it's not so much boycotting as it is abiding their time and vetting their partners properly
many men make the mistake of falling in love too quickly, rolling out the red carpet for her, endless praise and compliments, defending her bad behavior, tolerating disrespect and learn these lessons the hard way
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It's just too hard. Girls have it way easier. I'm not opting out, but I totally see why many guys do. Every girl is surrounded by so many guys trying to have sex with them, it's the exact opposite for us. I have to hit on every girl I see and only a few give me a chance and they're not the ones I really like.
I know and with dating sites its way easier for women and you guys have to reach out to any and all you see in hopes for a response.. its screwed up. I have lots of guy friends and this is becoming a trend that I'm pretty dumbfounded about.. but learning quickly
As a guy that yearns for a long-term, committed relationship, the same thing applies for women. It's not exclusive to men. Everyone seems to just date around without consequence these days. I couldn't do it. I have no idea how so many others can.
Part of me wishes I could, like if I could just pick a good looking girl off the street and date her for a while, not get too attached, then break-up without being too hurt, or causing her much hurt, if any. Then on to the next. But that's just not how I am I guess.
I think people are seeing a lot of pressures on a lot of fronts. I wouldn't say, for any guys who are doing this, that it's all just "women these days".
Good focus on your work and change the world. Men need to work and used to be the main focus. Now we have to work, cook, clean, be sensitive, never fight back, bow down to the queens. We don't remember great artist for the women they choose. We remember their art
I can't speak for everyone, but I usually choose to stay away from attachments unless I ABSOLUTELY cannot help it on any circumstances because of the behaviour I've seen in girls lately, it's like playing with fire, it seems incredibly rare to come across a girl with her morals intact.
It is hard work and not always fun/easy. No one ever tells you that. I am not opting out so perhaps I am not "normal" but I am waiting for just the right girl. Not interested in settling.
The failure isn't the feelings it's the reality that feelings and commitment aren't actually connected. You can be committed to people you've no real feelings for and have feelings for people you'll never really commit to.
The ones that are actually worth pursuing as snobby, and have a stick up their asses... the ones that have nothing going for them have nothing going for them and are undesirable.
@linkywinky yea, but thats not a good way of doing it... you just upped the notch a little. You made the chase a little more interesting. Forget ego... you just opened pandora's box lol
@JackKerouac77 I had to pass downtime somehow with PSN being down. I couldn't very well go out in public since I was home "sick" from work. Don't let it get to y'all, I've shown a good amount of people attention. ;)
The brotherhood is always here in your time of need. Lawyers on call, therapists on speed dial, scotch on the rocks and weed by the case. Whatever your problem is we're ready to remedy.
Wow.. You guys don't know how to handle a girl like @linkywinky you are aiming for complicated and she's simple lol... its sad. calling in @JackKerouac77
@JackKerouac77 @linkywinky can't handle this, but so we don't find out, we'd rather not start. so its not a fight. No one wants to lose lose. Im just commending the fire she's got.
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it's not so much boycotting as it is abiding their time and vetting their partners properly
many men make the mistake of falling in love too quickly, rolling out the red carpet for her, endless praise and compliments, defending her bad behavior, tolerating disrespect and learn these lessons the hard way
It's just too hard. Girls have it way easier. I'm not opting out, but I totally see why many guys do. Every girl is surrounded by so many guys trying to have sex with them, it's the exact opposite for us. I have to hit on every girl I see and only a few give me a chance and they're not the ones I really like.
I know and with dating sites its way easier for women and you guys have to reach out to any and all you see in hopes for a response.. its screwed up. I have lots of guy friends and this is becoming a trend that I'm pretty dumbfounded about.. but learning quickly
As a guy that yearns for a long-term, committed relationship, the same thing applies for women. It's not exclusive to men. Everyone seems to just date around without consequence these days. I couldn't do it. I have no idea how so many others can.
Lol its how some people cope I guess.š
Part of me wishes I could, like if I could just pick a good looking girl off the street and date her for a while, not get too attached, then break-up without being too hurt, or causing her much hurt, if any. Then on to the next. But that's just not how I am I guess.
I think people are seeing a lot of pressures on a lot of fronts. I wouldn't say, for any guys who are doing this, that it's all just "women these days".
Its definitely a two way street.. men are complicated confusing little puzzles too
We do our best :)
I honestly don't really care. I don't have enough money/my shit together for a relationship anyways. Gonna create art until I pass out and die
Been there, done that. Always time to get tied down.
Art is a noble activity. Good for you.
