Equal. Any imbalance will create resentment and of course an IMBALANCE in the relationship. It will be felt, maybe not today, not tomorrow, but definitely somewhere down the line. Someone will feel not good enough and there will be actual tangible evidence for it! Maybe not at first but deep inside they will feel it through the other person's subconscious actions.
In my 38 years of life, I have learned that people speak BOTH verbally AND non-verbally and I feel that the non-verbal sends more of a concrete message if that makes any sense. I feel that if you ask ANYONE whether they'd rather hear the words "I love you" from their partner or have them DISPLAY it, the majority will choose actions vs. words! I think it's because TALK IS CHEAP! ANYONE can say it and they can even look you in the eye and say it, especially if they are really good at lying, habitual liars, and or just really good actors/manipulators! It's the actions that carry more weight because they are usually the ones that bring more concrete results! Sure, I am not saying that words mean sh*t but like I said, when it comes down to it, the words AND actions preferably have to match because the actions are the ones that truly DISPLAY how one feels! .. And like I said, takes more EFFORT to execute!
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First off, the belief in equality is dumb. It doesn't exist in nature. It has never existed in human transactions. You can strive to try to keep it fair, but the 50-50 always is a dynamic ratio that floats around. Anyone who has been in a serious relationship knows this.
If you expect equality in the relationship, you will not be happy. There will be times you will be wondering why it all lands on you, or you will take it for granted when things get easier for you. It's a recipe for disaster.
This is where having good communication counts. Setting boundaries is smart. Working through issues is king, because no relationship is perfect, and above all a lot of work. When it slides to 60-40, even 70-30, knowing how to ask for help and not blow up is a skill not many peoplr want to mess with, and as a result find a lot of disappointment. They may even struggle and keep coming out of, and going into many relationships with the wrong outlook.
Your relationship is going to look like a boat on waving water. The boat is going to rock side-to-side, depending the weather. The trick is not to let the boat just constantly list to one side. That's when boundaries are being constantly broken and abused. And if you're worth your salt, you will know how to ask for help and keep it afloat. Not jump ship everytime the stormy seas set in.
Honestly you love someone or you don't... not sure if two people truly do love each other, that it is possible for one person to love the other more or less then the other. I mean how do you measure one's love, and determine who's is more or less?
One would think that they love each other period and that's enough for both of them. After that it comes down to love language, and if they make you feel loved and appreciated in return.
According to the Bible:
This says that both should be equal in regards to love.
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You can be equal in the household and in life but no way to measure love mathmatically. Sure you can feel one or the other in a couple might show more love then the other but doesn't mean the love isn't there.
Love is shared but responsibilities are weighted more towards the man.
It should be pretty well equal
I think the husband should love the wife and the wife respect the husband.
He should lead and she should respond.
sizes and proportions should be give and take and balanced. Start putting that into some formula and I think you get into trouble.
I think it should be equal.
To address your Bible passage: "wife love your husband as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it. "
Remember that church also suffered and gave many lives for Christ. Martyrs for example.
In the case where love matters, I think it works when it is unequal and the man loves the woman more.
I think, for a healthy relationship, the woman should love the man at least the same or more. Because if a man loves the woman more she will know it and make use of him and manipulate him, also (before you call me misogynist) women are geberally more attracted to a man 2ho isn't so reliable and desperate for a girl. They want to feel wanted not needed
How on earth do you measure it to know its equal. Asking isn't a good way since 99% of people who love their partner will just say yes to avoid some weird, awkward 'yeh but do you love me this much' conversation.
I suppose love could be measured by sacrifice. What is each partner willing to leave behind in the pursuit of the other happiness
It has to be equal. Experience once being married in a loveless marriage. It's hard. I've learned my lesson. I do have regrets us woman we need to focus on finding a Christian guy who believes in God.
I would hope you both love each other to the best of your ability. You should both be trying to make the other one happy, when you don't the marriage fails.
if you dont want a divorce, its best for both husband and wife to be equal.
We have zero control over love, unfortunately.
I would say neither because it’s selfish. They will be taking or looking to take from one another. Love isn’t something you do but you are.
It should be equal it was delicate to start the relationship to begin with to get things into balance.
I would think the same. I mean why should any person be with somebody who doesn’t care about them just as much?
If you both equally love each other a whole lot that is ideal.
Unless the woman loves the man more, it won't work.
It should be equal. If it isn't there might be some problems
hate to bust everyone's bubble but marriage is 90%womam and 10%man
No love in life is EVER equal. But if it's healthy it ebbs and flows to where at times they love eachother as much.
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