What should I do about this?

[Anonymous]

I'm an adult (23) but due to financial issues I still live at home. Yes, I have a job but the pay is terrible so I can't afford to get my own place and yes, I'm trying to get a better job but really where I'm at not many opportunities really. That's not the issue nor do I want to get into it.

The problem is my mother is too nosy! If my cell rings and I walk to my room to talk in private, it's like "Who was that on the phone? " Or if I'm doing my thing in my room she'll walk in without knocking pretending she needs something from me or needs to tell me whatever or show me something or say something like "This or that's on tv, thought you'd like it" but really I know she just wants to see what I'm doing. If I'm on my laptop she'll walk around trying to see what's on the screen. I'm just so annoyed by this. Just this morning I had a tiny outburst at her because I was getting ready for work and she goes "Where you on the phone last night, I thought I heard giggles coming from your room, who was it, was it insert name of someone" I was on the phone but I'm so sick of it I just said no, I laugh in my sleep she was like mm are you sure, come on were you on the phone? (It was my cell) so I just snapped. I told her I'm an adult and need my privacy sometimes. Then I went to work.

I'm not a bum either. I help around the house and help cover expenses like cable, rent, food etc. She doesn't want me to move out either (not that I could even if I wanted to).

What should I do about this? I feel like such a little kid and I'm not.

[NotSoBad]

I have a father who does the same thing we should hook them up!

I'm a little older and I just moved back home this past year. He is always walking in my room, calling me up to tell me what is on TV, he'll even stand in the bathroom while I'm brushing my teeth. I think it is because they just want to be part of our lives. They are our parents but in the end they are only people and they want what all of us do. As you get older people become more lonely and may feel as though they should spend more time with family. I think your mother wants to be more included in your life.

If I were you I would do the mature thing and try to talk to her a little bit before she asks you. Come home and tell her a funny story about your day or include her a little on the details of the guy you just met. It will make her feel better and she will feel closer to you without having to hunt you down and try to force you to spend time with her.

But also remember that you are entitled to your privacy. So make it clear that when she walks in your room to knock first. I always tell my dad that one day he's going to walk in on me having sex and then he's going to feel really uncomfortable. Good luck