@evenlift
I'm glad you agree! :)
Good focus on your work and change the world. Men need to work and used to be the main focus. Now we have to work, cook, clean, be sensitive, never fight back, bow down to the queens. We don't remember great artist for the women they choose. We remember their art
I can't speak for everyone, but I usually choose to stay away from attachments unless I ABSOLUTELY cannot help it on any circumstances because of the behaviour I've seen in girls lately, it's like playing with fire, it seems incredibly rare to come across a girl with her morals intact.
Sadly women are āliberatedā when it benefits them, and ātraditionalā when it benefit them.
Modern social media also gives them a false idea of who to date. All want the 1% of elite men.
The 1% then naturally take advantage of this. Consumerism kills off the rest of romance.
MRN are simple creatures. We just donāt want the debt, the hassle, and emotional baggage.
We just walk away.
It is hard work and not always fun/easy. No one ever tells you that. I am not opting out so perhaps I am not "normal" but I am waiting for just the right girl. Not interested in settling.
Good for you.. settle, wait just dont walk away
Never.
Um... never will I walk away.
It's not you. It's just easier. Easier is smarter. All the sex and cuddling and none of the commitment.
sex complicates things in the long run. Someone is gonna catch feelings eventually then all hell breaks loose
The failure isn't the feelings it's the reality that feelings and commitment aren't actually connected. You can be committed to people you've no real feelings for and have feelings for people you'll never really commit to.
The ones that are actually worth pursuing as snobby, and have a stick up their asses... the ones that have nothing going for them have nothing going for them and are undesirable.
I wouldn't say all men are opting out of relationships. Some men still are interested in being with women.
That's refreshing
But I definitely wouldn't rush into marriage. I need to make sure that the woman for me is the One.
Relationships = bish + her problems
Freedom = many bishes + fun dates + hang whenever + casual sex + no emotional garbage
I'm all for relationships, I think someone fell for me recently. @linkywinky
you're just a plaything ;p
@linkywinky ohhh that hurtsss and here I thought we had something great forming
hahahahahhahah... I love that response @linkywinky
@Tdieseler someones gotta try and keep his ego in check. :p
@linkywinky yea, but thats not a good way of doing it... you just upped the notch a little. You made the chase a little more interesting. Forget ego... you just opened pandora's box lol
@Tdieseler dam right she did!
@linkywinky you will love me!
I've also noticed attention from her as well. What gives?
looool... i think @linkywinky is a playerette @JackKerouac77 hahaha.. go girl. Sorry guys..
@JackKerouac77 I'm just being me
@JackKerouac77 I had to pass downtime somehow with PSN being down. I couldn't very well go out in public since I was home "sick" from work. Don't let it get to y'all, I've shown a good amount of people attention. ;)
@linkywinky
WE LOVE YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU
@linkywinky how could you use me like that! ?
@JackKerouac77 I sense she's the new Harakiri. I may soon have to call upon the brotherhood!
The brotherhood is always here in your time of need. Lawyers on call, therapists on speed dial, scotch on the rocks and weed by the case. Whatever your problem is we're ready to remedy.
wait, hold on, @JackKerouac77 I want some weed and scotch!
Wow.. You guys don't know how to handle a girl like @linkywinky you are aiming for complicated and she's simple lol... its sad.
calling in
@JackKerouac77
oh shit, @Tdieseler, shots fired.
Yea... @linkywinky
@linkywinky soo you're saying you're a simple girl now?
@Tdieseler cmon mannn you're making me look bad here!
mm, I've always been simple.
@Tdieseler
Uh ohhhhhh!!! It's an internet fight!
Pass.
lol... sorry, if she's right, she's right. u guys have to step up a little.
@linykwinky well then... I just look like a complete dumbass don't I
@JackKerouac77 Keyboard Warriors!
@linkywinky
not a COMPLETE one.
@JackKerouac77 @linkywinky can't handle this, but so we don't find out, we'd rather not start. so its not a fight. No one wants to lose lose. Im just commending the fire she's got.
Girls got fire for sure. I'm not a firefighter, so I'll allow someone else with water to handle her.
Bomchickawowow!
Oh, that's a new one.
LOL @JackKerouac77 genius!
Relationships of jusany are kind are Straight up useless, irrelevant, stupid, absurd, foolish, For harebrained demented idiots and brainless bastards
Nonsense 🚮
For me I don't have happiness anymore and all my inspirations are gone.
You and me both buddy..
To many bad eggs. Can you blame them?
It's not worth it for men anymore
I see and I don't blame you guys
Really... it is not worth it. Wasting your time, energy and money on such a lost cause.
I'm with seler on this one he makes a good point.