My question to you:
How do you feel about being told "I'm the only one that wants you" instead of "They don't know what they're missing, I'm so glad to have you"...
INTRODUCTION
What is a back handed compliment? What is backhanded love?
-Back handed compliment: An insult disguised as a compliment; or a compliment that unintentionally has an insulting undertone, either using irony or sarcasm.
-Back handed love: Insults disguised in expressions of love
Ex: "You look so beautiful with makeup on" :
intentional insult? or unintentional?, I mean what if you never wear makeup & your friends see you in it for the first time?
Ex: "I didn't expect you to get the job, congratulations!"
intentional insult? or unintentional? What if you both had already discussed that you're boss probably had someone else in mind?
Ex: "Babe I know you've been threatening to leave... but you're not really what most men want, the dating world is cold, you won't find anyone out there who'll love you like I do.
Intentional insult? or just telling it how it is...
You aren't perfect, I'm not perfect we've all had our moments of "OOPS! that did not come out the way I meant it to" SO, how do we differentiate between someone who just inserted the wrong sentence & someone who likes a little bit of salty with their sweet when giving out compliments? How do we differentiate between someone who loves us and doesn't want to sugarcoat the realities of life & someone who is secretly rating you based on how THEY themselves feel about you, while covering it with saying that's how EVERYONE see's you? Furthermore, how are others opinions of you relevant to your relationship?
IS THIS LOVE?
@AdmiralBailey's My Take
If you haven't already read @AdmiralBailey's my take "5 Reasons Why I Only Want To Marry A Black Woman" 5 Reasons Why I Only Want to Marry a Black Woman
The title is self explanatory, he lists his reasons for wanting to marry a black woman, he also hints that he's controversial for his criticism of black women, he explains that when you love someone you call them out & you hold them accountable for their actions because you want them to improve, this is a good point, YES we should be trying our best to help the ones we care about by pointing out the wrongs they do (respectfully).
I'm not familiar with his account so I haven't seen his controversial stuff, HOWEVER... while scrolling through the comments I saw one he left saying (not the exact quote) "Black women hate black men because black men can date who they want however black women are option-less there for they should stick to black men"
BW, are you really buying this? Is this really the best you can do? Men who tell you they're worth more than you... who tell you they're the only ones that want you... typically it's an abusive person who tells their spouses "no one will date you but me, so I don't know where you think you're going" so what would you call these men who say it?
Someone who cares about you won't uphold the ideals of your enemies against you, Why are you being told "I'm the only one that wants you" instead of "They don't know what they're missing, I'm so glad to have you" Notice the difference?
FINAL THOUGHT
My point isn't for you to cuss & fight over those comments, because it would only help to paint you in a negative light, however you can question the status quo, remember high school musical? "STICK TO THE STUFF YOU KNOW"?
They were telling the jock who wanted to cook to stay in his lane, like, who does he think he is?LOOOOOOOOL, no one would buy or even try anything his hands touch, Just like Laura Ingraham said to LeBron James "Shutup & dribble".
By the way, you don't need the whole world to like, love, or want you, you are only one person therefore you only need one person at a time to respect & love you, THAT means that when someone tells you to stay NOT because he loves you but because he's your only option, you can tell him that there are 7 billion people in the world approximately 3.5 billion of them are males, & about 1.5 of those males are adults so out of about 1 billion, you can sure as hell leave these ones behind & find one who likes & respects you.
SUMMARY OF MY QUESTION TO YOU
How do you feel about being told "I'm the only one that wants you" instead of "They don't know what they're missing, I'm so glad to have you"...
Tough love, or back handed love...?
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
1Opinion
Black men have always been abusive, that's why I'm crazy. If you think his take is bad, that's the tip of the iceberg of what black women endure. And by the way a white guy with a good job is crushing on me hard as we speak, my ex was an army officer and he loved me deeply, so I am not buying that I am limited to men who call me ugly and whatever the hell else they want me to believe, great take anyway.
Yet you're option-less? The delusion is weird, even when the the non black male is right in front of them showing mutual attraction they still want to label her desperate, the issue is not calling out a desperate person, the issue is labeling a person desperate although the person is showing a mutual attraction to someone else, key word MUTUAL.
Take a look at the convo I'm having below, this guy is telling me that black women historically have been begging for white men... you know what that means right? It means he is one of the guys that believe the rape was consensual, that the prostitution after being freed was because BW had preferences for white men, not because they struggled & couldn't feed their fatherless children or mutually struggling jobless baby fathers, but because they lusted for white men... what else is "Turning down advances for 200 years" supposed to mean?
