As some of you might know, I am a lady who is strong and have grit. I walk the talk and I have sass. Therefore, I will give you my guide on being absolutely fabulous and self confident. Now it took me years and many tears to get where I am. I thank my parents, friends and God for giving me confidence. I mean, I just became extremely confident 3 years ago! I am turning 27 soon! So guys and girls, you will get there. However, I would like to share with you some pointers on maybe cutting that time in half.
This take is for both guys and girls.
1) Stick to your guns
Never EVER let anyone attack your style or your personality. I am not saying that you shouldn’t be open to legitimate suggestions if you know in your heart of hearts that you need to listen to that suggestion. Let me give you an example. My style of clothes is not for the “common people”.
That means I like to have fun when I dress and I LOVE IT when people admire the beauty that is me. For example, I had one guy said to me that he doesn’t like my profile picture. Therefore, it is there forever now J. See what I did there? Another example is a fellow colleague of mine told me that she hated my fire engine red trench coat. I wore that coat for 2 muthaf***ing weeks and I ensure that I wear it once a week! Just to spite the bitch.
Also, when it comes to certain issues, I like to stick to what I believe in and like to exercise my right to free speech and girls couldn’t handle what I have to say because they are piss weak.
2) Learn how to throw shade
I suggest you watch Rupauls Drag Race. No one is as shady and as sassy as drag queens. Girls, maybe try and hang out with guys. There is no one shadier than them. Guys unknowingly have the BEST insults. Even the shy, quiet ones.
If you can get your hands on a gay guy, NEVER LET HIM GO. Hang out with him until he gets a restraining order. When I was in Highschool, it was Wear Whatever You Want Day. I am quite busy so I was wearing a top that I tended to go low. I jiggle when I walk so a bunch of girls were trying to get me down by humiliating me by saying: BOOBIES! BOOBIES! BOOOOOOBIEEEEES! Really loud. I turned around and retoreded “At least I have some” with this face.
The whole school went so quiet, you could hear a pin drop.
3) Never EVER let someone see you cry or get upset.
If you have to cry, go outside or do it when you go home. I understand that sometimes emotions well up but try with all your might to control it. When I need to cry, I normally think of happy thoughts in front of the person. Then I discreetly and swiftly make my way outside to have a tear or two. Then I make calm down and make up my face. You can grieve later. I find this reaction always works.
4) Beautiful clothes and makeup will help a little
I hate to be one of those bitches that tell you what you should and shouldn’t wear. But I believe that taking a little extra time to make yourself awesome looking helps. Personally, I always, ALWAYS incorporate a bit of bling to whatever I am wearing to zhuszh up my look. I always struts and hold my head up high as well. You will never see me looking like other people with their noses in their phones. You attitude will AUTOMATICALLY be about 80% more confident when you wear something cute.
5) Never be intimidated by anything
Now this takes a bit of practice. There will be many obstacles that life will throw at you that will make you want to pee your pants. Such as a job interview, asking that guy/girl out, getting an A on a really hard exam. Whatever it is, see it as a personal challenge and take that bull by the horns. If you fail, do better next time. If you pass, the pride you will have is more strong than any drug.
6) Wear your heart on your sleeve
And be strong. Never let any shut you up. You have your opinions, you stick to it and I always like to tell the truth. I cut to the chase because I find that it is my way of helping people. It might not be the best way but that is just me. I wear my heart on my sleeve.
7) Do the best in everything that you do. Never be half arsed.
I cannot stand half arsed people. I do everything with all my heart and soul because I want people to see that I am not only a pretty face. I work damn hard at my work place, in terms of keeping house and generally anything that I get my hands on. Being the girl that does everything shitty is the worst insult ever.
8) Accept rejection and find someone better
I see girls and guys crying in GAG and wondering why that person doesn’t like them. WHO THE HELL CARES!! I have had my fair share of rejections in which I have driven home completely deflated. Then I flipped my hair, became my fabulous self again and did this.
9) Update yourself
Update your look, get a new haircut, get a new lipstick, get a new outfit/suit, get a degree or certificate. Do something worthwhile that will earn you confidence and/or moolah!
10) Have a thick skin
You need to welcome constructive criticism with open arms and apply it to your life. Only if the criticism is legitimately constructive and not because some jealous person wants to live your life.
11) Have a bit of sass
Be sassy. Tell the truth and have fun with your life and have fun with your attitude. Learn new facial features that pisses off horrible people and make you feel awesome. I would again watch Rupauls drag race and real housewives to learn some sass.
12) Try to be different than others
I find everyone to be a huge bore and similar to everyone. Therefore, everywhere I go, and every day, I get people looking at me. I love the attention. Not going to lie. I dress different, I act different, I try to have different interests. It makes you have awesome conversations with people and they will think you are amazingly cool. Never EVER blend into the crowd. That is personal suicide.
So there you have it. Stay beautiful, stay sassy, stay fabulous and stay classy.
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