Does no car = no girlfriend?

[Subotai]

I am 20 I live at home and I don't have a car. I have a disability that makes it impossible to drive. I don't have a job at the moment I got laid off I hopefully will find one soon. It seems a lot of girls aren't interested for those reasons and a lot of people are ready to lay moral judgment on you. There is 20 percent unemployment most unemployed people aren't lazy some are but most are looking. Even If I get a job I am never gonna drive. I take the bus or even a train/walk I am an expert bus rider the way some people are expert drivers. I remember my aunt saying my older cousin has a boyfriend with a car and she's all excited, doesn't mean he earned it maybe his parents have plenty of money and bought him a car and will buy him entry into college and he will be out of his house with a car an "adult" but he will not have done a damn thing to earn it. I'm not trying to whine perhaps just advice for how to act around women how to explain my reality in a way that won't cause girls to check me off as undateable

[guy2017]

Unfortunately for many, guys, yes, no car, no girlfriend. On the same note, it usually means no sex either. The reason why some of the guys with no cars, may be able to get a girlfriend anyways, is if he's really hot looking and sadly, the girl just wants a hot guy. And about that disability issue, some might think its a perfect excuse. If you think about it, it makes complete sense why ones not working and has no car. Unfortunately many females don't care that the guy is not working because of a disability. They hear he has a disability, the guy will have to depend on her at some point. Even though she knows his reason for not working/ no car is a legit reason ( disability ) , it comes down to money with her. Its really quiet sad that comes down to that. By the way, I am in the same boat. I met this really nice woman. We were having such a great conversation. But when she asked what I did for a living and I brought up disability as an excuse for not working, she immediately become uninterested, like out great conversation never even happen. In my head I was thinking " what the hell man. Just because I can't work" So i know how you feel in some ways.

[Anonymous]

Don't worry about it, dude. If a girl refuses to give you the time of day because you don't have a car, you're legitimately unemployed (tons of people are), and/or you have a disability, then she's not worth your time anyway.

"How to explain my reality in a way that won't cause girls to check me off as undateable?"

This is all about confidence. These things aren't a big deal, but they'll become a big deal if you make them out to be. If it comes up in conversation, there's no reason to be nervous about it, just talk casually, be witty, use self-deprecating humour, you can't miss as long as your self-confident. If she walks then consider yourself lucky you got out early and move on.

Hope this helps, good luck.

[dragonfly6516]

I'm almost 28, and MOST of my Boyfriend have been 2-5 years younger than me and had neither a job or car. I had FUN with them and was HAPPY! I liked younger guys because I could act like a kid too, and them not having a job to go to and always ready to get out of the house and go at any time only added to the adventure of it all.

[txbabygirl19]

Just because you have no car, and live at home, and have a disability does not mean you can't/won't get a girlfriend lol. When it comes time to want or need to explain to a girl I'm sure won't mind... not all girls are bitches:)

[HidingMyHeart]

If she can't deal with you not being able to drive then she's not worth the worries

[Subotai]

thanks

[Mjouy]

Ironically I'm in a similar situation 20 No car I was laid off and helped mom pay went and now have no job. Its not a big factor of marking you off as ondateable but it its a reason sadly to some girls. A lot of girls are very materialistic so..Not much I can say bout that lol. On the other hand I also know what its like not being as confident due to weight problems when I was 14 I weighed 340 pounds and I lost all that weight and still have a low self esteem but its something I'm working on I know IM a good person with a solid heart and I'm not gunna let sh*t I can't control get away of my life and having fun with it you know?

[Anonymous]

I've never even had a girlfriend, and I've had a car since I was 18

[CT_CD]

Yes.