Have you ever gotten rude comments at work?

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I’m very shy and I think that extremely shy people might be the targets or are usually disliked by society. When I worked as a cashier I was told things like something’s not right in her head, that’s a big girl (weight wise), and stuff like that but now that I changed jobs it’s not any better and it kind of sucks because these are my people (hispanics) judging me yesterday they said that they should give me more work because I’m fat, on my first day I overheard the women talking about me saying that I had a face of an angry woman, and I heard a guy say that I had a masculine face. I don’t know basically I’m judged all my life at least now I’m stronger than I was before I don’t cry about comments anymore and at least when I see my body in the mirror sometimes I’ll feel pretty. But it’s just a bit crazy all these assumptions that I get just because I’m shy and struggle with face contact people have even said that I had mental problems as I was walking by in my job I just struggle with a lot of social anxiety. Sometimes I wonder if I did something wrong in my past life (if i have one) to deserve this and sometimes I just wish that i was “normal” (socially) and didn’t struggle with anxiety and shyness. At least I’m stronger.

ChiTown33 · Accepted Answer

Yeah, but I'm a smartass. So most people regret when they do. You Dawg me and I'll ridicule you unmercifully. 🤣

@xjayleenx I used to work at a convenience store when I was your age. People s*** on people in those positions because they think they can. The funny thing is they don't realize some of the people those places are not opposed to beating your ass if you push them past a point (as one of my co-workers showed a customer one night when he pushed him farther than he should've)🤣. I heard it to when I was your age. But this is your start not your finish. Most the people that bad mouthed me in the past I could crush now with my wallet. Stop taking these swipes to heart. Most of these people saying this s*** to you and, in earshot of you are trash. You just are taking it too much to heart to even realize what is saying it to you.

SnowedIn · Accepted Answer

I always have received rude comments, whether at my first job (deli and convenience store), the snack bar in high school, McDonald's, the Navy, or now in the private sector corporate world.

I always dealt with it one of three ways: it's personal (they don't like for whatever reason) and I don't care. It's not personal (they're a jerk, they're having a bad day, something else I can't control) and I don't care. Or, the way they said what they said was wrong or delivered badly/rudely, but was something that I could genuinely fix/had control over and could make me a better person or better at my job -- and those I took to heart.

VIVANT · Accepted Answer

Unbelievable. I can’t believe people are going out of their way to insult you. I’m sorry jay. There’s nothing wrong with you , you’re a great person. There’s definitely wrong with people being rude and searching for drama— it’s also incredibly dumb, you never know who you will need help from. and eventually you’re gonna meet people who appreciate your good qualities.

wow This makes me so mad mire do bc you are such a kind person. It’d be bad still but less bad at least, if you were an a&$hole.

Jay, You really have come a long way, you’re right way stronger 💪🏼💕

As for those tools, f#’em 🤨

LovingLoverReturned · Accepted Answer

Maybe they are jealous of you. Just look forward to the times you will spend woth peopel and animals you love or doing things you love.

I used to have S. A. D , maybe still a slight trace but mostly recovered.. couldn't look people on the eye and stuff. My spiritual group helped me.

dustybiker · Answer

When you are quiet people naturally think the worst of you. They don’t know what you are thinking. This is a self defense measure on their part. Their nasty comments take it further into showing who is worth knowing and who isn’t.
I would strike up friendly conversations with people who haven’t been snarky. Let them get to know you. Avoid the jerks who make assumptions.

Lulu897 · Answer

Yeah being shy can make you a target for people as they think your powerless and feel like they have more power over you if they believe you can’t defend yourself. Sadly my culture is similar people will always find something to pick on comment on judge make you feel bad , we can’t change what other people say and think about us we can’t control what happens around us we can only control how we respond and react

Pyrofox · Answer

It all comes down to how approachable and friendly you are.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No never but that's a part of the job being a cashier people are always so rude to them. What do you do in that situation?

alance99 · Answer

There is nothing wrong with you and you dont need to change your personality, people will always give negative comments no matter what you do in life and how you look, i would suggest you to try to answer back those negative comments 😊

Guardian45 · Answer

FnCK THEM AND ANYONE WHO LOOKS LIKE THEM! Gossips are EVERYWHERE! DON'T listen to those jackasses; you're still beautiful and adorable!

TallAnon · Answer

No and I would not accept it either. Someone would end up fired or at a hospital.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes when I did landscaping I had bullies.

douride2 · Answer

Yes I work in a male dominated work place.

Jennz6 · Answer

That’s terrible

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