My boyfriend hasn't spent any money on me at all... After a whole year?

[Anonymous]

I am absolutely in love with this man... I don't spend money on him in hopes that he will also buy me things. But here's the deal, whenever I am at the mall and I see something that I know he would love, no matter how expensive, I buy it for him. And I don't exactly make loads of money. I love him so much and I want him to know I think about him all the time. I don't expect that he'll start buying me amazing things... But if he really loves me as much as he says he does, wouldn't he be doing the same thing as me? Seeing something and being like "She would love that"? Is it that I know him better than he knows me? He just told me how excited he was that he was gonna buy this 700 dollar phone for himself. I know he makes enough money... I'm sort of upset. We have never been in a fight and I don't want one to start over this either. :( I would never want to lose him, but I'm afraid that maybe he doesn't love me.

[Darkfairie17]

I wouldn't worry about it. I mean you love this guy, that is what matters. You shouldn't worry about how much money he is spending on your or not spending in your case. Gifts are material things, they are only good for so long and them become tossed or broken. I would focus more about how well the other aspects of your relationship with him is going than worry about him spending money.

If you can't afford it, curb your spending. You don't have to buy him expensive things just because. You can spend your time and effort on less expensive things, like cooking a dinner, or planning a romantic picnic or a nice stroll in the park. Those are things that create romantic memories and don't cost a whole lot of money.

Plus guys are not like girls, they do not like shopping. I know my boyfriend hates spending money, but gets excited if it's something he really wants and he will drop money for it.

Also feel good that your boyfriend is confident in your relationship that he doesn't feel he has to buy you things. I know a lot of guys who have to buy their gf's love so to speak. They buy their girl so many nice things, as a way of trying to buy her love. It's obvious, I love my friends but I don't think they should have to spend a lot of money in order to get the love they desire. I have never received an extravagant gift from any guy. My love is not for sale, I just require that they treat me right.

So I wouldn't worry too much, if you love him, that should be what counts.

[BrokenMe]

guys don't do shopping as much as we do, and when they do it's probably because they have to ! not everybody buys whatever they think might get their lover excited some don't pay a bug untill it's a birthday or valentine's

[mgaffers95]

the big word dump comes to mind haha