My bestfriend and her boyfriend want me to have a threesome w them?

[probablynothuman]

So her and i are both 16, her boyfriend is 17. they’ve been dating for about 4 months now and kinda wanted to spice things up. I’ve never had sex, but they’re looking for another girl to have a “threesome” with. the other girl wouldn’t actually be having sex with the guy, just doing other stuff ya know? anyways they asked me if i’d be up for it and i think it would be kinda fun but i don’t want to ruin my friendship with either of them, my best friend can also get jealous but she insisted she really wanted to do this. anybody been in a similar situation? i need advice. i’d be comfortable doing it i just don’t want to ruin my friendship with my bff. i feel like it’d also be awkward. I don't know

do it since you’re semi comfortable w it. it will be a funny moment to look back on

don’t do it, your friendship will be ruined and you’ll be scared for life

girl I don't know do whatever tf ur little heart desires

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+1 y

this probably doesn’t change anything but the guy is very self conscious of size and my friend was saying he only really does stuff when it’s very dark, this would take away the awkwardness i was scared of

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guys i really need more advice, if you don’t want to leave a comment please vote, it helps a lot :)

[Anonymous]

If you do it, when you have contact with him, have it be in a way where she is sharing him with you (like you both give him a double blowjob).
Otherwise, focus attention on her. He'll like seeing that, and she doesn't need to feel jealous if your attention is on her, and not her boyfriend.

talk to her before, and after. tell her you did it because it was fun. because it was safe. because you trust her. but that you don't want what she has: you won't go after her boyfriend, and if other threesomes ever happen, it will be because she invites you, not because you push to join.
Tell him, in front of her, that if this happens, you can't, and won't, spend time with him without your bff present. no texts, no calls, nothing. because even if he is your friend too, he is your friend through her, and you want to be sure you don't do anything, even if innocent, that makes her have any cause to worry.

and when you talk to her about it afterwards, tell her things like how fun it was to see her with her boyfriend, so she sees you thinking about what had happened in the context of watching what he was doing to her, and enjoying her reaction, as opposed to making her think you were focused on her boyfriend.
Tell her how much you enjoyed doing things to her, or when she did things to you.
If she thinks you enjoyed her bfs presence and were glad you made him happy, but that your focus was on her, she has no reason to be jealous.

And, lastly, if things ever got awkward, make sure you tell her that you only agreed BECAUSE she was your friend, and if you shared that with someone, you wanted it to be with someone who was a friend, and that you wanted this to be something shared to make your friendship deeper, and not put strain on it.
Tell her, when talking to her about it, that you REALLY do want to do this, it sounds like a lot of fun... but your friendship with her matters more, and you'll only consider it if she is sure this will be a happy, shared memory, and not something that could ever come between you two.

[Shyguy2001]

I would say do it but i'm a guy so i'm not quite sure if my advice is good for a girl also you are kinda young aren't you? If u are going to do it then make sure that you aren't pressured into it make sure it's your own choice. Also make sure that before you do it there are some groundrules set and that you can leave if you want too. Oh and make sure that your female friend doesn't get jealous maybe focus on her a bit more than te guy unless she specifically asks you not to. Just a bit though not extremely much. But seriously do u want to do this? Is this what you want? Then go right ahead only you can choose what you want. Same goes for if you don't want to.
Anyway have a nice day.

[probablynothuman]

yeah i probably won’t do it. maybe if i wasn’t a virgin or had more experience i’d be more okay with it

[Shyguy2001]

Then there's your answer. Also being a virgin isn't a bad thing. If u ever do get into a real relationship then it will probably feel better losing it that way than in some random fling. Well not physically but mentally i think. Also when you tell your friend you don't want to do it. She will respect your choice if she is a good friend and you'll be able to laugh it off (hopefully).

