Is "treat others how you would like being treated" a worthless teaching?

[Anonymous]

I've been doing that for so long. My parents raised me to be a well mannered child. I was taught that being decent gets you kindness in return. I'm about to give up their teachings.
As a kid, I got bullied a lot just for being shy and "too sweet" (that's what the bullies said). I got scammed by an ex boyfriend for money. I asked why and his reply "why not, your rare but easy to fool."
My last straw:
2 years ago I helped a female beggar that told me a very sad story about her life and being abandoned by her family. I gave her $300. Then an hour later, not only do I see that same woman in other clothes but overheard her talking bad about me with her friend about how I was one of the most naive person ever. Then she added the words "I'm telling you she's a rare breed"
I had it with people. Nowadays I've abandoned several old fashioned teachings, became cheap and put myself first more times. Is being a decent person and treats others well worthless in this time?

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And here I am wondering what on earth I ever did to get poor treatment. When I was all giving, they all took advantage, scammed or lied to me.
When I started becoming meaner and tough, people back off.

[Anonymous]

no but you do have to remember something humans are scumbags they are the scum of the earth lowest of the low bottom of the barrel and the sooner you understand this the easier and better you'll grasp the reality of things. also people in my state they are extremely cold hearted and vicious and i would pour gasoline on them if they were on fire just so they would burn more. with that being said you have to keep your money for to yourself and never lend it out to anyone except for well known and reputable charitable organizations that will help and benefit mankind. and you could also donate used items to your local shelter or thrift store. also you can treat others the way you want to be treated but just keep your guard up around people also. just because you treat someone nice doesn't mean you need to be a pushover or a doormat for other people either. you can treat other people the way you want to be treated but consider it as a double edged sword being on guard for anyone who could try to backstab you or double cross you some way or some how. it's a fine line to walk basically by showing kindness and respect but at the same time not letting someone walk all over you either

[Opinion Owner]

just don't let this fucked up society change who you really are

[Oigit]

You should always trust your gut and your trust, respect should always be earned. I think some people are taught that saying but not taught that there are exceptions to it. That is why it becomes more of a issue then anything. Simply because it puts you in a situation where you are dealing with people thinking that everything is sun shine and rainbows and they will not mistreat you. Also I think a people need to be told that if people threat you bad, give it right back to them and make it worse. Simply because some people don't seem to get it unless you do.

[skyeee_]

you're a very kind person. but bear in mind, you can't help literally everyone on earth because you never know if they take advantage of you. don't stick so much to the quote that you forget about your own happiness.

[PrettyPriya]

No, it is certainly not a waste of time. It means you are a good person. Sure, it is easy to look at all the negative experiences compared to the positive impacts you have made.

[Playboy2424]

You're too positive person.

[MCheetah]

No, it's not worthless. But it is oversimplified.
I abide by he saying "Treat others greater or worse in proportion to how they treat you." I'm super loyal and respectful to the good people and the biggest asshole and enemy to the bad people. I enhance what I'm given and give it back double. So, I'm a human Wobbuffet.

Also, I would've punched that female beggar in the mouth.

[Chris90871]

It's a good rule to live by.
It isn't supposed to be about giving people things or allowing yourself to be used.
"Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you" is more about not hurting people and
having empathy.
You can get rid of your naive behaviour, while also treating others respectfully as you would want to be treated.

[Citizenkirk]

You need to learn the distinction between being polite and being gullible. There is a line between the two that is well defined, that enables you to be polite, while taking a firm hand with those that would take advantage of you. Treating others as you would have them treat you, it's not a guarantee of kindness, it is a leap of faith that you must take if you honestly want to be treated with kindness.

[jshm2]

No. You are naive and daft, hence dont understand the sentiment, only the words.

"Treat others as you want to be treated" does not mean go all out and help everyone. Quite the opposite. It means be a civilised, as it costs nothing.

[ThatOutréLife]

That teaching specifically is worth about as much as a grain of sand in the Sahara in my experience. Definitely drop that one, or at least stop sticking to it so hard y'know?

[Staximus]

There's nothing wrong with having a kind heart, but you have to protect yourself from opportunists, scam artists, and predatory people. Not everybody is a good person. Be on your guard.

[Playboy2424]

This is the only line I never believe in life..
Just bkoz you're good it's doesn't mean world good to you. Don't listen this fake one liner.

[Waldoe]

being "Kind" does not mean being "foolish". You are allowed to say "No" if you think you are being "scammed". use discretion, don't be a sucker

[In_Trance]

it's worthless if it's taught and nobody does it

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Treat them better