't trust anyone.

Now for the record, I didn't become mysogynistic because of loneliness. Do you think I was unreasonable by pushing girls away, or my distrust was justified?

[clashcity22]

Distrust is always justified because you have to learn to trust people. I know the feeling because I was used by girls to make the ex jealous. I liked them but they didn't like me and that made it hard to trust any girl that showed interest in me. It the only girlfriend I ever had a year and a half to gain my trust and most girls would have given up. She was persistent. I learned to trust her and I was totally happy for once. You are justified in feeling this way, but sometimes you just need to take a chance, leave your comfort zone and just go with it. Give a girl a chance.

[toulouse]

lol give a girl a chance ;p

[yopyopyop]

I know the feeling. I went through this too.

Even if your body lost the weight, your brain has to acknowledge it.

There is no need to trust someone from the start. It comes progressively.