[probablynothuman]

thanks for your advice :) also, she asked me earlier in the day and i told her it probably wouldn’t happen and she said that’s what she thought i would say, i didn’t really consider it until after. but yeah i totally agree, i just got out of a relationship with this piece of shit guy and i’m honestly so glad we never had sex, thinking about him just makes me cringe, if we had sex id never forgive myself for making such a poor choice in guys

[TayTay21]

Why does it have to ruin your friendship? I've done it and it was all good, as long as everyone knows what's up upfront.

[probablynothuman]

i just feel like it would be really awkward after, especially since it wouldn’t be a recurring thing

[TayTay21]

It all depends on how sexual y'all are. My friend and I are very sexual, and getting busy isn't embarrassing or awkward at all to us. My friend used to watch me have sex with my hs boyfriend.

[probablynothuman]

how did you transition into that though, like from being friends to being another person you’re sexually active with

[TayTay21]

We were both sexual to begin with. We always talked about boys and sex and we saw each other naked all the time. Neither one of us has any body shame at all, like we don't embarrass easily. It started when my friend told me she thought my boyfriend and I were a really hot couple and she'd love to watch us.

[probablynothuman]

okay, thanks for the advice :))

[TayTay21]

Any time! Just try to have fun with it. Good luck :)

[howlyz]

I agree with TayTay21

[Carley99]

And that's how you want to loose your virginity to your best friend's boyfriend

[probablynothuman]

if i wasn’t comfortable doing that i wouldn’t, there are many other things that we could do instead

[Carley99]

And if you were comfortable doing so and had no second thoughts you wouldn't be asking us this question

[probablynothuman]

i was speaking hypothetically, they’re my friends and wouldn’t force me to do things i wasn’t sure of doing. i was asking for peoples opinions, not asking people to judge/make the decision for me

[Carley99]

We don't know your friends as you don't so I wouldn't think of that as of us making decisions for you we are just giving advice that's all.

[eurochick]

If you trust them both it could be a fun experience.

[Drifter83UK]

@TayTay21 I'm assuming you're an exhibitionist like myself (no offense meant obviously). Some people don't know how to behave after, these people make it awkward for one another. You're right though, so long as everyone knows upfront it should be fine, the other side of it is... Is everyone in this scenario mature enough to deal with it as just a fun sexual experience?

[TayTay21]

Yeah, sex is never awkward for me. It's only awkward if you make it that way. I've never understood why people get so uptight over something so natural. But then, there are a lot of weirdos out there who make it difficult to trust and have fun.

[Drifter83UK]

I agree with you chica.
Maybe everyone needs to set some ground rules prior to an engagement lol.
I believe we need to nourish mind, body & spirit. Sex helps with all 3, especially if you can think outside of the box (obviously so long as you aren't hurting anyone).

Some people are still odd about the "taboos" of sexual implication or highly judgmental. I think it's pretty much idiocracy, so I believe "one must stop caring how others percieve us; for us to truly live freely" (again with out the intention to cause harm).

[BOUNTYGUY9]

spice things up a lot of shit they are young so are you they are using you don t do it you will regret it no sex with him l don t think he will come into the bed when you and the girl are making love he is ayoung pervert

[probablynothuman]

lol thanks for the concern but i’ve known both of them for 3+ years, there’s nothing to worry about

[BOUNTYGUY9]

cool l would not do it

[Aegis_Rex]

I wouldn't, threesomes tend to be very awkward for a number of reasons, and if you aren't 100% on board, don't do it.

[Futurelooker]

Don´t do it. I think this guy uses you, and is only out for sex.

[neoagent1]

never have 3somes with couples you know... strangers fine.. but it's going to get reallly awkward if it goes badly.

[probablynothuman]

that’s what i was scared of, has that happened to you?😂

[neoagent1]

I've had a few 3somes with friends with benefits so no romantic involvement.. i was fine after them

[Anonymous]

not only is this immoral

you're also way too young, in my opinion

DO NOT DO THIS

[Intraluminal]

Save it for later in life.

[Pulchraleonisx]

Girl what?

[probablynothuman]

lmao that’s what i said, then i kinda started considering it... I don't know

[cupidkisses]

do not do it