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The best option would be a person whom you had developed feelings for AND who had the correct physical appearance.
If we measure your top happiness as 100%..
The closer you are to 100% the more satisfied you'll be, but of course he has to think the same way about you too.
I would only recommend finding someone else if you only had a small crush on him.
But if the person you are developing feelings for already is very important to you, then you should go for it.
A) because I find personality much more attractive, and ultimately a deal-breaker.
if after a while of being with them and getting to know them even better, you still can't find any sort of attraction to them and you can't get over the physical part, then you should cut it off because it isn't fair to them, or you.
but you should definitely give it a chance. oftentimes, the physical attraction can come after the personality attraction.
as I become attracted to someone's personality, they will be physically more attractive to me.
as far as body, I am willing to try to be attracted to a body type that isn't normally attractive to most people if I like them and start to develop feelings
You have to be attracted to the person. A great connection with someone makes people that we wouldn't normally be attracted to become attractive. Connection is the key here. That's why someone can be really hot, exactly what you want, yet you cannot hold a relationship with them as the rest of the connection isn't there, and visa versa.
I think that if ur developing feelings, then it wouldn't matter what they looked like? The feelings are already there so who cares, right?
But I also believe that if you feel you can't choose to be with them, for instance, as partners or lovers even, then its best you ignore those feelings, its all about extents in which people can tolerate.. Its not good to start a relationship of any sort that's uncomfortable for either person..
I'm open-minded. But if I am really not physically attracted to someone then chances are I like them more on a friend level. For me, physical intimacy and romantic feelings go hand in hand.
On the other hand, I have been attracted to many men who aren't exactly the picture of traditional aestheticism.
I have had situations like that before. Getting to know a girl and find out she has an awesome personality even though she isn't my type physically. I end up having fantasies about them usually because I can interact with them on a personal level. If one of them had asked me out I would definitely go for it. I mean, hard parts pretty much over if you know them already.
women are always saying men are shallow or pigs, but women are twice as bad, women who are barely above midgets, demand to date 6'6+ men, women who are overweight want men to have 6 pack abs,
all men want is for the girl to be pretty.
so who are the real shallow pigs...WOMEN!
Dude... calm down. wow.
Honestly, I don't think he's that out of line...and there is some truth to what he says.
You have got to be kidding me! The reason women are becoming more "shallow" is because if men can do it, so can we! If it's okay for men to want a woman with a certain cup size, a drop dead gorgeous face, specific hair and eye color, has to have flawless skin, must be of a certain height and the list goes on then why should we not do the same? It seems to me that you think it's okay for men to be extremely picky in what they want in a woman but God forbid we do that to men.
Calypso how can you possibly blame your own shallowness on others? That's just silly. Quantumdefender knows what he is talking about
Lol bellybuttonlint nice screen name. just noticed
Yaay for over-generalizations
Both sides have succumbed to the notions of the media (that what we are is not enough). We try to be what the other sex wants, even if we don't admit it. It's everybody's fault, but we have the opportunity to change that. Be nicer to one another, always pick out what you like about somebody etc. We can do it.
A man might want a pretty girl, but aren't there standards that usually come with prettiness? There are overweight men too and a lot of guys want a girl to be pretty when they themselves may be ugly so it goes both ways. You might not be 6'6 with six pack abs but it doesn't seem like your attitude is doing any favors either. Of course, If you are super unattractive obviously your options are going to be more limited. Do something about it and stop feeling sorry for yourself.
I agree classy!
You sound really misogynistic =/ I actually think that both sexes can be equally shallow and judgemental about looks, girls judge each other all the time and make comments about guys they see on Facebook, I'm ashamed to admit that I've done that before too, but guys also rate girls according to their looks, so we ALL do it... xxxxxxx
TheAristocrat0, I have a medical condition that, if I don't take medications every day, I will always suffer from acne on my face, back and shoulders and to so many men, that is one of the most unattractive things a woman can have even if it's something that cannot be helped. I know all too well what it's like to be judged by men who are extremely picky which is why I choose not to stoop that low as to become like that...