Oh Jesus fucking Christ. Here comes black chicks mischaracterizing me again. I'll say it myself so it can be documented. Women throughout the eons have practiced hypergamy. Whatever group is in a power play position is who they'll sleep with. I don't believe all of the mixed kids produced in slavery was by way of rape especially when black women had an incentive to have a mixed kid. They didn't have to work in the fields; they could go to college and even run for office. Why would anyone believe that it was just all rape; all the time.
Black men are weak baby and lazy, if black women are pitiful, it's because we've been given the worst men possible and we're expected to submit to them.
I agree. The reason I speak about black women is because you can say anything you want about black men and we just take it. You don't have to hear 'Yo daddy black'. Maybe your father was a fucked up nigga but black women never grant us that same courtesy. We have to hear about how black our mom is so she must have been this fantastic person.
@AdmiralBailey I never said black women are perfect, it's just that black men need to accept their share in the blame for what the community had become. On that note, I do not want those who don't want me, so never mistake me for one who cares about your dating preference.
@AdmiralBailey
Fantastic enough to feed and clothe over 70% of you on her own. I know it takes two to have a kid out of wedlock, absolutely not making excuses for the woman, the problem is ONE of these adults is more likely to man up and take care of the business she made than the other.
They're not doing it on their own. They literally have kids for welfare money, food stamps, child support. Black men pay the most child support and are more likely to pay on time than any other race. We're more married than black women. We have fewer children out of wedlock than black women and are the most active fathers when given the fair custody treatment. You Google all of it. Literally everything you said was a lie but I guarantee you won't take back anything you've said.
@AdmiralBailey You're the liar, who is having these children with black women? are they impregnating themselves? I could raise so many points but it will take too much energy and too much writing. We know what's going on in those communities, do you know how hard I had to fight to not be a perpetual victim of black men and a statistic? Black men need to leave us alone if we're so worthless and terrible, but they won't, I bet you they won't.
@AdmiralBailey
Oh, my bad it's the mom and the government, still missing the fathers though. & 92% of Biracial children with black fathers are also born out of wedlock and abandoned, the the non black mothers do it on their own too, what's the common denominator?
I think 40% of black men don't have any kids. That's almost half. Black chicks have a bunch of kids by the same guys over and over. The STD stats illustrate this. The study about biracial children you speak of wasn't even a study. It was a poll taken from random women who called into radio stations and answered through the internet. Unless you can find multiple reliable sources to back this stat I can't take it serious. I think what does make sense is if black men get married more then we have fewer children out of wedlock. Black fathers aren't missing. You refuse to Google any of my proofs. Admit that you're wrong or this convo ends.
@AdmiralBailey
What do biracial kids count as on government stats? what's their race on paper? You've provided no proofs, but I have to provide proof? What do you think this is? Lol this is not a conspiracy... how many black kids are motherless? The stats will show black men have less kids than black women because when the man denies his child he's not going to tell the government he has a kid... that's common sense.
If a woman has a child that means SOMEONE provided the sperm, the mom sticks around wtf is the mans excuse? What's with the delusion,
I said dating black women is optional for me and black women really have no options and this is why the girl will throw herself on a white man several years her junior. She is desperate. She doesn't see herself as a prize. Pretty girl. I know nothing of her other than that one comment but first impressions count. This quote was slightly taken out of context but people already know how I am and how I speak about black women.
The girl was replying to a white man who dates black women, how is that desperate? & In what ways was the quote taken out of context?
the whore said "I prefer white men". She didn't say I prefer handsome, gifted, talented, skinny, muscular, big dick, small dick, college educated, High School drop out white men. She just loves any white nigga. Does this not denote desperation?
No, she wasn't begging anyone for anything, she gave her preference just like you gave yours in the My Take. & How is what you said taken out of context?
By default it was taken out of context because I said it in dialogue. if you don't paste the whole conversation then that's out of context. It is begging because white men don't find black women attractive. It is begging when the receiving party has been turning down advances for 200 years.
So what else was said in the conversation that would have changed the context as I understood it? & that's my point, she was replying to a white man who dates black women, she wasn't begging anyone. White men on a whole don't have to like her, two opposite race adults who share the same attraction to each other is not begging, she was having a convo with a white guy who expressed that he liked black women.
