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Perhaps women aren't just shy and submissive in dating, perhaps they too are cowards, just like a lot of men in society?

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Perhaps women aren't just shy and submissive in dating, perhaps they too are cowards, just like a lot of men in society?

I'll stress that whilst this is mostly about women (being a man), the things I wanna talk about are universal...

The dating game...

I'm a big man, always working to improve myself physically, mentally, emotionally and all the other cliches. I fight with my fists and gut, have strong principles due to a relatively tough life, morals, pride; I'm told on occasion despite my very long hair and beard that I'm very handsome... I'm also told that being nearly 300lbs with a couple tatts, "looking like a biker", that I look "intimidating"... Society being what it is and valuing things like university degrees, and actually being able to string an "intellectual" sentence together, apparently only makes people like me that bit more unbearable.

Other men who don't know me are often intimidated/challenged by me, I know a ton of people but feel I have few friends because of this. I'm tired of dealing with weak, insecure, jealous, malicious, spineless people. These people just want to see you burn, not because your bad, not even because they dislike you for being you, but because they feel you have superior qualities to them that they aren't prepared to work towards themselves.

Weak people who've never struggled much in life always have this degenerate sense of entitlement, that gets broken when someone who has grown from struggle comes along that outshines them in some way - and like I said especially when this person never stops trying to improve themselves, never settling for any sense of mediocrity... When the weakling does. It acts as an insult to the weak person.

Perhaps women aren't just shy and submissive in dating, perhaps they too are cowards, just like a lot of men in society?

So what has any of this got to do with dating, or women you might ask? EVERYTHING!

I've never struggled in catching those initial glances from women, or that witty small talk that cracks a laugh out of them, or chatting up that barmaid or cashier or whatever. But as I said about the males (don't really like using the term men for most in modern society, by and large we aren't) who get intimidated or standoffish with me, who want to undermine me, these same women who are attracted to me, who do the usual rigmarole of getting shy or *intimidated* by me, going coy and sometimes resorting to certain flirty mind games, only reminds me of the cowardice that I speak of in men. Especially when I wish to escalate things to sex and/or relationships...

Now you'll probably scream at your screen calling me a retard; "BUT DUUUUDE WHEN A GIRL GETS SHY AND SHIIET IT MEANS SHE'S INTO YOU 😳!!". Correct, and at first to make a girl blush and go all awkward as I have done many times, is always taken by me as quite a big compliment! However, where this all gets VERY tricky for me is once we start getting to know each other beyond my tool getting clamped by her kegel muscles...

Just like how other males often get threatened by me, the women I've been with before had basically suffered a similar reaction. Whilst they've liked me, wanted me, they would harm themselves instead. Their low(er) self esteems, their own weaknesses (like the males), their irrational fears that I was too good for them, that I could have any one I wanted, that I knew their attention/validation seeking mind games like the back of my hand... Would just make them crumble and fade away.

Where I get angry is that like I've already explained, I've had in some ways a tough life (no need to explain here nor am I looking for sympathy), this year has also been my worst in a while with two family deaths in two months, having hospitalised drunk idiots in self defence (ironically due to the fact they were worried their women were eyeing me) and so on... Stress levels are high, my patience for people and their shit is nill, a man like me needs to be around straight laced, forward-pushing people!

If I could ever see these previous girls again, and any chicks reading this here will probably say the same, in that I would be accused of not having given them enough attention. But let me ask this;

* I FIND IT HARD ENOUGH TO TRUST PEOPLE AT ANY LENGTH! HOW AM I MEANT TO OPEN UP TO WOMEN WHEN I HAVE TO COMPETE WITH A SOCIETY FILL OF COWARDS, LET ALONE THE MIND FUCKERY OF INSECURE LITTLE GIRLS???!!! *

Perhaps women aren't just shy and submissive in dating, perhaps they too are cowards, just like a lot of men in society?

I digress... The greater irony is that a man like me has a whole lot of Mc'Lovin in him to give, I just don't bow down to the cuckoldery of pandering to every insane, inane and insecurity/irrationally driven demands of insecure and weak women. But due to a life of fighting (and still ongoing), as damn young as I am I'm weary and "battle hardened" by life so to speak. It takes me a while to open up and any sign of distrustful behaviour and I shut up shop. No time or willingness to deal with unecessary baggage.

What's driven me to splurge this shit is that yesterday I bumped into a chick I once asked out after a long while of her being a typical shy girl, she had/has the same boyfriend now that she had to say no to me on the basis of. This was a long time ago and even when I gave her an extra chance to say yes (when she really wanted to, too) and despite the boyfriend being real (long distance), she used it thinking she could ramp up the chase. Months later after summer holidays she started flirting with me. I shrugged her off, she spent another year trying to gain my attention through the "coy" ways, and got upset when I was dating other girls. We never hit it off...

Yesterday was the last straw for me, after a slew of girls who all have been "intimidated" and "shy" and "unsure" I liked them, and "finding me too mysterious"... I then see this girl with her friends and boyfriend at a party, this guy obviously new about me despite being complete strangers to one another. He displayed the same weak characteristics I'd expect from a modern, emasculated and deracinated male... This passive aggressive nothingness that comes with a slight glance over at me, grabbing "his" girl by the waist, in an attempt at asserting a flawed sense of "dominance" that reeked only of weakness and insecurity....

This chick had such a sorrowful face on her, staring at me with sadness... She obviously is not happy with what she's got, and yet was too much a coward to end it, all in the name of being a good moral girl no doubt. If she's been pining over what could have been then that's her fault. Same goes to all you women out there, and the men!!!!!

Perhaps women aren't just shy and submissive in dating, perhaps they too are cowards, just like a lot of men in society?

All in all I've dated some of the hottest women out there, and even then I've had this reaction or similar story, even from girls confident enough to approach a big scary man like me.

It's time men and women woke up and smelt the rotten coffee, grow some balls and take life by the fucking balls.

Perhaps women aren't just shy and submissive in dating, perhaps they too are cowards, just like a lot of men in society?
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