How would you feel if your relationship, friendships, family, and job all fell apart within a short span of each other?
I had this happen about 8 years ago. I kicked out of a perfect living situation for asinine reason, my girlfriend dumped me 2 months later and treated me like I was less human, a few weeks later I found out I had health condition and a week after that I found my job was in peril. I had to tolerate working with a complete pos of shit. If I quit I wouldn’t be able to pay rent. I was raised to pay my own bills and wouldn’t ask for money from anybody.
I tried to be tough and optimistic on the outside. However I lost 13th in one month and felt like a zombie. Every day felt like I was crawling through molasses.
I had people making lots of stupid comments to “cheer up” and “man up” who didn’t know shit about what I was going through. But as a man I know things would have gone from bad to worse if I was open about all my problems.
I got a lot of help through church and private counseling. In retrospect I think a few domestic violence charges would have been worth it considering how some people talked to me at the time.
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I’d probably kill myself. I’m already falling in and out of not being emotionally okay and all that would push me over the edge for real 💀
It would feel really crappy and hard to get out of. Not that it’s the same exact thing, but I’m going through a similar situation right now. I’m ready to leave my job, I gave up on dating, and I put my friends in a bad situation, the other night. The only thing I can do is make sure I take care of my mental health and make things right by knowing my friends and family but also myself. Going to therapy soon, going to start applying for jobs soon, and will more on my actions.
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Shitty but I got over it. Now everything is good, things will get better.
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Muse eh?
Try this song by them, Knights of Cydonia Its about rising from defeat to get revenge !
https://www.youtube.com/embed/G_sBOsh-vyIAll you can do is move on & better yourself instead of wallowing in self pity. Maybe you’re better off now for it !
there's always another job. I’ve been laid off and started over 3x since 2009 & I’m better off then I was in 2009.
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They all already did... I went through a big mental struggle, it seemed like a midlife crises.. but got myself sorted out after 6 months.. Things are still not right yet but I can now handle the pain and struggles.. most of the time, anyways..
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I’m single and I haven’t been in many relationships so I wouldn’t feel anything. I don’t have any friends so losing friends wouldn’t bother me. If my family fell apart right now it is what it is and I wouldn’t care. It’s okay that I can work but my job is just a job. It wouldn’t bother me
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Not possible. I'm not in a relationship and have never been in a relationship. I never worry about my friends because I know they always be right there when they need me. My family always has my back. We're very tight. I'm self employed. So there's little chance my job falls apart. And if it did then I'd just go back to being retired. No problem.
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I'd be in a really shit situation if I lost my job as it gives me a sense of freedom. Away from the dog for peace. I also have a stable routine.
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This all happened to me in a space of 9 months. If it weren't for my baby, I would have ended things.
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I don't do well with change, if I'm not the one doing the change. So I'd probably be reserved, less social, maybe even a little depressed. Honestly, I don't know how long would it take me to go back on my feet.
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I'll jump of a cliff 🤗
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Depends. Long as I have my best friend, I'll manage. If I lost him too, I'd blow my brains out. A building cannot stand once the foundation is destroyed.
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Oof. Wouldn't exactly be the first time but I still haven't had it that bad.
It would suck for sure. Something like that just makes you want to sit and wilt away. But out of spite youjust keep on goin. -
Broken. I'd probably move to another country to start fresh.
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Like I was having a bad moment in time not a bad life. I’d claw my way back
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It would. be devastating. The story of Job comes to mind.
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sounds like me in 2015 where I attempted suicide but failed but since then i gradually picked up the pieces like the saying goes "what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger"
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They are the three pillars of most peoples lives. I have had two crumble. All three would be incredibly bad.
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When one door closes another opens, as they say it didn't happen to you, it happens for you.
always an opportunity just change your view of it all, look for the opportunity to grow -
I've been there, except for the family; that was already fractured. Wasn't a fan of the situation, but I grew a lot from it.
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That would suck. May lead to a little depression. I’d need some downtime before restarting
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I think it’s depends on how they fell apart.
And which order as well.
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