& I don't know what history you speak of, can you provide some proof of the 200 years of begging?
They weren't having a conversation. He didn't even reply back to her. BEGGING. Letting a man who's several years younger than you know your dating preference for his race is desperate. How many older black women have I tried? A good handful and none of them were interested but they throw themselves at white men. Young or old. Black chicks loved having the masters mixed kid during slavery because that kid could actually grow up to be something in life. He could live in the house and go to college but the fully black child wasn't allow these luxuries. Black chicks also went to the supreme court and begged for the right to marry white men whilst black men were being hung in the street. This is why it's so ironic that this is a rare pairing now. These black hoes fought to marry white men and now white men want nothing to do with them.
PART ONE (I have to break this comment up because there is not enough character room)
You're projecting, although I wouldn't call you desperate for this because it was obviously just a playful joke, I can see that but when someone else does it (WHICH THE GIRL WHO COMMENTED DID NOT) she is a desperate hoe.
"BonnieBunny
BonnieBunny 7 Xper Age: 17
2d
Im black
0|1 0|0 REPLY
AdmiralBailey 7 Xper Age: 22
2d
marry me
REPLY
BonnieBunny 7 Xper Age: 17
1d
I'm sorry I'm already married to ᕦ ( ͡͡~͜ʖ ͡° ) ᕤ"
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PART TWO:
MementoMori_ 7 Xper Age: 23
2d
I'm white and since my last relationship with a black girl I don't think I will ever date white women again. Yes... "Once you go black, you'll never go back."
I used to tell her, "Once you go white you be sain' a'ight!" Yep, made that one up myself. Made her laugh every time. She prefers white men, I prefer black women. Go figure.
The only 1 of the 5 I really differ with you on is the first one. Well sort of differ anyway. We do have a lot in common. But not for the same reasons you talk about. I am from an all white upper middle class suburb and she is from a poverty stricken inner city ghetto. But somehow we DID have an amazing amount of things in common. Best relationship I have ever had. ... And the sex? Oh man... we were on FIRE. Couldn't get enough of each other. Man that's the stuff dreams are made of.
PART 3:
There was much more to his comment but it's too long, & the black lady replied "I prefer white men" and that's what you call desperate? she didn't ask for his number lol she didn't ask for a date... she commented her preference to a wm that said he doesn't think he'll go back to dating WW...
Put the shoe on the foot it fits, it made no sense to call her desperate.
PART FOUR:
Thanks to that white hoe, interracial dating is legal in the US, you should be glad, cause now if you decide to go with your other "options" you won't be lynched for it. That hoe didn't fight on her own as a single woman lol, her man fought with her as a team, he could have just kept her as his side piece so he could keep his status as a loyal to his race white man, but he didn't. Why so bitter about the older women that didn't want you... don't you have more options than them anyways?
PART FOUR:
I made a typo in part three
"Thanks to that white hoe, interracial dating is legal in the US, you should be glad"
It should say
"Thanks to that black hoe, interracial dating is legal in the US, you should be glad"
because I get turned down by one demographic this means I don't have other options?
I'm more in the business of showcasing what's wrong with black chicks than actually being 100% logical. My goal is to move pieces; block and frustrate the opponent.
Did you see the girls age? Homegirl is 17. I'm obviously joking.
Not for nothing but he's not with the black girl anymore. Black chicks just can't keep a man.
"because I get turned down by one demographic this means I don't have other options?"
That was my question to you, why are you so hateful towards the demographic that turns you down when you say you have options?
#1 What I said concerned older black chicks. I do date black girls my age and younger. #2 I can talk about whatever I feel like and especially if it concerns my community. Black people look terrible. We're the worlds trash can. That's why we let Hispanics say nigga and throw a parade when Meghan Markle marries a white Prince even though she says she's not black and doesn't identify with black women.
I didn't say you couldn't I just asked what the point of being upset is if you're the one with the options and she doesn't have any... genuine question.
Women generally date older men. Wrong or right?
Historically yeah it seems so
Wouldn't it be a downgrade for a woman to date someone younger?
Not unless he himself is a downgrade... what's your point
www.youtube.com/watch
I'd rather date this... black chicks are bad people
By all means, go ahead black man, I'd use the other name but I don't want to be banned or reported, and yaaas honey, yaaaaas, Bretman his hot but I don't think he'll really want to be with you.
Why is Bretman in the thumbnail but this guy is in the video, both of you make a great match.