Get married or focus on school?

[Anonymous]

So I'm engaged we've been engaged for a year. I'm going to graduate college when I'm like 30. I wouldn't mind getting married sooner but a friend told me to just focus on college. My fiance wants me to make more to get married. I already make money and so does he. I'm in no rush but I don't want the main point of getting married is the amount of money I have like one of the vows is for better or worse. I know some of my cousins got married and were in college and still married. I guess it just depends on the person.

[Anonymous]

money is actually pretty important for a successful stable life. sooo yeah i'd say focus on college. it's better to get married in your 30's anyways. plus, you said you're in no rush. also, don't compare yourself to your cousins marriages. those could end in a few years or 10 years, no one knows.

[Asker]

Yeah no rush but not waiting around forever lol been together for 7 years

[Opinion Owner]

well you're engaged so it's not like you're waiting forever.

[Twistedcinna]

From experience, I think you can have both. You aren’t dropping out of college to get married and you aren’t dropping your guy to get a degree. I did what you’re proposing. I graduated in my late 20s and I wish I hadn’t put off my wedding. We’ve been together for 10.5 years. It feels weird and silly to make a show of a wedding now. We’re in our life together, we aren’t just starting, and the decision was made 9 years ago that we wanted each other. Now I’m interested in putting money towards a house and children, not a wedding. But I don’t have the photos or dress I’ve always wanted. So, I’m at a loss.

I’d recommend celebrating your happy now while it’s fresh and new and exciting. You can have a wedding without the glitz and glam of spending $10k on a wedding. Enjoy each other and enjoy the joy from your friends and family at your union. That’s more important and something you don’t want to miss. Tomorrow isn’t guaranteed for anyone.

[Asker]

That's true

[Part2603]

Huh? Are you talking about the appropriate time to cohabitate? You trying to save up money for an elaborate ceremony?

[Asker]

People feel like I should wait for marriage instead of doing both

[Kreneman]

I believe you can handle both, you and your fiancé are on the right track of getting married.

[Asker]

I feel I can too.

[Kreneman]

🙂😉

[LazerBean]

That really weird that he cares about you making more money before you get married. Not the type of guy I would give attention to, but that's just me.

[Asker]

Yeah he lost a lot of money for him to care about what I make. I don't even care what he makes

[Lunatic1]

I would focus on school, but the call is yours.

[Asker]

Thanks