He hasn't called me. Should I be upset?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend of a year went on a cruise with two of his friends. I'm not really mad about that but he hasn't called me once. even though he doesn't have a cellphone don't you think he could have called me off of his friends or something? he's been gone for 2 days and no phone call. I've been a wreck. would it b wrong of me to tell him it makes me upset that he wouldn't trey to get a hold of me? I'm upsst.

[Louise123]

Honey, do not be upset. Guys do this ALL THE TIME!

It happened to me - and my sister - and let me tell you.. You are going about this ALL wrong! He's having a great time with his buddies - just let him enjoy it.. If you are hanging on his coattails wondering.. oh my oh my.. he has forgotten about me.. you sound NEEDY AND

THAT YOU HAVE NO LIFE OF YOUR OWN! The best thing you can do now is get busy - do what makes you happy - and when he gets back you can say you missed him but you were busy doing this, that, and the other thing! Makes you a MUCH more interesting person. Do you want to be the whiny, clingy, girlfriend who has to be joined at the hip 24 hrs a day? A guy hates that, Sweetie. He wants you to BE INDEPENDENT of him.. He has NOT forgotten about you -- How would it be if you went off with your girlfriends on a vacation to have big fun away from home - forgetting all your problems - the day to day baloney - and JUST CONCENTATING ON FUN.. but your boyfriend is complaining you didn't call? Absence makes the heart grow fonder. If he catches you coming and going - having a LIFE without him... YOU will be MUCH MORE ATTRACTIVE! TRUST ME! Guys HATE clingy women.. Please do not be one. Let him have fun. He will have PLENTY to tell you when he gets back! Don't act like he has to report to you. You're not his Mom. Act like a loving, free spirited, and FUN girlfriend who is happy her guy is out enjoying himself! If you bring him down by complaining.. he will only get upset and not understand why you didn't want him having fun...! SEE?

[hippy89]

I know same thing happening to me to. just leave it be. GUYS never text while on vacation or doing something fun. Texting isn't important to them as much as it is to us:( just wait till he gets home, until then just focus on other things

[sb630]

armensadvice is right...lots of guys hate talking on the phone. it's like being put on the spot to them...they have to talk on command (unlike texting, where they have time to think about what they're going to say) and have nothing visually stimulating (unlike talking in person, where they can look at you). if he doesn't have a cell phone, that's chief evidence of that.

it's only been two days, I wouldn't worry. he hasn't forgotten about you, he doesn't like you any less...he's just having fun on a cruise. also, his friends might not have service in the middle of open water. if you want to blow him away, don't try to get in touch with him for a week or so...and if you don't hear from him, when he comes home just let him know how much you missed him and then give him a night he'll never forget :)

yes, I mean THAT.

[Seaspray]

Let it go. He is having his "reset" time out there. Unless he cheats on you, does stupid things like killing someone- it is all good. When he comes back he'll shower you with hugs and kisses if he missed you as much. But don't worry or stress over this. :)

[ArmensAdvice]

My girlfriend and I have the same problem. Girls don't understand that there are a lot of guys who plain and simple HATE! talking on the phone. We only do it because we know how much it means to girls but its still gonna be hard especially if he's one of those guys ( I am too my girlfriend and I fight about this all the time). Don't freak out he is having lots of fun and being a guy with his buddies although you might not like it sometimes its good to have a few days apart like this. You say you have been with him for a year so I'm sure you trust him just let him have fun and do his thing.

One more thing... If he knows your the kind of girl who needs to talk at least once a day on the phone and you are not upset and don't get angry over this trust me he will notice and it will make him happy :).

[toulouse]

I hate talking on the phone.

Why can't you just say *I* hate talking on the phone instead of guys* do. Then you don't have to say girls don't understand, its just unnecessary and wastes time,

[themastaplan]

yo he's on a cruise...you don't get cell phone service...although you can pay for minutes I believe on the ship but let me tell you they are INSANELYYYYYYYYYYYYYY expensive...like $10/min...just let him go, have fun with his boys, I'm sure you're on his mind all the time - next time go on a cruise with him and you'll understand...

i wouldn't sweat it, I'm sure he'll contact you when he's back in the states...even on land elsewhere it will cost a lot of money to contact anyone

keep ur head up, don't over analyze

[Elcristoph]

Hello,

hes on a boat in the middle of the oceon and its only been 2 days and your already freaking out..

RELAX.. he's having fun with his freinds.. just live your own life and whan he gets back you can talk about what you both did..

TRUST me he is thinking about you, and he is looking forward to sharing his pics and storys with you

good luck

- Chris

[greeneyedgal1]

I am not making excuses for him, but when you are on a cruise you cannot get a signal for a cell phone. In addition, phone calls from the ship are very expensive. Depending on where he is traveling, he might call when he gets into a port. If you don't hear from him then I personally wouldn't hold it against him because it might be beyond his control. He has been with you for a year so I highly doubt a week long cruise will diminish his feelings for you.

Hang in there.

[msbossy]

i understand it may be frustrating baby ! but I think you can breath it is all OK just let him enjoy him self . go hang with your friends just to get that off your mind. it will be OK sweetie be happy for him and when he gets back he will be so excited to tell you about it.

[michiluv]

You need to take a chill pill...I mean he is trying to have fun with his friends and if they don't have reception, it costs to call people using the boats phone. He didn't forget you he is just having a good time and I don't think you should get upset with him for enjoying himself. Just tell him you missed him but don't be upset, you should go have fun yourself!

[roseamason]

no, its fine, two days really itsn't that long! go out and enjoy time with your friends, the time will pass quicker make him be the first to contact you. don't chase him, or it will happen again, remember when you first got together playing hard to get. do that now, men love to chase. if you want to contact him so bad then CALL HIM. two days is nothing just enjoy your time apart :)

[jackflynn7]

No, you shouldn't. You have a relationship. You do not own him. If you were married, yes. Otherwise, this is called a vacation from his everyday life and you are part of it.

[cherrylips57]

My brother is a sailor, and calling from a phone from the sea is near impossible - it's called 'ship to shore' costs a fortune and there are a lot of complicated codes involved...so he may have thought about it - but then found he just couldn't.

I hope that settles your mind.

[Smulan]

Just relax. You're spending too much effort on this right now. See him when he gets back, he will be excited to tell you everything about it!

[danissimo]

Chill out. You expect a phone call from him everyday while he's on vacation, on a boat, with his buddies? Come on now, let's be reasonable.

[femzee]

For the best when he comes back ask him nicely. Remember most guyz want some me time and it could be selfish sometimes.

[toulouse]

Girls like alone time too, its not really a gender issue just personality, She's asking about her boyfriend not guys, well anyways w/e its just everyone likes space sometimes,

[femzee]

most guys think alike (according to studies) more than girls do, but obviously I don't know her boyfriend but its just an option so she doesn't rush into conclusions.

Most girls love to be close and cuddled with their man most of the time unconsciously, because it gives a sense of security and warmth. Its just the way we are all wired. (these behaviors are iterative)

[DocClassic]

...how many times have you tried to call him/one of his friends?

[laurenbebawy]

dont let him know while he is on his cruise, save it for when he gets back...but when he gets back make plan with your girlfriends and play the same stupid game.guys are dumb, he will get the point when you got your plans and " no" time to call him.

[gehanmeme]

it is OK to tell him