Judging from your posts, you are probably not a very attractive man yet you most likely think you deserve a supermodel by your side but it's not right for a woman who is not so attractive to have a man who's either attractive or tall or whatever turns them on by hers. It doesn't work that way. If you're both single then it's obvious as to why that is.
You're kidding right? I'm pretty sure classy and Calypso have already summed up what I want to say about this uneducated answer but there's something I want to add. I have NEVER in my life seen a hot guy date an ugly girl, but I have seen pretty girls date ugly-looking guys. Don't pretend you don't know what I'm talking about because it is fact, 100% true.
Wow.Feed the immature troll.Basing "statements" off of observation rather than facts is not exactly "smart" or a gg no re type of ordeal.Stating which gender is more shallow,is not something that can be proven with facts,as it differs by individual
Everybody is different and everything physically about them just makes them, THEM you know?
And if you start to develop feeling for them (which should be based on their personality) then physical traits won't matter as much to you if feelings develop. (:
Good luck and hope this helps! (:
Haha, don't judge me but if I start getting feelings for someone who is ugly, I pretend to hate them and separate myself from them completely. They start to think that I hate them, and leave me alone. Problem solved. But they have to be ASS-UGLY for that. Anyone who is average and above in the looks department is good for me.
This happens to me all the time. I can never get past the physical part though. I need to be attracted to someone to date them, otherwise I feel weird. I imagine some girls are okay with it, so don't let it turn you off at first. I mean, sometimes I can get past it if I am attracted to them a little, but in the long run if I don't like how they look what so ever, I can't get over it.
Yes I would. Because I'm happy being with that person. And with me when I am falling for someone I tend to find them more attractive. (Sorry if that doesn't make sense) Its like the things I didn't like before are the very things I start to like. And the more time I spend with the more physical attracted I get because they have charmed their way into me developing feelings for them.
Personality is what matter to me. :)
I am some what shallow.
I can't be with someone too short, or too tall.
I can't be with someone too skinny or too fat
I can't be with someone whose face I could not look at while talking.
I did vote A though... no one is perfect looking... and I get use to my bf... =)
To be honest, looks are the thing that attracts me at first. But once I truly know someones personality, that's the thing that wins me. But I guess overall it does help a lot if your attracted to the person. I guess I gota have that "physical attraction" I'm not saying he has to be a supermodel. But all in all I guess I want the total package looks+personality.
It is up to you. take it as far as you want and feel comfortable with. Flirting is not harmful but always be honest with yourself and with the other person, there is nothing more disastrous and hurtful (well, maybe a few things...) than been led on by someone. Please go as far as you want and be honest with the person if you realise the physical IS important to you. That way you will save heartache in the end and noone gets hurt.
Best wishes and luck coming your way.
Well... being a guy, I wouldn't develop feelings for a girl if I wasn't physically attracted to them in the first place.
You really shouldn't care about looks. You should like a person for their personality not their looks; that's kind of a shallow thing to do.
Women tend to like a man's personality and then their physical appearance. Where as men are the opposite.
no, I would not ignore the physical part cause no matter how nice you are and how good we get along, I want to be with someone that I can wake up to every morning and smile when I see his face. not someone I have to wake up to and say ewww.
Thats mean, but it made me laugh...lol
Lol, its not mean. its true though. you don't have to be super cute. every one has thier own taste. I just have to find you physically attractive. another person might think my man is ugly but to me I must find you cute to be with u.
Obviously the physicality must not bother you that much if you are developing feelings for the person. As long as those feelings are there, everything else is workable.
of course.. I mean the physical appearance is what make you turn around and say " oh maybe I like him\her" .. but if he's so awsome that you managed to develop feelings towards him despite the fact that you're not into his looks.. WOW