Can you take a hint? If someone doesn't want to be bothered w/ you can you tell? If so what would you do?

[ZenJen444]

So the lonely neighbor that gossips and is full of drama has been sent to spam box. I didn't respond to her text yesterday and now today i get a spam alert of her texting me at 7am saying ,"good morning." At this point I don't get what she doesn't get cause if it were me I would never beg anyone to talk to me

I can take a hint and would no longer speak to that person

No , I can't take a hint. You have to bluntly tell me to go away

Other

[Monalisa77]

It depends who it is, if its another girl doing it i don't bother, but since my crush been avoiding me im finding it hard to ignore him and struggling as to why he's suddenly acting like this when we were friendly before, but generally im very good at facial expressions and can tell when someone doesn't like me

[SecretsofKB]

If I'm really good at one thing and one thing only, it is picking up on social cues. I can tell almost immediately when someone wants to be left alone or wants me to takl to them.

I'm very conscious of other people's moods and usually act accordingly.

[Bob92220]

Since you are good at picking up on social cues, I was hoping I could ask you this question. When I write to a woman whom I'm interested in, usually several paragraphs, she only responds with one or two words, such as, "That's great!" or "Cool!" or "Okay, I understand." etc. I understand that if she isn't interested she won't write back. So what does this mean?

[SecretsofKB]

@Bob92220 I still think this means she isn't interested in you or at the very least, what you're talking about. She doesn't sound very engaged in your conversation.

[Bob92220]

With this particular girl, I emailed her and apologized for disturbing her because she must be really busy since her emails are brief. She wrote back and said she is always happy to hear from me. This makes me even more confused. Are there people who like to receive emails but don't like writing back? It's like the person who loves to get presents but doesn't enjoy giving them out?

[TheVigilantOne]

If I’m talking to someone like I am now currently he hasn’t spoken to me in about 2-3 days so I’m now going to delete and un-friend him, I’m not going to sit here waiting for the scraps of your time, if people don’t talk to me then I just cut you out my life.

[ZenJen444]

Exactly, I would do the same

[EmbraceThePain]

You can do your best to be polite but there has to be a point where you just tell someone directly what's up.

[Anonymous]

Some people don’t pick up on nuances as well as others. Usually it’s something we improve upon with age. We can pick up on mannerisms, voice tone, how they respond, etc. However some people are so in their own heads they don’t take time to notice how people are reacting to them.

Given this is your neighbor this is going to be tough. You will run into her again. I do not recommend completely ignoring her but it short and sweet. If she keeps talking your ear off then tell her you need to be somewhere.

Personally I find it’s best to ventilate in a safe, private environment with someone you know who won’t get bored/annoyed with you problems. Then keep on a cheerful public face.

[ZenJen444]

She's not my neighbor neighbor. She lives a building over

[Opinion Owner]

Well I would just give her one liners as your response. I know how you feel about gossipers. I do not like them either.

[ZenJen444]

She's exhausting I sent her to spam

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah sometimes just need to draw the line.

My issue is some of these people need to here the hard truth load and clear to change and they almost never do. Just some tough love that they need to be more optimistic and/or many people don’t enjoy negativity.

[Summeroflove]

It depends on the situation. If I’m obviously being annoying. Then I can tell when I gone too far. Otherwise. Use your words nicely at first.

People know not to text me at certain times unless there is a emergency. If you call me at 3:30 and there isn’t a problem there is about to be one. Lmao.

I can’t stand people who can’t respect personal boundaries. But use your words first. Some people don’t mind being texted at 7 if they’re up at that time

[Telekinetic-Potato]

It depends. I can usually tell pretty quick, but sometimes people are quick to make judgements about you. If I feel like they think I'm attractive but they just have the wrong idea of my actual personality, I'll try to give them a chance to give me a chance.

That said, I don't really get interested in people who aren't interested in me. At least not anymore.

[red324]

I think it depends on the situation. Im pretty upfront with what I want from someone so if I feel you've been leading me on because you like the attention then I'm probably going to continue to bother you for a while on purpose. Paybacks a bitch.

[ZenJen444]

What does this have to do with leading anyone on? A sign of rejection is not leading anyone on

[MystiKaL]

If someone doesn't like me, respect me, or doesn't want to speak to me much, then I'll completely back off or cut them off.

I only want people in my life who respect me or want to know me at least.

[PetiteBabe64]

Yeah But I also possess The Authority to Know that If someone doesn’t want to be bothered mentioning that to them will make them say otherwise.

[ZenJen444]

Possess authority to know?🤣 what?

[Luopio27]

I faced rejection my whole life and now I dont give women the slightest chance to be even facebook friends. I also change jobs if I see a woman I like. I am protecting myself from a complete breakdown.

[BlueScorpio]

Yes, I can usually pick up on peoples vibes. I i ly speak to people I feel comfortable with anyway.

[Agape93]

In person I can tell and I'll stop contacting them. Online I can't because I can't hear their tones or see their faces enough to determine that.

[Belgie]

I'm terrible with hints but when you want me gone, I'm gone.

[Chelsdope0]

I can feel it but if I really like ‘‘em I make up excuses for their “actions” so sometimes they have to tell me.

[MysticDevice]

I can tell if someone isn't interested. In such case I won't just outright ignore them but I would stop flirting.

[TacosRAwesome]

I'm not the best at reading people but I easily understand rejection so once I no longer get a reply after a couple tries I don't bother.

[DarkWinterNights]

I think I can tell pretty accurately. When in doubt, assume they don’t want anything to do with you.

[Blackcupcake]

I definitely can… and in that case I would just back off lol

[TroyDT2]

I just smile, walk away, and ask another girl.

[Andres77]

I can take a hint but if it can’t wait then they’re gonna just have to listen.

[grega239]

I dont need to take a hint... I'll just assume ill be rejected and not even introduce myself.

[Anonymous]

I picked “Other”

Never approached a girl. Dont gave the guts for that.

[ZenJen444]

It has nothing to do with a specific gender or girlfriend this applies to anyone

[Ehjoh1]

It depends on which person but usually I can take a hint and I'll never speak to them again.