1. Men seek honesty
Men want to trust their partners and they want that trust reciprocated. If you ever think to yourself that there is something you don't really want to say, and he doesn't really need to know, or it's really none of his business... you are already aware of the fact on some level you are avoiding the truth.
Know yourself and your intentions. You have to be honest with yourself first before you can be truly honest with a man. Within society today, especially with social media, there are a lot of harmful influences being projected on us. These influences do not truly reflect who we are, even when we can relate to them on certain levels. If your inner voice is telling you to not trust your man with information, either because its none of his business, he doesn't need to know, or because you fear what he will think, then take a moment to reflect on that. It's important that you ask yourself if that is who you really are, and where these feelings of mistrust or fear of vulnerability is really come from. Chances are it are true to yourself in this way you will more than likely be honest with those you choose to be around.
2. Men Don't want to be controlled
Many women tend to think they can change a man. Even when it's not a concision or deliberate thought, they still tend to think a man should be willing to change. This is a very commonly held, but misguided belief. If he is a good and right man for you, what would you need to change?
Remember no matter how connected you may feel to someone, you will always be two separate people. Even when your partner does not see things the same way as you, remind yourself that they are still a sovereign person by their own right and that they are entitled to view the world from a different preceptive as you.
Once you accept this reality then you should be more accepting of your partner for who they are, and not for who you want them to be... and in this way you can do the same for yourself.
3. Men want secure partners.
Men want women who are secure about who they are. When men start to feel that a woman is projecting their own insecurities on to them, men become very uncomfortable. Men do not want to have to be made to feel a certain way other than how they honestly feel.
Bottom line on is people feel the way they feel about things. They have to take responsibility for their own feelings. Men can relate to a feeling, they empathize with a feeling, they can be supportive, sensitive and caring... but they are not going to experience your feelings on the same level as you do.
4. Men want to be accepted for who they are.
Good men from a young age are taught to love and charism women. Honestly, it's in the DNA, we want to do that for someone special. But at the same time, we want to be respected and treated in the same way we respect and treat women.
I think it starts at a young with our mothers. For men, our mothers are the first love of our lives. But mothers are demanding disciplinaries, but at the same time caring and loving. Most men learn to accept a degree of heartache from our mothers, because in the end we want to make our mother happy. At some point in time every mother realizes that her little boy has grown up and become a man. At that point the dynamics of the relationship changes, and your mothers become our greatest supporters and protectors.
By the time we meet our someone special in life we are who we are. We want to be accepted for that, even if we are required to take a degree of crap of heartache because of it. We accept that on some level and are forgiving of it. So never take it for granted, or underestimate how forgiving a man really is. Because you will never really know or appreciate how much we sacrifice in our relationships.
5. Men want commitment, fidelity and clear communication.
Men tend to be more direct and straight forward with women, and when they are not women know it pretty quickly. There is no fooling a woman, and most men know that. But women tend to not respect that, or underestimate how much a man is aware of, even when he doesn't know it, he feels it. When you leave things unsaid, ambiguous or otherwise unclear or opened ... well it's a turn off. If you love and trust your man, then clearly state what is you want and expect.
If you do not know what you want, then don't except a man to know either. At the root of a true commitment is an emotional bond based upon trust. When you are not clear about what is you want or expect, it creates doubt that leads to mistrust. Instead of being overly critical or quick to frustration we should aim to be vulnerable with our partners in exposing what it is we are truly thinking and feeling.
“I miss you when you work all the time," or "I feel less attracted to you, when you try to control what we do together.” These honest, direct statements may feel uncomfortable at times, but they come from a place of vulnerability and openness that can actually lead to more closeness, intimacy and commitment through communication.
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