How did your life pan out?

[Peanutbutter1221]

I had my life planned and I knew exactly what I wanted at which timeline... from finding a love partner to marriage to starting a family to buying my own house and getting ahead at work in the way I wanted it... even my holiday plans aren't working out

but here I am living the exact opposite life and looking for some hope that eventually things work out

Has this ever happened to you that everything is just suddenly going south and how did you get through

Especially if you could share your story in details of what you wanted and how things went south then eventually things worked out

I would appreciate it

[Anonymous]

I wanted to get married, have a family of my own. Own my own home. Even make some friends.

Here I am at 37. A single mum, no partner, no friends, no family, don't own my own home.

Family and I fell out soon after I gave birth, because my sisters ruined my baby birth photos and my birthing experience. One of them also cut my baby's umbilical cord, robbing me the chance of being able to do this myself, and for months they have been laughing about what they done.

My baby's dad and I fell out because I ashamedly admit I was emotionally abusive towards him, but didn't know this until he ended things and told me after I fell pregnant.

I grew up my entire life being a loner. Sure I made one friend here and there while in school, but the very moment we moved up a grade, they met new people and became friends with them and let me behind. Probably didn't help that I was never allowed to hang out with them after school, because I had to come home straight from school or I was punished.

[Peanutbutter1221]

I am so sorry about that

I've also had a tough life growing up and feel like the suffering just doesn't end
The most important things are taken away from me

How do you deal with all this

[Drumlin2001]

I never had a plan. I suppose I always thought I'd end up with a steady office job (which i have). Never aspired to the risk of being self employed.
From my early teens I knew I had an issue with women, especially ohysocal intimacy. Like an extreme shyness, feeling inadequate, that they'd reject or belittle me. Whilst I wanted a family with kids it never felt achievable. At 35 I was still a virgin, had never even had a kiss.
A dark cloud hung over me for a couple of decades. Then I decided I'd reached an end point and reached out for help. That lead me to being able to open it and trust people, especially women. By 40, I was engaged with 2 beautiful kids. I have a family home we plan to stay in for life.
Life has ups and downs, you have to learn to roll with it. And the one thing I learnt, nobody will change it for you. If you want it to change be proactive and make it change

[jamesgoldman]

I wanted a car, a house a family and money

I can't drive, fathom ever buying a house, nobody likes me and I am okay but nowhere close to rich
Jewellery is the only thing that has prettyuvh worked out beyond how much value is involved but it's quality at least

[ibodi]

It is very hard for me too. I plan to buy a second house but dont know how to live phsically. I mean you plan there are still problems in details that should be careful

Like this house old fashion but nice landscape.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/FC6u63X5Xm0

[Anonymous]

Just killing time with a jar of Peanut Butter all day for last few years